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can someone please explain to me what is so sexy about the slapping of the ass?
Seriously I get this SO often, and I don't even have a big ass. I'm pretty tiny, 5'5, 107 lbs, 32A. I guess for my frame I have a large ass, but if you were to line me up with the girls in my club I would be on the low end.
Most of the time customers don't even ask, they just do it. It doesn't bother me as much as other things, as long as it's not like a really hard slap, but it's just weird to me and it annoys me that they don't ask. I've only ever had one guy do it outside of the club.
Is it some weird daddy thing? Or what is it?
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Men like asses, & I guess they like slappin' 'em?
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I can't explain it. Personally, I am not at all turned on by ass slapping. Maybe some guys are?
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I always wondered about that, and why some dancers slap their own.
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I just asked my boyfriend and he says he likes watching it jiggle and that when he slaps it he likes to be able to feel it... Maybe we chalk it up to weirdness?
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Some like seeing the goods handled, or handling it themselves
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Never understood that myself, or why some girls think it is sexy to smack their asses onstage. Now cupping or rubbing I can understand, but not smacking.
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I don't understand it either. Everytime I go to a strip club it seems like at least one of the dancers slaps my ass, please explain.
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I hate it, but I think it has to do with 'control' issues. I bet some guys would slap our faces if that was acceptable.
Since I started camming, I HEAR A LOT OF TWISTED FANTASIES FROM GUYS WHO WANT TO HURT WOMEN.
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safado
I don't understand it either. Everytime I go to a strip club it seems like at least one of the dancers slaps my ass, please explain.
^Really? At least it works both ways then!
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Couldn't help but think of this thread, tho it gets way into the darker motives for ass-slapping:
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audrey_k
Seriously I get this SO often, and I don't even have a big ass. I'm pretty tiny, 5'5, 107 lbs, 32A. I guess for my frame I have a large ass, but if you were to line me up with the girls in my club I would be on the low end.
Most of the time customers don't even ask, they just do it. It doesn't bother me as much as other things, as long as it's not like a really hard slap, but it's just weird to me and it annoys me that they don't ask. I've only ever had one guy do it outside of the club.
Is it some weird daddy thing? Or what is it?
I cannot explain it but I am into spanking and being spanked. It's just one of those kinks that you can't explain.
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hate it when girls at my club do it.. i think it looks kinda trashy...
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No idea why, at best, I find it silly.
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I think it's possible to watch 5 minutes of 5 different porn clips and thoroughly understand why men are attracted to slapping ass. The DISRESPECT of actually doing it to someone on stage without payment is fucking imbecile. I have planted my heel into 2 distinct customers for slapping my ass (and leaving a mark) on stage - I don't like it unprovoked; without permission, without a tip - but think about it. Men 18+ have pretty much been raised on highspeed internet (15 years ago it was released) and porn was a first sexual experience for a lot of them. (Related article / science tries to find a man who's never watched porn and can't) : http://gawker.com/5420211/scientist-...ched-porn-cant)
In porn, ass slapping is normal. Aren't strippers also a fantasy? I think a lot of men are more willing to delve into desires with a 'stripper' than a 'vanilla' lady they are dating.
In regards to primitive instinct - I think aggression and dominance does play a role, but possibly not much more than a man wanting to 'bang out' a lady. I think it is known anytime testosterone increases, so does aggression. Having learned manners, however, is not usually included in data :(
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^I've never had someone do it onstage, I would slap them right back, 3x as hard, in the face for that. Guys do it to me when I'm doing lap dances.
To me it just reminds me of my parents spanking me when I was younger and it kind of grosses me out a little bit.
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Holding a perfect little ass in the palm of my hand[with permission of course] =sexy
slapping, especially if it annoys the owner of said ass, not so much
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drake
I cannot explain it but I am into spanking and being spanked. It's just one of those kinks that you can't explain.
This. It's just a turn on for some guys, like how some are really into feet or smelling your hair or being dominated or whatever else. If you don't want them to do it, tell them you don't like it but that you LOVE when someone does xyz (insert whatever contact you find more acceptable) instead.
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i have a huge spanking kink, but no desire to have a customer spank me at all..that's fucking offensive.
idk why some girls spank themselves on stage, but i don't think that blaming them for customers doing it is right. lost of girls will slowly caress their breasts, touch their own asses, or play with their g string on stage but that doesn't mean customers can do it to them and they KNOW that!!! they know its disrespectful they simply don't care because they don't see dancers as normal humans who they should respect, and they're assholes
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shanna dior
This. It's just a turn on for some guys, like how some are really into feet or smelling your hair or being dominated or whatever else. If you don't want them to do it, tell them you don't like it but that you LOVE when someone does xyz (insert whatever contact you find more acceptable) instead.
Honestly I would rather have some guy spank me than try to finger me or touch my boobs... I literally had a guy pinch my nipples tonight. He did it once and I moved his hand and then he did it again and I told him he was hurting me and he needed to stop. Then he did it again (I normally would have kicked him to the curb after the second time but it was really bad last night so I thought hey, let's give him three strikes). I got REALLY pissed and ended the dance-- and he was so confused as to why I wasn't into it. Seriously, why would you do that? What woman wants to sit there and have her nipples pinched unless you're acting out some kind of s&m scenario? He was probably late fifties so it wasn't some 18 year-old who's had sex with one woman....
So, pinching my nipples vs slapping my ass? Definitely going to take the slapping my ass. I just thinks it's weird is all!
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Not sure anyone can explain why it's so sexy to slap someone's ass -- either you get it or you don't, I think (just as with any kink... there are plenty of kinks I don't get). I can just say, I fucking LOVE it! Totally sexy to me. That said, I don't go around slapping random girls' asses outside the strip club, and it wouldn't be acceptable behavior for me in the strip club (consent is goodness). But, if we do dances together, and your ass is cute, I'll eventually get around to asking you if I can indulge. And it's always a treat when a stripper claims to love it and likes a spanking.
I definitely don't get why so many girls think it's sexy to spank themselves on stage. I literally don't know a single guy who gets turned on by that.
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^I could name like five I've met in the club in the past week. There's a girl I work with who's always shaking/jiggling/slapping her ass and some guy ended up doing a $600 VIP with her just because he loved her slapping her ass on stage.
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OliveJardin
^Really? At least it works both ways then!
Yes 100% serious, it used to happen about 70% of the time but my regular started doing it to me about 2 months ago.
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Radius
definitely don't get why so many girls think it's sexy to spank themselves on stage. I literally don't know a single guy who gets turned on by that.
^I think it's just a "trend" that's developed over the years. It's pretty common place though. It can be playful if lightly done while caressing etc-but giving yourself a big red hand print on your ass isn't attractive lol (that's completely pointless unless requested or accidental).
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I think what shannordior and radius have mentioned about ass slapping as part of a fetish. The ass fetish and maybe in the s & m fetish too.
giggling, rubbing, and even smacking ass is not only arousing for some men but for some women too. I don't have a big ass but I find it a turn-on to have my ass giggle, massaged, etc. and sometime lightly smacked but that's only if I'm feeling you and it's done right. I don't have a problem with dancers smacking their own ass on stage but the customers smacking ass on stage is a no-no for me.
Some people aren't into it and customers would be much better off knowing if the dancer is cool with it before doing it.