Re: people who make rape jokes
Yeah, desuvsdeath got to it before I did.
Since rape is about power, not sex, people will use the word in other situations to assert dominance, esp young boys. When they do that, most often they are not referring to forceful sex, or conjuring that image at all. They're talking about overpowering someone. That doesn't make rape jokes ok, but it gives a solid argument against victim blamers, if anything.
Men don't rape because they're turned on and can't control themselves. There is something distinctly unsexy about a woman fighting you off. They rape because an unwilling partner turns them on.
Anyhow that is why people say they've raped someone during sports. Again, it's unacceptable.
Re: people who make rape jokes
well the OP was actually more about pointed rape jokes, not just figures of speech like " im getting raped out here", but yeah i see your point