Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
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Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
Yes!!!
I work at a parlour which is massage and spa - NO EXTRAs. Nobody does them either or you get fired instantly.
There are plenty of other parlours that offer more and thats fine but we don't.
Anyway, I had one bad experience I can't shake. I was in the spa with this needy, cashed up client. He is chattering away and making all these rules, like we have to have his favourite spa, he can't have ANY other one. I have to fold my clothes - NEATLY.
Anyway, so he extends his booking - make it two hours. Normally Id be thrilled but I wanted to scream. We still had another hour to go!!!
I don't do extras. I was sitting on his lap, looking over his shoulder and letting him play with my boobs and run his hands up and down my stomach. I was just gazing into space and in my own little orbit.
He then moves his hands lower but I was off with the pixies and didn't notice until he starts whining.
Mm I don't like pubic hair on girls. Your smooth. This is going above and beyond what anyone else offers. Do you do this with other clients? If I tell anyone your going to be in big trouble. Hmm what should I do.
I realized what was happening and freaked out. I felt really guilty for letting him touch me there, its against the rules - mine and the parlours!! I just froze and he was telling me I'm cheeky and its my fault. So I apologized. I was ready to cry and walk out of the spa and confess to management - get dressed and quit.
He is one of their most regular clients and Im the disposable new girl. He moves his hands and goes on this self-righteous little rant about rules. I NEVER told him to do that. Yes - its my fault for not paying total attention and zoning out.
Then he wants to cuddle? WTF and says he will book me again.. And couldn't work out why I refused to make eye contact with him or was looking 'worried' and 'upset'.
I still feel guilty for letting that happen. It feels like my fault for not having pubic hair or something so he could 'tell'. WTF (He was just touching the very top area just below my stomach/pelvis line and NOT inside).
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
Yes! They all do it and it's annoying. Some worse than others...but I really can't stand the ones who act like sex should be included (with no extra fee) and complain the whole hour that they're not getting that....well you did call for a BODY RUB!! Oh and the eye contact thing... it's like ummm i'm not going to "gaze into your eyes" the whole hour because your a creepy gross dirty old man who's asking a bunch of weird questions. How do they not get this??
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
I think everyone is a type of sex work gets beyond frustrated at time since the customers always want " more ". My set up is similar to Amberlly's.
It definitely is frustrating, but you can get usually get a session out of 'em by just saying something like " well ... I don't discuss details or fake chemistry. The chemistry has to be real and we can see how things go in the first session ".
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
As usual there's always those jackasses that can't just go pay an escort for the services they want. Their desire is to try to get FS for the price of a bodyrub. So yeah I'd just tell those men " you have the wrong ad" and move on.
Personally these men sound like closet rapists seeking boundary pushing which is what they're really getting off on.
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
Lol that's not horrible,now If you had let him finger you that'd be different:)I allow some roaming as well just not in any orifices:)I wouldn't do another session with him though he seems too shaky/unpredictable and might try more the next time trying to see all he can get & push boundaries.
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Originally Posted by
amberlly
Yes!!!
I work at a parlour which is massage and spa - NO EXTRAs. Nobody does them either or you get fired instantly.
There are plenty of other parlours that offer more and thats fine but we don't.
Anyway, I had one bad experience I can't shake. I was in the spa with this needy, cashed up client. He is chattering away and making all these rules, like we have to have his favourite spa, he can't have ANY other one. I have to fold my clothes - NEATLY.
Anyway, so he extends his booking - make it two hours. Normally Id be thrilled but I wanted to scream. We still had another hour to go!!!
I don't do extras. I was sitting on his lap, looking over his shoulder and letting him play with my boobs and run his hands up and down my stomach. I was just gazing into space and in my own little orbit.
He then moves his hands lower but I was off with the pixies and didn't notice until he starts whining.
Mm I don't like pubic hair on girls. Your smooth. This is going above and beyond what anyone else offers. Do you do this with other clients? If I tell anyone your going to be in big trouble. Hmm what should I do.
I realized what was happening and freaked out. I felt really guilty for letting him touch me there, its against the rules - mine and the parlours!! I just froze and he was telling me I'm cheeky and its my fault. So I apologized. I was ready to cry and walk out of the spa and confess to management - get dressed and quit.
He is one of their most regular clients and Im the disposable new girl. He moves his hands and goes on this self-righteous little rant about rules. I NEVER told him to do that. Yes - its my fault for not paying total attention and zoning out.
Then he wants to cuddle? WTF and says he will book me again.. And couldn't work out why I refused to make eye contact with him or was looking 'worried' and 'upset'.
I still feel guilty for letting that happen. It feels like my fault for not having pubic hair or something so he could 'tell'. WTF (He was just touching the very top area just below my stomach/pelvis line and NOT inside).
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
Omgg I hate that too!With a passion like it should be mandatory to give them any type of sex(oral or anal) in their session.Lol @ creepy gross dirty old man,I had this one guy come in for a bodyrub he looked very much ancient heezing like he should be on a respirator and wanted me to spank him during his bodyrub session.Omg I was like sweet baby jesus I don't do fetishes sir even though I dabble in it a little.
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Originally Posted by
yellowrose25
Yes! They all do it and it's annoying. Some worse than others...but I really can't stand the ones who act like sex should be included (with no extra fee) and complain the whole hour that they're not getting that....well you did call for a BODY RUB!! Oh and the eye contact thing... it's like ummm i'm not going to "gaze into your eyes" the whole hour because your a creepy gross dirty old man who's asking a bunch of weird questions. How do they not get this??
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
Yeah I know but I'd rather not especially knowing already that they're seeking hella extras.
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Originally Posted by
carmen_b
I think everyone is a type of sex work gets beyond frustrated at time since the customers always want " more ". My set up is similar to Amberlly's.
