What am i doing wrong ughhhhhhh!!
:-\ Im soo distressed lately I haven't been making money... I don't know what im doing wrong if im at the wrong club or its my dancing or its my talk game or what... seems like every customer tells me they want to see me outside the club and don't want to do anything in the club.. they'll buy drinks though and it agaravates the heck outta me. And when I say dancing Im kinda tired of my same routine and im not good at pole tricks. Last night was pretty busy and I only made like 100. Girls please help
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Have you read through Hustle Hut, especially the Best of thread? Without knowing what you're doing in your interactions, it's hard to give any other advice other than to read the vast amount that's already on here.
Sometimes it's good to switch things up and try out a different club, if only for confirmation that it is or isn't just you. FWIW this time of year isn't particular lucrative in many areas, so even if the club is busy, it doesn't necessarily translate into money for the dancers.
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Are you sitting for too long with them? I've had this problem before. I worked in a slower hustle club (chat for several songs first) but often after chatting, they decided they liked me and didn't want to get dances because now I was either "friendzoned" or "OTC take you on a date" zoned. What you talk about can also affect this; keep it away from YOU as much as possible and stay light/flirty so he's in the mood to say yes.
Aside from that, it could be your body language, the way you're phrasing the question, what kind of customer base it is and if you fit it... a ton of things.
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I hate seeing beautiful women not making money :( It's a lousy situation you've found yourself in, I've had that happen a few times. What might be happening is you've been there so long that guys who want more than dances-an ever increasing amount, unfortunately-know you're not one to do that. So the ones who are asking you are new guys who ask everyone. This translates into no money and I've always changed clubs at this point. You might also be too nice to them, but I really don't think that's it, cuz then this-them wanting to *eyeroll* "date you"- would have been happening all along. It sounds like it's a more recent problem? Anyway, I would try a new club. Maybe even a dive, it's lower pressure and attractive girls tend to really stand out. I think it would be refreshing for you to be in a setting where money is so much easier to make. Do still make sure you try dives on busier nights, since day shift isn't as lucrative as it is in higher end clubs. I hope this helps, I'd love to read an update that you went to another club where you did great and your spirits are lifted.
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This does happen...I have been dancing for a while and like an above poster mentioned..Once u have been working at the same place for a while it gets hard to make money...If u rnt an extras girl which i am not..to each their own tho..u can get the rep of being the clean girl like someone has already mentioned..Its happened to me...I dont do pole tricks either...Not my style..And with the assets I have I am not going to risk fucking them up on the pole. Also like I have seen on another thread, if u dont have insurance pole tricks rnt necessairly a good option..I will tell u from many years of experience..The fact I dont do pole tricks has actually kept me in the business as long as I have needed to be due to the fact i havent hurt myself or busted up knees, joints, ribs etc...I may not make as much as the pole girls or even the younger girls but I am what i am..And changing that to fit in isnt my style. I will stay current with outfits, shoes, hair, makeup..but Im not changing my dance style. U got to find a way to take who u r and find a club or the right shifts that make it easier for u to feel comfortable OP..I switch clubs my own self to make this possible.
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It's all about your attitude! Just know that you can make money off of every guy in the club and hustle them all. Know you are hot as fuck and that if anyone says no, they obviously have some kind of mental disorder (and pity them for the lack of a good time they will be having without your company), then move on to the next one. I'm just coming out of my earning slump/ burnout. If you must, take a while off to recharge and get back in your zone. The nights that I bank are nights when I'm fully appreciating myself, the customers and not really caring about them money at all. I even told a guy once that I was too tired to give him a good dance and he said he didn't care and he spent $400 on me and my lazy ass!
Seriously, just go in expecting to make money. Keep yourself motivated in any way you can. "Just 2 more dances, okay now 3 more dances, that's $XX, now I can make $50 more, no one is buying dances right now? Perfect time to go into the DR and meditate for 15 minutes or hit up that old guy in the corner for a chat for a bit."
Also, I keep the talking to a minimum and make sure to ask for a dance "now or later" ASAP so I establish a business relationship right away. If they say no, or later, I move on/ always come back later. If they say "maybe", i take that as a yes and push when the next song comes on or until I get a concrete answer out of them (after the next song for example or no). Keep moving, keep hustling, keep your attitude up and genuinely have fun. There is something to appreciate about every single customer you interact with.
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Read the Law of Attraction thread in Hustle Hut, that one is your best bet after you've got a good hustle down. Your best hustle is all in your head, you've gotta get your head game strong before you make good money.
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I think part of the OTC thing is that guys can tell if you don't really want to be there and they take that to mean you want to be somewhere else, WITH THEM. which is completely false but it can help to put off the vibe that 1) you love where you are at and 2) there is no time frame that you have any free time whatsoever to see them outside of work.
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ChefKitty
I think part of the OTC thing is that guys can tell if you don't really want to be there and they take that to mean you want to be somewhere else, WITH THEM. which is completely false but it can help to put off the vibe that 1) you love where you are at and 2) there is no time frame that you have any free time whatsoever to see them outside of work.
This is f n excellent..Ive been dancing forever but am suffering from some of the most extreme burnout...Guys sure as hell can tell if u dont want to be there..Even my fake smile and attitude isnt always doing it...Ur #2 is something Ive lost sight of...I have regs bc I maintain contact but if i would stay a fantasy id b better off n more ways than one with the other 90% of the guys i come n contact with...