Re: fuckin' dudes, man...
Seems like the guys who always get what they want, tend to keep doing whatever it is that gets them what they want. If it worked in high school, they keep playing the fucking high school games even in their 30s & 40s.
Too bad people are set up this way, like Pavlov's dogs salivating when they hear that bell ringing whether there is food there or not.
ETA--never mind about the PUA shit. Carry on...
Re: fuckin' dudes, man...
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Djoser
That shit works, sad to say.
Ummm, only on the most insecure and foolish of women.
I just had ONE guy in high school who I loved to pieces and tried everything to get him to like me. Probs came off a bit creepy. He still tries to talk to me sometimes, after six years of me trying to get with him every single day and crying every time the next girl turned his head (it was literally eeevery girl but me, like he went out with this ratchet ho who got expelled from high school for drug use.) He doesn't understand why I don't want to talk to him anymore.
So after that I played super hard to get. Ok, kind of- my bf wanted to just be fwb initially, and I did end up bouncing on his dick for funsies because I reeeally really had the hots for him- but I rejected him first before doing so! :P And once we were fwb I gave no hint that I had romantic feelings. He eventually did ask me out. He was nervous too, because he had no idea about my feelings for him. It makes me glad he genuinely liked me enough to take that initiative, instead of just thinking "Well apparently this bitch likes me so we might as well date for a bit." So I always advocate playing a little hard to get. I think it's better not to be all "I like you!" at first because then he gets to decide how to progress, when his feelings might not have gotten enough time to develop. Just wait and let his feelings for you grow on their own until he feels like he can't keep them a secret anymore.
^But I guess that only works with guys who don't string you along on purpose. Fuck PUAs. Even though they're too fucking dumb to work on most girls here, the fact that they're so fucking sure they can get with us is annoying as shit.
Re: fuckin' dudes, man...
^ totally agree. plus, its not that i want an "alpha male" or whatever, but i don't want a guy that's insecure and can't go after what he wants. im a wicked sub in bed as well so i like men who can be dominant in that area. i want a guy who can ask me out first.
but i think whether or not you are male or female, nobody likes a clingy, snivelling, i can't-live-without-you attitude. independence, self sufficiency, and knowing you are hot and not being desperate are attractive traits in a partner.
i used to be the doormat and fall all over myself for guys and it got me nothing but rejected. now i keep my cool and i am doing much better
Re: fuckin' dudes, man...
OK sorry I tried to edit that out as this isn't the thread to get into it. But too late I guess.
Trust me, I've seen it work on untold hordes of (admittedly pretty stupid) women. But I have lived in Florida for many years, and a lot of that time was in Daytona which was PUA heaven. Didn't mean to imply any of you in particular would fall for it. Bottom line is, stupid insecure people tend to breed easily with the other people playing stupid games.
But please, continue with Melly May's topic & don't worry about what I posted. This is a thread to bitch about 'fuckin' dudes, man', and what happens? A fuckin' dude comes in here presumably taking the heat off the other fuckin' dudes by saying PUA shit works. I never meant to say PUAs weren't assholes. It may work on the dumb ones, but you don't see me trying that lameass shit, insulting women's ankles etc. just to get laid.
;D
And for future reference, I believe it's a very good thing to edit out shit from your own posts that could either annoy people or derail the thread. I've seen people get bent about it.
But it's been encouraged as a policy as long as I've been a member. It doesn't mean you are backing down, it means it doesn't really fucking matter all that much in the context, & you realize it's better chopped out.
I am still tempted to just delete this and my post above it, but the reply was made quoting me so it's kind of too late.
Re: fuckin' dudes, man...
The guy I posted about texted me V-Day asking me to come over to his hotel room. I was tempted, because it was a hotel I would never have the money to stay at myself-- $1,000+ night-- but I politely told him to fuck off. No more weird power-tripping condom-less begging sex (and honestly he fucking sucked in bed anyway, he was my "I'm gonna get over my ex and fuck someone else" sex and all he did was make my miss ex who was total phenomenal in bed).