Is there a niche for boring people?
Haha, I don't know how else to explain!
I'm pretty boring in bed. I don't like to pretend to be into things I'm not. I'm more of a submissive person. I like being talked down to and stuff in the bedroom. But that's really it. I try to fufill any fantasy (okay, most) that a customer brings to the table. But when it's not something boring and normal, I suck at it! I try to be dom for some guys, but they tell me I'm too nice. I'm into normal, boring people sex haha. I'm also not a sexual person by nature. I'm actually pretty old school (no sex outside of relationship and without love and blah blah).
So what kind of niche should I try to get, if any? I feel so lame when customers ask me what I'm into! "Uh, I like... missionary position sex?" haha! Help me out here. I suck at lying and acting (I never fake orgasms in my shows either).
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A niche is something that deviates from the norm though, and piques interest. Its up to you to find that, coupled with a.) what you look like (you have to look like you fit the part), and b.) what your customers ask you for (which takes time to figure out).
You are playing a character. The most successful girls on cam are characters where you can predict ahead of time what they'd wear, how they'd act, and what they'd respond to a question with. Acting skills are almost vital. Even if your character is just an aspect of yourself. You wouldn't act how you'd act on cam to a stranger in real life, right? Its still acting.
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Of course there is! There's a niche for EVERYTHING just as there's a lid for every pot!
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Just from reading Your description of Yourself, The take-away, for me, was that You could really play up the 'submissive' part of Your personality.
Boring in bed, You say? Only missionary? Being spoken down to?
If I were You, I would act shy and demure, and pretend I am so inexperienced at sex, and tell the custies that I would love to be taught by them, and am very good at following directions, with a willingness to learn new things.
I can't really explain it on here, but If I watched You live, i could tell you exactly how to find Your niche.
I am the complete opposite, both in real life, and on cam~i.e. I'm very dominant,bossy, dirty talker, expert at roleplay, and makingf guys my lttle bitch.
When I have a custie just take me to prvt. and start verbally belittling me, with directions on how I should act slutty, do various sexual acts that I hate, I do it, but am cringing the entire time.
If you feel comfortable with me watching you, pm me and let me know when u are on, and which site, and I will give you my unbiased opinion.
Glam
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Im a dancer. and I am pretty "sweet and inoocent" to industry standards. I play that up. I am only 24 and look probably 21 22 so guys love that whole thing. when they talk dirty or about sex stuff i cover my face and laugh (much like asian women do), bat my eyes. ect. Guys eat it up at my club
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I'll put it this way: no, there is no niche for boring people. Guys pay to be entertained in some way. However, there is a huuuuuge spectrum of what customers find entertaining.
Don't be afraid to act. You say you suck at it, that just means you need practice. Think about it: all you have to do is be better than your average porn actress. Not screaming like a banshee any time a dick/dildo gets near you? You're realistic as fuck. IMO this job is way too exhausting to be 100% genuine 100% of the time--that is a fast way to burn out. Real orgasms are doable at a low volume (like if you do public shows or gold shows and only have to have a couple an hour) but 3-6+ real orgasms an hour for hours on end eats up a looot of energy that could be better spent hustling shows and extending your time online. I used to have mostly real orgasms on cam too until I figured out that it was an energy sink, now I only have a few real ones a shift (I like to save them for the really good shows/customers) and I feel soooo much better. Trust me, custies can't tell, I'll often mix up real and fake in the same show and they don't notice.
You also don't have to be sexually excited by something to enjoy it on cam. I do A LOT of SPH and cuckold stuff and while there are aspects of cuckolding that I find somewhat arousing that kind of thing is definitely not my cup of tea off cam. But I'm really good at it because I enjoy it (who doesn't like making fun of dicks, come on) and that shows through. Find something that entertains you, even in a "OMG that's so weird" way, and play around with it.
As others have said your best bet is probably to play up the submissive innocent thing ("I like being told what to do!") BUT don't be afraid to expand your horizons a little. You're more capable than you think.
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I have chatted with a very nice young girl who cams. She is very kind. She is shy. Members know her, they pop into her room and say "hello slut" she laughs. She gets tips. She has built up a good following while I first thought she seemed kinda boring, but who am I to judge. So I would go see her often enough and chat at times, she does very well, all the while not doing dildo shows ever! She pulls up her shirt to flash her titties, stretch pants down to flash her vagina and if they tip for her rear, she does that too. She listens to music and is always on her cell while on cam... BUT, she never ignore a person in her room.
Sounds kinda boring doesn't she. She is not! She has her crowd, which by the way is built of members that are a nice size hanging in her room.
She is being her and it works. She gets 500 tokens and does not pull her hair out yelling "Thank you"! She just says the members name and thanks, not much emotion other than a little smile. She is young and fresh looking. No makeup, hair not brushed, stretch pants t-shirt.
