Needing advise for an oldie who is a newbie
Hi there,
I'm a 48 yr. old woman and my husband is 60 yrs. old. We own a restaurant in a small town and far as I can tell, this economy is not getting better and is affecting our daily livelihood. So after some careful consideration, sensitivity and keeping an open-mind, I decided to sign up to cam and got my husband interested. Mortgage with continuous household expenses are starting to get behind more every month and we are frightened of losing our home. I went and ordered a Logitech cam, wig with maybe a mask. I have been trying as much as possible, reading about cam work to educate us both in order to understand this line of work. This forum being one of many. Yet at my age, I am still having a hard time believing anyone would pay. My body is far from perfect and I just don't know if it's even worth it for me. But at this point, with my husband and I needing to put away a little retirement money, and discouraged by our future, we both feel we have no choice but to try other venues that could help us build the so called "American Dream”. I signed up with Stream-ate Limited. I handed in all the proper papers-ID,-tax form, signature signing etc. We also have children/ grandchildren and this too is a major concern to keeping this between us only with fear to public exposure. We are not close minded by any means, although we both feel some boundaries cannot be crossed on sex with strangers (even on camera). I do believe our marriage is solid and could survive this as a business. We enjoy sex, if anything I feel it's possible the fun in it could bring us even closer. Do people really want to see old farts like us getting off? And of course the primary concern; can we make money on this? We’re just normal, kind people and a bit green, who are tired of never having had a vacation to well.. “anywhere”. Plus physically and emotionally exhausted, with a gov. who appears to have little regard for people struggling day in and out. All advice is welcomed. Thank you to all who are willing to help me. I sincerely appreciate it.
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Yes people pay for all kinds of stuff. If a man will pay me to see my socks I'm sure someone will pay to look at you. Just make sure you have good sound and lightening and good connection. Don't give it away for free.
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Thank you so much Annie. :)
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People will pay! You'll probably get lots of younger guys who want to role play with you, and guys who will love your body. The thing is, if they see (or sense) that YOU enjoy your body, THEY will enjoy it. Read up on the forums, and let us know how it goes!
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Really young boys? I can't even imagine that cowgirl. Seems amazing to me since society has people enjoying the young and beautiful. Nothing wrong with this of course, just amazed at this. Thank you.. :)
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You intend to work as a couple? From what i seen around older couples might have it a bit difficult on cam especially him, u say ur sex life is great but on cam it's different, he needs to 'perform', it's a bit different/ difficult for older guys. I wanted to add my ex older bf to the game some years ago, he was excited about it but then i just decided not to do it, i felt he will not help me but hurt my business actually lol. If u find it difficult to work as a couple u may want to try solo account or find some fetishes u both can work. Dont be discouraged but prepared, good luck & keep posting, let us know how it's working xxx
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Alice, I only signed up myself, however b/c of our business I want to protect him, However he is interested in hand jobs/bj's might bring something more to the table. Not sure yet how long I need him to hold is orgasmic fun! But he really is only good for 5 mins. tops.Is that even an interest? Does that have an audience? I'll keep tabs as well. I could use the support and advise..Thank you :)
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In case u want him to participate u need to add his docs to ur account, he cant be on cam (even partially) without being registered too. You only need to go on and try emma, then u guys will find out how things work & what people expect from u, it's hard to predict such things. How will u do blow jobs if u wear a mask by the way?! ;) Good luck!
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I have no idea! :-[:D maybe a eye mask of some kind? You're right I need to get on and see myself to learn. I did see he also needed to sign up but I was hoping partial exposure. So I guess that's a no go. :(
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Confidence, confidence, confidence! If you've got it, people pay you to do/show/say just about anything!
Edit: and check your inbox :)
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They will pay! I'm over 40, and I have been camming for over 3 years. I have mostly guys in their 20's and 30's who think I am a Goddess! Who Knew! best of luck, although I don't recommend wearing a mask, but that's just my opinion.
Just brush up on every kind of Role Play that you can, because you will be asked if You do a lot of them.
luckily, it came easy for me, because all of my past lovers were under 25.
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You can definitely cam at your age, even with an imperfect body. Check out what other models in the "mature" category are doing (especially ones who are similar to you in body type/looks). Pay attention to how they interact with the people in their chat rooms and how they market themselves. Once you get your webcam, play around with the lighting in your camming area until it flatters you. Figure out which camera angles highlight your best features.
Never, ever think you don't have "the look" you need to cam. There really are customers who will think your body is PERFECT.
I will say this: it's really difficult to make good money without showing your face, whether it's off-screen or behind a mask, and you can never totally eliminate the risk of someone in your personal life finding out what you do. You must be willing to take that risk if you do this work.
(Side note: If I ever found out my mom was camming, I would be totally supportive of her. Maybe even proud - it's a brave decision.)
Selling pre-recorded clips with your husband might be a good way to get him involved without all the pressure and challenges of live camming. Camming is acting, and it's much easier to pull off the act as a woman because you can basically fake *everything* whether you're feeling it or not.
Try to figure out your boundaries early on - both physical and mental. It's totally up to you to decide what you will and won't do. Sometimes guys will ask for things so bizarre or disturbing that you'll be put off by the mere suggestion, but you can always just say "no!" and move on. We all have boundaries and we're adamant about enforcing them. Some girls use sex toys, some don't. Some do anal toy play, some don't. Some do all sorts of roleplay, and some prefer to stick to vanilla scenarios. Just be prepared for the fact that guys will ask for everything under the sun - some will probably want to roleplay with you playing the role of an older family member. If you don't want to do that, just take a deep breath, say "no thanks!" and wait for the next guy.
If you're prepared for all this, it can be really rewarding work!
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Yep, luckily our society is full of men with fetishes!
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(Side note: If I ever found out my mom was camming, I would be totally supportive of her. Maybe even proud - it's a brave decision.)
Sabihah, That is so sweet. I actually almost cried.
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They pay for all ages. MILF is a huge and has been for years. The younger men LOVE older women. Hell I'll be 35 in June and they sometimes tell me I'm not old enough. LMAO Be sure to check out sites like Clips4Sale.com and KinkBomb.com where you can make and sell content. That would be a good place for you and your husband to make content. You can do fetish stuff and he can wear a mask or be in costume. Camming and the adult industry literally is for anyone from 18 to 100. They even have 70 year old women shooting granny porn that sells really well. Send me a message if you ever need any help.
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This thread makes me feel really good about my future camming career I see there are fetishes and men who want older ladies that is awesome. On sm some of the older ladies rock it they seriously do.
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I'm 52 and I have no problem camming solo or with my husband, who's 42.
Go for it! :)
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54 here but I have always cammed solo :). My customers are all ages.