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New vanilla job is ruining my income
So I haven't been camming regularly because I got a vanilla job at a gas station. Like my fiance wanted. Although now that he sees how much money we're losing he me to do both and I only have energy for one. Let me tell you it's not going to be the gas station. I worked 5 days last week at this place, each 5 hour shifts.. my check was $160 for the week! That's what I make in a night on sm! So this week I'm only scheduled for 15 hrs.(the entire 2 days my daughter goes to her dad's and/or my cam days) and I know my check is going to be under $90. I am so not down for this anymore.. I'm losing $300-$400 a week! I want to quit but I don't want to make my friend that got me the job look bad. I told her I can't even pay one bill on this job alone and she said, "well everything helps right?" No! Trading $500 weekly for $150 does not help. I don't think she gets it because she lives with her dad and hasn't ever had to pay rent.
What should I do? This job is sucking the life and money out of me. I can't even show up without taking xanax I'm so stressed.
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Yeah, I think you already know the answer to that. You should quit.
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If it doesn't feel good to you.. yea you should quit.. I could say the same for cam but the money surely outweighs any pain i have....LOL
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SavannahLynnn
So I haven't been camming regularly because I got a vanilla job at a gas station. Like my fiance wanted. Although now that he sees how much money we're losing he me to do both and I only have energy for one. Let me tell you it's not going to be the gas station. I worked 5 days last week at this place, each 5 hour shifts.. my check was $160 for the week! That's what I make in a night on sm! So this week I'm only scheduled for 15 hrs.(the entire 2 days my daughter goes to her dad's and/or my cam days) and I know my check is going to be under $90. I am so not down for this anymore.. I'm losing $300-$400 a week! I want to quit but I don't want to make my friend that got me the job look bad. I told her I can't even pay one bill on this job alone and she said, "well everything helps right?" No! Trading $500 weekly for $150 does not help. I don't think she gets it because she lives with her dad and hasn't ever had to pay rent.
What should I do? This job is sucking the life and money out of me. I can't even show up without taking xanax I'm so stressed.
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Yeah.. I just don't want to be that girl that quits after 2 weeks lol. I just can't do it though, and my fiance needs to accept that it's too much pressure on me and we're going to be broke.
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ok excuse me for crossing the line.. but you don't wanna be that girl that controls her own life and doesn't let others control it?? that only leads to deep unhappiness and sadness.. trust me this is something know first hand. Your loyalty is misplaced.. I learned that from my counselor that I used to have.. I used to have so much loyalty for others... One time I even fell behing on my lawn maintenance man and I refused to have anyone cut my lawn but my lawn guy and i owed him probably 400 bucks.. and my grass in the mean time was getting higher and higher and my counselor said.. why do you have loyalty this lawn guy?? he certainly doesn't have loyalty to you?? he quit mowing your lawn without a word... No words were ever exchanged and to make matters worse he lives down the street from me, but she was RIGHT!
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SavannahLynnn
Yeah.. I just don't want to be that girl that quits after 2 weeks lol. I just can't do it though, and my fiance needs to accept that it's too much pressure on me and we're going to be broke.
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If you were in a vanilla job that had some benefits in the foreseeable future (i.e. if you were trying to build a career by day and cam by night), I'd encourage you to stay despite the low pay. But working in a gas station just isn't worth your time.
If you're looking for something that will keep you busy and help fill in a resume gap, try to find some volunteer work or an internship. But it doesn't sound like that's where your priorities are right now. So I'd say stick with camming. :)
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And this doesn't matter at all, but I had problems reading your original post due to the distracting gif in your siggy. It's cute, but it gets old quickly! Totally your call on keeping it, of course; just wanted to let you know. :)
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ok excuse me for crossing the line.. but you don't wanna be that girl that controls her own life and doesn't let others control it?? that only leads to deep unhappiness and sadness.. trust me this is something I know first hand. Your loyalty is misplaced.. I learned that from my counselor that I used to have.. I used to have so much loyalty for others... One time I even fell behind on my lawn maintenance man and I refused to have anyone cut my lawn but my lawn guy and i owed him probably 400 bucks.. and my grass in the mean time was getting higher and higher and my counselor said.. why do you have loyalty this lawn guy?? he certainly doesn't have loyalty to you?? he quit mowing your lawn without a word... No words were ever exchanged and to make matters worse he lives down the street from me, but she was RIGHT!
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SavannahLynnn
Yeah.. I just don't want to be that girl that quits after 2 weeks lol. I just can't do it though, and my fiance needs to accept that it's too much pressure on me and we're going to be broke.
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Girl don't be broke, go back to camming. Vanilla work is such a time suck without the money to show for it.
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Why do you care what they think? Are you going to be seeing these people all the time afterwards/are they close to you? The only reason I would stay is if I knew the management and wanted to help them out, or if I needed to leave on good terms for a reference.
Honestly, in most minimum wage jobs they don't really respect you /care (lol, I have to stop before I go on a socialist rant here) and there is high turnover anyway. It's not like a salaried job where you have all these benefits/cash/training at stake.
