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I would be pretty upset to. I mean it would be a different story if he didn't have the money to do anything big big even something simple like coming over and making dinner or watching a movie would show that he cared. It's a day to show how much you care about the other person. I dunno I love valentines day and I would be torn up if my boyfriend didn't want to celebrate it in even a simple form.
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I broke up with two guys because of it. I'm not one of these people who believes in spending a lot but at least show me you care. Two guys I was dating didn't do anything on the day at all. No card even. Sad to say I had exactly one boyfriend who spoiled me on Valentines Day and took me out to lobster and bought me several stuffed animals and perfume. I still chat with him and we broke up due to religious views but he's a great guy.
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yeah exactly i'm not asking for 100 roses and a diamond ring ( although i wouldn't complain), but something as simple as a card, a dinner, or anything just the thought of it. i told her he was a wanker , but she said she doesn't wanna bring it up again as it might make him "uncomfortable". his comfort be damned! lol
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I tend to take Valentines day to spoil myself, since I have only once had an actual relationship going when the holiday came around. I am a bit on the minimalistic side, getting together for a nice dinner is perfect to me; a whole big show is not really my thing (nothing against any1 whose thing it is) but Simone, your friend's bf sounds like one of those ppl I compare negatively to eggplants. If it's not your thing it's not your thing, but the way his statement came across really sounds quite :yuck:
Correction, my relationship last yr I did this whole big thing at my apt for my bf, put together a bunch of finger foods & sm of his favourite treats. Ran a hot bath & got in the tub w/ him, candles, the whole nine. There was sm funniness w/ the champagne where he thought I was setting him up for sm kind of prank(I am ignorant & gave him a corkscrew to open the bottle) but he stayed for only a couple hrs, did not touch most of what I put together & would not even stay over b/c he said he had an assignment due for class. I told him he could use my computer to finish & submit it but eh, no. Even tho he told me he really enjoyed it I felt pretty underappreciated.
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It's a really fucking stupid holiday, but that guy is a douche.
If you really love somebody, every single day is Valentines Day. That being said, if I am with someone I will sure as hell do something nice for them then, jesus christ.
What bugs me most about the holiday are the inane TV ads, not that I've seen any in the last years but I know they are out there. 'Guys if you want to get a special BJ give her X gift we are selling, since you never give her anything the rest of the year & she never blows you either.' seems to be the gist of it.
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I'm not a big Valentines Day person, but that day is bad luck for me. When I was 15 my boyfriend broke up with me on Valentine's Day. When I was 16 my boyfriend got back together with his ex girlfriend (only to break up with her three days later and come back to me). When I was 20 my boyfriend forgot to make reservations of Valentine's Day and we ended up going to McDonalds. Two years on on Valentina's Day my boyfriend found out he didn't get a promotion from work and he sulked the whole night while we sat in front of the television. I've had two OK Valentine's Days and that's it.
I just think it's silly. It puts so much pressure on a relationship and for no reason. If you love someone you should do something special for them every day, not just on Valentine's Day. Last year I told the guy I was dating I didn't want to celebrate it at all. He got me chocolates and we just hung out at his apartment and ordered thai food and it was the best Valentine's Day I had, no expectations!
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I think it is none of your business & something they need to discuss between themselves.
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Ehh I wouldn't be too upset if the guy didn't want to acknowledge it in a big way, as long as he was normally nice and remained so on the day... but that guy sounds kind of insensitive, or at least unaware of how he came across. He didn't have to say it in that tone, he could have said something like "To be honest I think it's commercial and silly so I don't want to support it; besides, I love you every day!"
But then you're talking to the girl who forgot it was this Friday, and scheduled a party for another friend that night... didn't even think anything of it since all the invitees are single. Woops.
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I think it is none of your business & something they need to discuss between themselves.
if its your best friend who calls you up 3 times a day and wants to vent for hours upon hours about her relationship and asks your advice then she does make it my business in a way. its not like im prying and butting into her relationship, TRUST ME. i just hear about all day everyday so this is my time to vent about it i guess and ask other ppl's opinions, see if im the only one thinking this
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I think a guy should always do something or give a little something on V day. Even if it is just a card or flowers. My message to the guy you mention is that in life you're going to encounter things you don't want to do, but that doesn't mean you should be negative about it and just not do it. Most guys do not like Valentines Day and women know that. So when a guy does put forth the effort, it makes him look amazing. He should be willing to do everything and anything to make you happy anyway if he really loves you...and your joy should make him happy doing it. If both the guy and the girl aren't into it then that is fine too. But if the guy knows the girl is into it and he still doesn't do anything...that to me shows he does not care about his girl's happiness.
