Re: ok it's time! how to overcome my black customer phobia
Black guys like me when they see my body but when I go on stage and don't shake or twerk it they seem bored. It was only like a couple weeks ago when these young black guys saw me on stage and came to the tip rail and sat down all excited.. and then when I was dancing in front of them I saw their faces (bored.. uninterested.. started texting) and I was really embarrassed. It bothered me for a few days after. I know it's hard to ignore customer's opinions!
Just be confident, know in your head that you are beautiful and maybe you just aren't what every customer is looking for. No big deal! :)
Re: ok it's time! how to overcome my black customer phobia
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Originally Posted by
TheWeirdOne
1. On my first week of dancing a black customer told me that black guys don't like girls with no booty.
2. I still subconsciously hear his words in my head when I'm considering approaching a black customer lets not even talk about groups of black men.
3. It really sucks because these men tend to tip well onstage and get a consistent number of dances.
4. I need my confidence back to approach all customers.
5. I'm petrified they will say another mean comment and embarrass me. It seems I attract Asians, whites, latinos and a few Indians sprinkled in there.
6. I hope this dsnt sound racist = )
Let's go down the list:
1. One customer can't speak for an entire race. He can only speak for himself... anything beyond that is just hot air.
2. If you haven't been approaching black customers... and you've been dancing for any amount of time... I'm willing to wager that you've been rejected by more NON-Black customers than Black customers... x > 1 Simple math. (It was only one guy!!!)
3. Black customers tip you well... that probably means they appreciate your booty and all of your other goodies just fine. Money talks.
4. You need to get over it and stop generalizing. It's an asinine comment made by some random dude... look at it for what it is.
5. I question your choice of words. :( "Petrified"... "Phobia".... come on! You need to see the comment above, #4, in my list. It's one guy's opinion. Don't let some random idiot have this much power over you. Furthermore, it's embarrassing that he said that ... but it's embarrassing for HIM. Not for you. He should be embarrassed that he said something so unequivocally stupid. Stop making things seem like some sort of monster movie. Black guys have varied tastes just like anyone else!
6. No comment...
Re: ok it's time! how to overcome my black customer phobia
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Originally Posted by
Nina_
I think you shouldn't make generalizations of a whole demographic of people just because of what one individual said. One black man does not speak for all black men so it's silly to have a 'phobia' of these men just because of what one man said. Men (and women) of all races are going to say stupid or mean things. If you attribute what they say to their race and assume the entire race thinks that way, you're going to have a phobia of everyone. That's my advice on helping you overcome your 'phobia' of black men.
As a stripper you shouldn't let the comments of others, especially just one person in general, ruin your outlook on money making or your confidence. Confidence is key, and you should re-evaluate your self-esteem if you let the comments of another person affect you so deeply.
This is true, but sadly life is a bit more cruel. For example public speaker and environmentalist Majora Carter is a black woman who has an advanced degree from Wesleyan University. She still lives in the S. Bronx where she grew up, determined to make her neighborhood better. Sadly, this isn't the archetypal model of most black women in America.
So I use the "stereotypes" as a guide, most black men don't like me, but I find the percent that does, is VERY into me, so that makes up for lack of quantity....also, they approach me if interested ALL THE TIME (awesomely) which most other demographics are shy to do.
Re: ok it's time! how to overcome my black customer phobia
I have been dancing for two years.. In my personal life I usually only date black/Hispanic men.. But when it comes to being in the club I hate dancing for both. I cant say it is a phobia, i just hate being excessively groped, so unless its an older man i typically just void them out like they are not even there..
Re: ok it's time! how to overcome my black customer phobia
Unexplained phenomenon has tapered off. Maybe it was a full moon who knows? There was a group of older foreign born blacks that came in. They spoke French. Very nice and respectful, generous tippers but no LD's.
Re: ok it's time! how to overcome my black customer phobia
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Originally Posted by
AubreyDallas
I have been dancing for two years.. In my personal life I usually only date black/Hispanic men.. But when it comes to being in the club I hate dancing for both. I cant say it is a phobia, i just hate being excessively groped, so unless its an older man i typically just void them out like they are not even there..
Because Hispanic/black men are the only ones who excessively grope women?? I danced with this older, middle-aged white guy a few weeks ago who used to be the principal of the high school my brother went to. He was educated, white, intelligent, etc. That asshole literally tried to full on finger-fuck me while I was dancing for him. White guys are just as bad as everyone else, sometimes even worse when it comes to groping...
Re: ok it's time! how to overcome my black customer phobia
I've discovered the common thread with my black customers: They all wear glasses. The MILF just pointed this out.
Re: ok it's time! how to overcome my black customer phobia
Wow, its 2014... I can't believe that these stereotypical statements are being made. Not all persons with a particular color of skin, whom you assume are part of a certain ethnic group have similar interests in what they find attractive, what music they like, how they would like for a stripper to dance or dress or anything else for that matter. The only customers you should write off are ones that you know don't spend money or who are disrespectful. Sad thing is I am not particularly criticizing you ladies; but in general our society (US, and I know other countries as well have this problem) has really got a ways to go- we should have more education than that.