Does talking dirty help to sell more dances?
I work at a full contact topless club, Guys can touch everything except pussy. One of my signature things I do during dances is kinda lightly trace around the guys ear with my tongue in a very sensual way. It sounds weird but most guys love it. When I get a guy in the back they will usually do between 3-5 songs with me. I really don't talk at all during dances though and was wondering if other girls talk to guys or say sexual things to them during dances to keep interest? Around the 5th song I start to get the impression the guy might start to feel awkward because of such a long amount of silence.
My ex told me that he got a dance at a different club and throughout the dance the girl kept telling him how " he had such a big dick".(He doesn't have a big dick btw.) I overheard girl trying to sweet talk a guy once during a dance and I busted out laughing because all her complements sounded so ridiculously fake. The guy new it too and just rolled his eyes. So I guess my question is, do most guys like it when you say things like that? "Oh I love your big/hard dick" "Im getting so wet dancing for you" etc. Would talking like this to the guy help to keep him buying dances longer? I just want to make sure that this works and I wont sound stupid.
Thanks.
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Attachment 36271some do.. it all depends on the guy I think! You can tell by body language if theyre comfortable. If they are kinda hesitant they're either playing you ro they're really not comfortable with it.
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you can give a guy an honest compliment without going overboard and sounding fake. if he has nice cologne, tell him he smells nice.etc. you can always find something good in a person if you look hard enough i think.
i simply can't and won't just talk dirty to every customer. no way. for me its embarrassing and awkward and can sounds fake, contrived and ridiculous most of the time unless they ask for it and pay you extra for it.
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I'll coo in the guy's ear and say things like oooh this feels really nice in a way that seems genuine and not over the top, then from there kind of gauge his reaction like if he's buying it or wants to play along. I always thought it was so cheesy but a surprising number seem to like it. I def don't tell guys that their dicks are big if they're not though, I think guys think about their size a lot particularly if they're not packing heat so I'm not going to remind him of his inadequacies by mentioning it. I can think of several instances where dirty talk considerably extended strings of dancing. It's also an element I like to introduce after the third dance, because it is more work and I expect to be compensated
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Honestly, I never full on talk dirty with custies. I do ask what gets their gears going (Are you a leg/ass/boob man?) and what their turn ons are and try to use that to center the dance around what they like best. It has helped me to sell multiple dances and also gain regulars. I don't feel comfortable talking about the down and dirty in a club because it doesn't come naturally to me. Lol
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Great advice. I'll try saying subtle things towards the end of the 4th song and see how it works. :)
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I think it depends on the guy. Some like full phone sex type dirty talk and others not so much.
I used to think I'd never get dances because I'm probably not the best dirty talker. But I realized that at bare minimum it helps to be flirty and sexy and seductive (which may or may not include dirty talk).
I usually talk dirty when I'm feeding off the customer and what he/she is saying. I try not to be too forced.
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I think it really depends not the customer. You can talk to them and not talk dirty-- I danced with a guy last night who did a half hour-- for the first 20 minutes I was just dancing, but then I could tell he was getting a bit bored. He asked me if I liked dancing for him and I told him I was having a great time because he was young, nice, cute and had a sexy British accent (all of which were true). We just ended up chatting and cuddling for the rest of the half hour. He hadn't bought the half hour up front and I really don't think he would have stayed that long if I hadn't switched from dancing to chatting. But I could tell that while he was a little insecure (obviously compliment shopping with the "do you like dancing for me" question) but that he wanted more a real, genuine experience so I didn't give him some over the top answer.
I danced for another guy last weekend who just wanted over the top fake... he asked me to moan and fake an orgasm. I don't get that at all, I mean he KNEW I was faking it but that was what he wanted so I did it. He LOVED it and spend like $400, but if I had done that last night that customer would have been so annoyed.
I do agree that it can make some customers super uncomfortable to do any kind of dirty talk. If I sense a guy might like it I usually ask something along the lines of "so what's your favorite thing to do in bed?" Guys that like dirty talk are pretty quick to respond whereas guys who aren't just say something like "uhhhm I don't know it depends" in which case I change the subject quickly.
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It seems like once I do the ear lick thing guys always get really into it and start breathing harder and encouraging me to dance harder on them and I'll kinda moan in their ear. They all seem to really like it and I feel like they are anticipating me to start talking to them. They never explicitly say they want me to talk dirty to them but around the 5th song when I still haven't introduced something new like talking, they usually give me the signals they want to start winding down and taking a break from dancing.
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^Then try talking dirty! I do the ear licking too thing, that and sucking on their neck works wonders.
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I don't talk very "dirty" to customers because it's out of my comfort zone and would be awkward for me lol. You don't HAVE to talk dirty to turn a guy on! If it's a contact club, gently rub his leg or shoulders or breathe into his ear during dances. That will turn a guy on. I like do just be sultry seductive, almost in a shy way, that makes them wanting more!
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Attachment 36276Blowing in their ear doesnt really work.. but purring like a kitten and running your fingers or hair over their head works wonders.. also straddling their shoulders and leaning back works.. as does just putting your tits in their face!
But yes I do talk very dirty and am very naughty on both the stage, floor and privates!
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I've recently started talking dirty to guys and, yes, it does work with certain customers. I don't bother in single dances, but if I'm doing sets that have multiple dances (like 3/$100, or 5/$200) and I know there is potential to continue with another set I'll gradually work in the dirty talk...first song silent & sensual, second song moan a little, third song "oh my god you feel so good". If they don't shy away from the "omg you feel so good" comment and buy another set of dances, then I'll talk a little dirtier. The trick is keeping enough emotional distance so that you're clear to the guy that everything you're saying is pure fantasy and having enough confidence/practice that it doesn't sound manufactured and fake.
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IMO it only works on certain customers. Usually its best to know or you look like an idiot!