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i dont' have cable, or TV in general ( just one to play DVDs and netflix on) so i guess i miss all the commercials, i hear they are pretty nauseating!
i've always loved it even when i was single, partly because by february i need a holiday in this horrible new england weather, my favorite colors and red pink and white ( lol), and i just use it to make little things for anybody i loved even if it were just friends and family. when i was a kid i got obsessed with making these really elaborate cards for Vday and decorating the house.
you should definitely take everyday to let somebody know you love them though, i agree. its kind of the way i feel about christmas. too much pressure to get yourself into debt, and i don't do much on it..im always getting people little things here and there so on xmas i don't go overboard
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Dumb fake holiday that could go away and wouldn't be missed.
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I hate when people attack Valentine's Day for being stupid. 'Every day should be Valentine's Day,' well you should use that argument for every single holiday then. Why celebrate Christmas when you should have the Christmas-like spirit in you every day? Why celebrate July 4th since you should be patriotic every day? <-- Just doesn't make sense to me.
Yeah. I don't like when people are Valentine's Day Scrooges.
Valentine's Day is important to a lot of relationships because it sets a specific date when both partners take some time off their schedules, and really slow down and bask in each other's company. You don't have to spend a lot of money, or any money at all. Just do something a little new/special to honor your connection.
If he knows it's special for her he could at least put in a little bit of time. I mean I'm not religious but I've celebrated Hanukkah with my boyfriend because it's special for him. Couples are supposed to be considerate like that.
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Flowers, a card and dinner once a year is not asking too much in my book!
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To me, people who bash on Valentine's Day are the ones who can't see past it being a "commercialized 'couples-only' holiday." I was always raised that Valentine's Day was a day to express love to all the loved ones in your life. If my parents didn't wish me a Happy Valentine's Day, I'd be offended! lol because they always do, and I wish them and all my friends one too. So, yes, I am offended when a bf shuns it as being stupid and doesn't do a damn thing. I've never asked for an over-the-top display for any holiday but my last bf was lazy as fuck in regards to holidays. He never even acknowledged Valentine's Day even when I told him that I'd like to hang out, never did shit for our anniversary (even totally blew off plans we had made a month in advance the first year), barely did anything for my birthday that I didn't practically force him to do, and never got me a Christmas present the last Christmas we were together. There's a difference between not making a huge deal out of holidays and just being a totally insensitive douche about the fact that certain days do mean something to people.
Refusing to even acknowledge it, and going so far as to put someone down for liking it, is a selfish asshole move, regardless of the specific holiday or occasion. I'm sorry, but no one's "political" views on the day are so damn strong that they need to refuse to do anything for someone they supposedly love who has told them straight-up that it's important to them. Save your indignant attitude for opposing something that actually means something to you and doesn't just make you look like a 2-year old throwing a tantrum. Saying "screw Valentine's Day" to someone who has expressed to you that it means something to them is pretty much equivalent to saying "screw anything you like that I don't also like equally, because only my happiness matters." Maybe the next time a game is on that's important to him, she should disconnect the TV to save money on the electric bill, because, you know, fuck him, sports are "stupid."
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I think Valentine's day is stupid but I don't go out of my way to bash it. I had a boyfriend this time last year who I knew was going to get me something regardless of whatever I said so I got him small gifts too.
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Ew, I'd be so mad. And what a douche of him to say that! He could have easily said something a lot nicer about it if he hates it that much. I dunno, maybe I'm still butt hurt about my ex not caring about my birthday last year, ha.
V-day is a tradition. Taking one day to put forth a little extra "romance" should be expected. Aw I feel bad for her.
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To me, people who bash on Valentine's Day are the ones who can't see past it being a "commercialized 'couples-only' holiday." I was always raised that Valentine's Day was a day to express love to all the loved ones in your life. If my parents didn't wish me a Happy Valentine's Day, I'd be offended!
The only thing worse than being expected to make a whole bunch of plans for the day would be getting a Valentine from my mom.
