Re: can someone please explain to me what is so sexy about the slapping of the ass?
Dancers in my neck of the woods don't do it very often. And at the higher end club that I frequent, I've seen it maybe once. It seems like more of an urban club thing?
Anyway when I did see it happen, it sort of broke the mood.
Re: can someone please explain to me what is so sexy about the slapping of the ass?
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audrey_k
Is it some weird daddy thing? Or what is it?
Me personally, I don't slap dancers in the ass, with the exception that some dancers have asked me to do it, and then, I'm not sure how hard to slap them, so I probably err on the side of wimpy slaps. I like to touch a dancer's ass, but I feel no inclination to slap it, nor would I take the chance of pissing off a dancer.
On the other hand, I do like to slap the ass of my GF during sex for several reasons: (1) I like her ass very much, (2) its part of "rough" sex, (3) its a dominant-submission thing, and (4) its a roleplaying thing - she's a naughty girl that needs some spanking.
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As far as nipple pinching and ass slapping and any other uncomfortable act goes...I think some men just have ideas of "what women like" in their heads and it hasn't occurred to them yet that women are actually unique individuals with varying tastes. Have you ever had sex with someone who starts doing something you don't like, and you look in their eyes and it's just obvious they fully believe you are WAY into it? That reminds me of some of the things men do at the strip club. Because they want to "please" me. They may do pinching/slapping/whatever because the last woman they had sex with liked it, or because every woman they've ever been with liked it, or because they watched a porn when they were 12 in which the actress pretended to like it, etc. And they think it's like changing the oil in your car...you just do these certain motions every time and it works. Ta da. It's stupid.
Now, for slapping in particular...I actually like it. In my real sex life, it feels really good when it jiggles. Kind of like a built in vibrator. The motion of it also works out kinks in my back and makes all my muscles feel very relaxed. Also the sting of it on my skin, if it's not too hard, is just pleasing. Similar to the kind of massage where they punch your back lightly. It's like pleasant pain. Again it has to be light...I'm not one of those people who likes to get the shit beat out of me for fun. If it's hard enough to leave a mark, it just hurts and is very UNsexy and reminds me of getting spanked as a child.
This does not apply in the club of course. If someone slaps my ass as I'm just walking by, that is NOT cool at all. Just like any other type of touching someone may choose to inflict on me against my will. You ask me (because I'm a goddamn human being), and you pay me. If a guy DOES ask me (and pay me), I'm okay with light smacking. My husband likes it because of the way it looks/feels (jiggly) when it's slapped, so i can understand why a custie would. I always make him pay extra because he's putting me in a situation to trust him a little, since he could slap too hard. But so far they never have.
Nipple pinching is just annoying.
Re: can someone please explain to me what is so sexy about the slapping of the ass?
I’m a white guy but I go mostly to black SCs.
That is where I’ve noticed more of the dancers slapping their butts either on stage or when giving you a dance – the booty seems to have a special meaning in the AA community.
I have had black dancers tell me to slap their ass while dancing for me. I’m more of the sensual type and not into pain; so I’ll slap it just to get a feel but not very hard – more often than not they tell me to slap it harder – IDK if it’s b/c they actually like it or b/c they think it will turn me on.
I think the hip-hop thing may have something to do with this ass slapping thing – or it could just some guys being pigs as some naturally are.
Re: can someone please explain to me what is so sexy about the slapping of the ass?
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miss.a.p1600
I think what shannordior and radius have mentioned about ass slapping as part of a fetish. The ass fetish and maybe in the s & m fetish too.
giggling, rubbing, and even smacking ass is not only arousing for some men but for some women too. I don't have a big ass but I find it a turn-on to have my ass giggle, massaged, etc. and sometime lightly smacked but that's only if I'm feeling you and it's done right. I don't have a problem with dancers smacking their own ass on stage but the customers smacking ass on stage is a no-no for me.
Some people aren't into it and customers would be much better off knowing if the dancer is cool with it before doing it.
I too can't fully explain it but I do find it a little bit of a turn on when a dancer smacks her ass on stage. I think it may be that I do seem to like to dish it out, the domination thing, and if she's smacking it herself she's probably down for it. I've never smacked a girl's ass on stage, invited or not.
I've had a couple of long time faves who were really into it. One had one of those to die for asses and smacked her ass frequently on stage and invited guys to do so. In our dances she insisted on it and would tease me if I misfired and gave her a weak spank. (Once you've given a weak one you tend to overthink it and give another weak one which turns into a death spiral but that's a discussion for another time). She taught me the cupping thing, so that it sounds a lot worse than it is. It really seemed to turn her on.
The other had a fairly small booty. She didn't smack her ass on stage from what I recall. But in our dances she did and again insisted that I do so.
I don't seek out girls who smack their asses or have smackable ones. Many girls that I get dances from are on the petite side, toned, with small booties. I wouldn't dream of smacking theirs, it would hurt my hand and they probably wouldn't enjoy it.
I don't see girls smacking their ass on stage very frequently at the clubs I go to. If I do engage a new girl with a smackable booty for dances then the 2nd or 3rd visit I may ask her if she's into it. I would never smack it without asking first. Some girls hate it, some are neutral, some girls will say they like it and to go ahead.
If we appear to click it's something I'll mix in here and there in future sessions. I think there is a little of a domination thing to it. ln fact if a girl was a no show the previous visit or kept me waiting a long time I sometimes will say they deserve a good spanking. They are often down with it and say they should be "bad more often".