It definitely is frustrating, but you can get usually get a session out of 'em by just saying something like " well ... I don't discuss details or fake chemistry. The chemistry has to be real and we can see how things go in the first session ".
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
^ Sometimes it's best to just stay away. The people who text who want full details of a session especially are who I DON'T want to see . It's often the cops anyway and even it's not law enforcement .... it screams boundary pusher. I'm a little different outcall v.s. incall . For outcall ( where I'm alone with them ) I screen much more carefully and don't tolerate any difficultly. For incall ( where we are never alone ) , I use more "luring " tactics.
It's always better to be careful because no amount is really worth your safety.
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
I'd rather just stay away from ppl who push boundaries and try to manipulate at the same time.
Dirty talk sure, tease of course and I dont mind if you ask and then accept it if I say no.
OMG but the people who are really annoying are the guys I meet away from work who are old/lonely and totally into me but I have no way of saying "BTW we can hang out if you visit me here..$$''
I swear I have a talk to me face
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
Hi girls :)
I do outcall FBSMM. I agree that lately some guys have been looking for a lot more than erotic massage. I do not know whats up with it but it is annoying. Sometimes I get extremely mad and just blacklist them for being to graphic or requesting explicit things.
Whatever, there is no shortage of good guys looking for what we do provide :)
The rest just have to be weeded out. Sonetimes also, I ask guys NOT to review me, I think guys want girls with lots of reviews but im really on the fence about how many reviews I want done on me.
Blah blah blah im rambling now. Lol.
But ddo any of you bay area ladies have sites you frequent-use that are worth checking out? Sites OTHER than Ter (im in there) p411 date check or naughty reviews (I dont want to be on those sites, they keep toobmuch info on us-no thanks!)
Xo Alexa V.
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
Hi girls :)
I do outcall FBSMM. I agree that lately some guys have been looking for a lot more than erotic massage. I do not know whats up with it but it is annoying. Sometimes I get extremely mad and just blacklist them for being to graphic or requesting explicit things.
Whatever, there is no shortage of good guys looking for what we do provide :)
The rest just have to be weeded out. Sonetimes also, I ask guys NOT to review me, I think guys want girls with lots of reviews but im really on the fence about how many reviews I want done on me.
Blah blah blah im rambling now. Lol.
But ddo any of you bay area ladies have sites you frequent-use that are worth checking out? Sites OTHER than Ter (im in there) p411 date check or naughty reviews (I dont want to be on those sites, they keep toobmuch info on us-no thanks!)
Xo Alexa V.
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
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Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
i was browsing through ads on eros in my area under bodyrub and tantra providers and noticed something - some fbsm workers have ads offering their regular sessions as well as "intimate sessions" (which i'm assuming are escorting sessions). has this always been a thing? i'd like to know if anyone's tried doing something like this.
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
Lets name names on this. First, the government is to blame for shutting down and policing advertising avenues that help the right provider meet the right client. Most problems stem from the simple fact that all of us that are involved in sex work are persecuted with the constant threat of being beaten, imprisoned, and our money taken by the government. So, many of the disingenuous advertising techniques have developed that confuse both clients and providers - simply because of the illegality of some sex work.
Secondly, you have predators that use the confusion and illegality for their own ends, this includes abusive pimps and pushy clients looking to get free, discounted, or non-menu services. I have read clients whose stories relay great satisfaction in conning and bullying for non-menu services and who spin tales of stringing along Sugar-babies for no money. I hate even calling these men clients, its more than they deserve. These are pervs with or without sex work and shouldn't be trusted in any part of society and certainly not to be trusted alone in the room naked. They love the murky waters of illegality, its where they thrive, if all sex work where legal you could shame them, sue them, and have them tossed out on their ear. The OP has no blame for zoning out, we all zone out at work, we should be able to do so without getting our space violated - even if that personal space is a tiny one during an intimate encounter.
FS indy providers are not to blame, yes, some are advertising in ways that confuse the working environment for other sex workers, but they are only doing it to avoid Leo. If left alone, without violent coercion, there would be no confusing advertising and the predators would stand out and be more easily condemned. I'm thankful for Indy providers and don't like seeing sex workers point fingers at each other when the predators and government are to blame.
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
I have done the bodyrubs before and while it was good I found that a lot of guys wanted FS, DATY, greek, nuru, tantra, prostate massages or I got a lot of guys wanting to pop twice or more for the same damn price! I would always tell those guys you looked in the wrong section or why didn't you call an escort? They would always say some bullshit reason like "Oh I don't like escorts" or "Oh well I didn't understand, I mean afterall you on the (insert name here) website" and my favorite one was "I liked your pics". Which is all bullshit because they just wanted to engage in escort services without having to pay escort prices. It kind of reminds me of what so called sugardaddies try to do. I mean really? WTF do these guys really think I'm going to kiss them, let them finger me, etc. It's a fucking massage! Don't even get me started on the ones that want nuru, tantric, shower, or prostate massage. I honestly think those go beyond the standard massage and should be categorized and treated as such because there is no way in hell me or any other bodyrub lady I have spoken to does that.
Re: Are there any other Bodyrub or fbsm providers on here?#Another Rant of course lol
^ Yeah. I've cut way back into mostly retiring / working vanilla now but even when I go back for just a day or two this is extremely irritating. I only see probably 10-20% of the people who contact . It's a VERY high volume of either : flat out trolling ( asking for pics or seeking attention with no intention to book), stupid customers asking for explicit details , the cops asking for explicit details, or just doing something else offensive ! Ha. I'm actually considering getting a screener for real this time ( I've talked about it before ) to help me when I occassionally want to work.