Again, she pays them all attention! They call her slut and they tip, she knows of these members they have been in her room before. Some have popped in and said she is boring, she says nothing. Why?
This could be an act that works for her, or this is her.
PS I see many performers who don't speak but type and they get tipped to shit and back! Some guys just seem to like that distance too, not just performers.
Good luck.
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I like the "I'm so innocent and inexperienced" idea. I'll definitely try it!
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if you do clips, you could try doing some ripoff videos! write a nice description about how pathetic they are for watching you do nothing and how you know they love it. maybe try doing some voyeur camming too.
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Procrasturbator
Real orgasms are doable at a low volume (like if you do public shows or gold shows and only have to have a couple an hour) but 3-6+ real orgasms an hour for hours on end eats up a looot of energy that could be better spent hustling shows and extending your time online.
^ This is going to sound so stupid, but until I read this, the energy thing never really clicked for me. I'm usually ravenously hungry after camming for 90 minutes or less, and I do a lot of real orgasms. :dunce: Well, that explains that.
I really empathize with you about being boring. I thought I had a pretty wild sex life before I started camming - lots of hard orgasms, love doggy style, like anal, love toys, do some light BDSM, husband and I are poly, etc. Then I started camming and realized that I have NO natural sexual creativity or acting talent. NONE. If hubby wants to sit back with a beer and get serviced, I'm like /:O "So... could you tell me step-by-step what I'm doing here?" He wants an enthusiastic hand job, "I'm having cramps and I don't feel sexy, so that's not possible." Basically, the only assets I had for camming were a bunch of toys and the ability to have many (supposedly) very sexy orgasms. I DREADED the "So what do you like?" guys and the "Do whatever you feel like!" guys so much that I often didn't log on because I didn't have a response for them. I prayed that all my custies would be Doms, but as I'm sure you've noticed, they can be few and far between.
Here's stuff that has helped me so far:
*** The "What do you like?" guys are only asking that because they hope you'll visibly squirm while telling your long, steamy fantasy for FREE. My favorite answer is something along the lines of "I love hearing new fantasies from you guys and getting to be part of *your* fantasy." Other options include "Orgasms." and "Literacy. If you scroll down, you can show off your sexy brain by reading my profile."
*** My very best (self-induced) orgasms happen in "missionary position" using a toy that is small and not at all phallic. If it were real sex, it would be the most "boring" sex ever, but guys don't give a shit because they love watching a girl orgasm. Your "boring sex" show might be a huge crowd-pleaser, so embrace it!
*** For the most part, my niches have found me, not the other way around. If someone asks for something you don't know how to do, tell him that you don't have much experience with it, but you're willing to try if he can walk you through it (of course, don't force yourself into anything that truly makes you uncomfortable). If you get more than one request for a certain fetish, take it as a clue and start doing your homework. I had never heard of SPH or cuckold before I started camming, but I learned very quickly because I get a lot of requests (it's well known that my husband happens to have a BBC, and the cuck and SPH guys love a woman with real life BBC experience). If you're interested in Domme stuff, don't get too frustrated, just keep reading and watching porn about it. It's complicated because there are sooo many types of Domme roleplay, and a lot of "sub" guys won't tell you what they really want, they want you to magically guess. With time, research, and experience, you'll be able to pick up on little clues, and it will get easier.
*** I'm starting to learn how to make guys tell me what they want, because we all know that the "Do what you want" guys don't REALLY want to see you take a nap. I actually started this because I was going way too fast and getting naked in about 8 seconds. Now I ask what the guy wants and WAIT for an answer. Realize that there might be a lag, so it could take a while for him to respond. If it really seems like he's not going to say anything, try yes or no questions. He might be "shorthanded" or a non-English speaker. "Do you want to see some more of me?" "Would you like to see my tits?" etc. Just practice sexy poses until you get an answer or he leaves. If he does leave without saying anything, you still have your clothes on and your twat intact! If he leaves and gives you a bad rating, you can prove that he didn't ask for anything, so it's not your fault.
*** As mentioned by Procrasturbator, faking orgasms can be really helpful. I suck at it, but I'm learning. Try it a few times when you're really close to a real orgasm, so you can imagine how it will feel. Don't try any crazy antics or anything. If you don't feel like you're doing a good job, just play it off by moaning "oh I'm sooo cloooose," and continue on to the real thing. Once you can fake it when you're almost there, try doing it a little sooner. I'm hoping that soon I can go from 0 to O like a race car ;P
Don't worry, bb! I think "boring" ladies can be awesome cam girls, and can even grow into a niche!
P.S. Maybe "vanilla" would be a better word for it?