We all have our different tastes. :)
Re: can someone please explain to me what is so sexy about the slapping of the ass?
I slapped my ass on stage last weekend just to see what would happen and the two guys at the tip rail and the DJ just gave me a really weird look. Probably looked weird seeing a skinny white girl smacking her butt. Never doing that again (I was more than a bit drunk). Apparently guys are only interested in smacking my ass (it's been smacked 6 times in the last three days) and not in me smacking it.
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I haven't seen any slapping of the ass since I got to London. I mean, no one is allowed to touch me-- they have to be a meter away at all times-- so they haven't had the opportunity, but I used to see girls slapping their asses all the time when they were on stage in LA and I haven't seen one girl do it here. Is it just an American thing?
Re: can someone please explain to me what is so sexy about the slapping of the ass?
Interesting... I've always slapped my ass on cam in certain privates... I've noticed it's more of a "dominance" thing. Where the guy is a "daddy", or a "teacher" and spanking/punishing the "daughter" or "school girl" for being naughty. But then again, I know camming and dancing are two TOTALLY different things... just my .02
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Once when I was fairly tipsy at work, I sauntered over to this guy I've known for a couple of years, leaned over his lap and said, "I need a spanking!" He's a really chill, laid back, fairly vanilla guy, gets embarrassed easily (which is mostly why I did it).. He put his hand on my booty and said, "I don't want to spank it. It's violent. I want to love it." And patted my butt. I wiggled my ass and said again, louder, "I NEED A SPANKING!!" And he reached back and slapped my ass. so. HARD. I lost my damn buzz, got up, sat in my chair and didn't make a peep for the rest of the time he was there! Lol
I slap everyone's ass at work, can't explain why, I just see a nice booty and have to smack it. Dancers, guys,... Never my own, though.
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Addison
I slap everyone's ass at work, can't explain why, I just see a nice booty and have to smack it. Dancers, guys,... Never my own, though.
Ha, I fucking love that! You'd get my attention real quick. I love when the dancers spank each other when it's obviously a surprise on the part of the spank-ee. A stripper spanking her own ass is a bit of a turn-off to me, just because it seems so cliched and corny to me, though obviously some customers out there must like it.
Re: can someone please explain to me what is so sexy about the slapping of the ass?
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audrey_k
slapping of the ass?
I believe they do it for the reverb. To interact with the ass like that prooves to everyone in the room that the ass slapper exists and is a real person. The ass jiggles and sort of slaps the hand back. Then the area where the ass was spanked sort of reddens. The spanker then has something to point to, like when the USA planted a flag on the moon, and he can say, "Look! I was here! I've effected that ass in some tangible way, and that's undeniable! I have witnesses!" And they can also then call you a bad girl along with the spanking, all in the hopes that this will remind you to be even more bad with them in case you identify as a bad girl already. They're trying to create a self-fulfilling prophecy, in other words. I don't want to go into particle physics or paradox theory or anything like that, but ass slapping has a lot to do with the forces that bind us all together on the molecular level---we live in an ordered universe that exists on the edge of chaos, which is what allows for human evolution to dip into that chaos for the momentum it needs to carry us forward into more complex and refined forms (such as breast implants). So the ass smack is a moment of controlled chaos that echoes through eternity. You're welcome!
Re: can someone please explain to me what is so sexy about the slapping of the ass?
I love spanking hot girls, and yeah its dominance thing, which is I why I make them beg for it first (plus it insures consent as a bonus).
I like the illusion of being inchange, its a fantasy. I love it when the girl says please spank me master hot.
As for her being into it, it would be nice if she was and I think a couple of them have been, but honestly it my money and fantasy so them being into it is just gravy.
Tip for spanking, don't use the flat of your palm, cup your hand, its loude
Re: can someone please explain to me what is so sexy about the slapping of the ass?
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audrey_k
Seriously I get this SO often....
As a customer, I get annoyed when a dancer asks me to do this (which happens a lot). I get absolutely no thrill out of it, regardless of how great an ass she has. Is it some kind of dom thing? I just don't get it! I don't know, maybe dancers have so many customers doing it that they think I'll enjoy it as well, so they feel obligated to request it....
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ushar85
As a customer, I get annoyed when a dancer asks me to do this (which happens a lot). I get absolutely no thrill out of it, regardless of how great an ass she has. Is it some kind of dom thing? I just don't get it! I don't know, maybe dancers have so many customers doing it that they think I'll enjoy it as well, so they feel obligated to request it....
Welcome to the club. I much prefer it when they ask me to nuzzle their ass.
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audrey_k
Seriously I get this SO often, and I don't even have a big ass. I'm pretty tiny, 5'5, 107 lbs, 32A. I guess for my frame I have a large ass, but if you were to line me up with the girls in my club I would be on the low end.
Most of the time customers don't even ask, they just do it. It doesn't bother me as much as other things, as long as it's not like a really hard slap, but it's just weird to me and it annoys me that they don't ask. I've only ever had one guy do it outside of the club.
Is it some weird daddy thing? Or what is it?
Who wouldn't enjoy slapping a nice, round ass? It just feels good. No need to read daddy, dominance, sadism etc. into it. It's just erotic. Doesn't matter what size it is either - it feels good to slap a nice ass. Makes a nice sound too. However I rarely like seeing dancers slap their own asses. It's not the same.
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And why do dancers slap themselves on the ass? Is that supposed to somehow be attractive?