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To me, people who bash on Valentine's Day are the ones who can't see past it being a "commercialized 'couples-only' holiday." I was always raised that Valentine's Day was a day to express love to all the loved ones in your life. If my parents didn't wish me a Happy Valentine's Day, I'd be offended! lol because they always do, and I wish them and all my friends one too. So, yes, I am offended when a bf shuns it as being stupid and doesn't do a damn thing. I've never asked for an over-the-top display for any holiday but my last bf was lazy as fuck in regards to holidays. He never even acknowledged Valentine's Day even when I told him that I'd like to hang out, never did shit for our anniversary (even totally blew off plans we had made a month in advance the first year), barely did anything for my birthday that I didn't practically force him to do, and never got me a Christmas present the last Christmas we were together. There's a difference between not making a huge deal out of holidays and just being a totally insensitive douche about the fact that certain days do mean something to people.
Refusing to even acknowledge it, and going so far as to put someone down for liking it, is a selfish asshole move, regardless of the specific holiday or occasion. I'm sorry, but no one's "political" views on the day are so damn strong that they need to refuse to do anything for someone they supposedly love who has told them straight-up that it's important to them. Save your indignant attitude for opposing something that actually means something to you and doesn't just make you look like a 2-year old throwing a tantrum. Saying "screw Valentine's Day" to someone who has expressed to you that it means something to them is pretty much equivalent to saying "screw anything you like that I don't also like equally, because only my happiness matters." Maybe the next time a game is on that's important to him, she should disconnect the TV to save money on the electric bill, because, you know, fuck him, sports are "stupid."
i heart you aurora, will you be my valentine?? you put into words exactly how i feel.
and really what holiday ISN'T commercialized these days? vday gets a lot of hate, when its supposed to be a holiday celebrating love, it kind of gets me down sometimes
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i heart you aurora, will you be my valentine??
I would love to be your valentine! :flirt::heartbeat
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What bugs me most about the holiday are the inane TV ads, not that I've seen any in the last years but I know they are out there. 'Guys if you want to get a special BJ give her X gift we are selling, since you never give her anything the rest of the year & she never blows you either.' seems to be the gist of it.
This. This is why I dread v-day season, I can't turn on the TV, get on the internet or leave my house without being bombarded with ads that scream "Get your GF expensive stuff, she will screw for presents!". If I'm going to sell sex I'm doing it for cold hard cash, not moldy overpriced flowers and chocolates.
I usually celebrate, nothing major just an "I'm thinking about you" present or two, but I don't think we'll do anything this year. He's working a double and I'll be giving the GFE all day online! I really do prefer to celebrate afterwards when the chocolate is cheap and the restaurants aren't crowded.
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i dont' have cable, or TV in general ( just one to play DVDs and netflix on) so i guess i miss all the commercials, i hear they are pretty nauseating!
Are you like me then, & when you go to a friend's house or a club with the TV you wind up with your eyes being drawn to it whatever the hell is on the screen?
Also the ads and the sitcoms are funny as hell for all the wrong reasons. I am laughing my ass off at this shit & my friends are looking at me like I am crazy. Not that I care. Taking that stuff at all seriously is the crazy thing in my mind. I know most people with intelligence just tune it out, but if you never watch it, it is a lot more glaring and absurd--and hilarious if you are in the mood to see the underlying humor.
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you should definitely take everyday to let somebody know you love them though, i agree. its kind of the way i feel about christmas. too much pressure to get yourself into debt, and i don't do much on it..im always getting people little things here and there so on xmas i don't go overboard
Really, every day should be Christmas also. And every new day of Life is New Years, & your birthday too. Actually, we ought to give our mom's the presents on our birthdays, since they are the ones who suffered to bring us into this world. ;D
That being said, I do like giving really special people things on V Day, Xmas, etc.
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It's a really fucking stupid holiday, but that guy is a douche.
If you really love somebody, every single day is Valentines Day. That being said, if I am with someone I will sure as hell do something nice for them then, jesus christ.
What bugs me most about the holiday are the inane TV ads, not that I've seen any in the last years but I know they are out there. 'Guys if you want to get a special BJ give her X gift we are selling, since you never give her anything the rest of the year & she never blows you either.' seems to be the gist of it.
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Are you like me then, & when you go to a friend's house or a club with the TV you wind up with your eyes being drawn to it whatever the hell is on the screen?
Also the ads and the sitcoms are funny as hell for all the wrong reasons. I am laughing my ass off at this shit & my friends are looking at me like I am crazy. Not that I care. Taking that stuff at all seriously is the crazy thing in my mind. I know most people with intelligence just tune it out, but if you never watch it, it is a lot more glaring and absurd--and hilarious if you are in the mood to see the underlying humor.
TOOO Funny, lmao!!