I'm reminded of that Chris Rock routine where he's like "Do you know what your employer is saying when you work for minimum wage? If I could pay you less I would...but it's illegal" :D
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If he loves you, he won't want you to do something that hurts you. This gas station job is clearly hurting you, and not just you, but him as well. He can boss you around concerning a job and finances when he gets out of his parents' house and learns what it's really like to be an adult and have to support yourself.
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Yeah I really shouldn't care I guess unless I'm happy. I don't want my fiance mad at me though. Although he said do whatever you want.. I know he didn't mean that. But come on.. do both? I don't really need that extra $90 a week if I could juggle both.
Anyway, my friend has told me to get on the manager's good side, because he's a perv and he offered her a new phone and computer etc. So I guess I'm on his "good side" because he's been flirty with me via text, but if there isn't like a $5 raise in the next 24 hrs I'm out and I won't feel bad about him having to change the schedule.
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aqua
If he loves you, he won't want you to do something that hurts you. This gas station job is clearly hurting you, and not just you, but him as well. He can boss you around concerning a job and finances when he gets out of his parents' house and learns what it's really like to be an adult and have to support yourself.
This^^^^
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I would quit. I would let the manager know that it just isn't working out the way you had expected. If you were 'unemployed' previously, just say it isn't working when you factor in daycare costs. If your friend gets mad at you, over you're ability to pay your bills, ignore her. You have to pay your bills, and 15 hours a week on minimum wage sure won't do it.
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SavannahLynnn
Anyway, my friend has told me to get on the manager's good side, because he's a perv and he offered her a new phone and computer etc. So I guess I'm on his "good side" because he's been flirty with me via text, but if there isn't like a $5 raise in the next 24 hrs I'm out and I won't feel bad about him having to change the schedule.
Oh gross, you shouldn't even feel a little bit bad about quitting that job without notice. What a skeeze. He's just a dirtbag who takes advantage of women who feel like they don't have another choice. This is the same kind of guy who would shame a woman for stripping and then convince her to suck him off for a cheap ass cell phone that she can't afford because of her lousy minimum wage job. Gross.
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Regarding the fiancee, I assume you guys live together. Tell him if you keep working at the gas station you'll pay X amount of bills every month (I say pick an amount based on the least amount of hours you'd work) and he can cover the rest. Watch how fast he tells you to just go back to cam when he realizes he has to pay an extra 1,000 (or more) a month out of HIS money.
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In fairness to your fiancé, give him a choice. If he can come up with a way to increase his own after-tax income by ~$200-$300 per week, then you can afford to blow off camming income in favor of working at a near minimum wage job like he wants. If he can't, you are 'forced' to return to camming because your fiancé has 'failed' to provide !!!
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Aurora14
Regarding the fiancee, I assume you guys live together. Tell him if you keep working at the gas station you'll pay X amount of bills every month (I say pick an amount based on the least amount of hours you'd work) and he can cover the rest. Watch how fast he tells you to just go back to cam when he realizes he has to pay an extra 1,000 (or more) a month out of HIS money.
I Like this idea! But I'm sure he's going to say do the gas station and make up the difference with camming.. which means basically keep camming until I've made my half of bills/rent. He keeps telling me he doesn't date "pornstars or strippers" but if he is really going to break up with me over this then I am not convinced of his "love." It's worth a try though. I'm going to tell him if I have to do the gas station and cam, then he is going to have to get a weekend job to make up the difference that he's paying in child support. And no going to the gym if it's time he could be working.
What sucks the most about this gas station job, is that I keep getting scheduled to work at 4am-9:30am or 2pm-7:30pm. Both shitty in their own sense. The early shift leaves me too tired to do anything else and the latter takes up the most useful hours of the day.
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Wanna know what I'd do? I'd laugh in his face and tell him it's my life and I'm doing what makes ME happy. If he doesn't like seeing ME happy then he can take a hike. No one needs to be with someone who doesn't have your best interest at heart. You should be able to work the job that you love and that brings you the most money...that only makes sense, he's being unreasonable.
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I agree with all the ladies that you should quit one way or the other. Also, don't feel bad about quitting a job ever either. You have to do whats right for YOU! You are "at -will". The day the gas station decides its your last day it would be, and they won't feel a thing (I've seen a 7 months pregnant woman who just bought a house get fired before TRUTH) Plus,wouldn't need to give a reason. Going forward you do not have to put them on a resume, because you have to give employers permission to do background checks on the ones you supply. Also, be prepared to fill in any time gaps with a very good excuse as well. lol..... If you ever care to go back vanilla.
You will free that job up to someone who may really need it (everyone can't/won't cam).....look at it that way if you need to feel better and free yourself.
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WOW, just WOW! Sometimes I just don't know what to say...
You should be more concern with your own happiness and well being before trying to please a man, or a "friend". I'm sorry but your fiance sounds like a manipulator and your "friend" is so out of line.
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Originally Posted by
SavannahLynnn
Yeah I really shouldn't care I guess unless I'm happy. I don't want my fiance mad at me though. Although he said do whatever you want.. I know he didn't mean that. But come on.. do both? I don't really need that extra $90 a week if I could juggle both.
Anyway, my friend has told me to get on the manager's good side, because he's a perv and he offered her a new phone and computer etc. So I guess I'm on his "good side" because he's been flirty with me via text, but if there isn't like a $5 raise in the next 24 hrs I'm out and I won't feel bad about him having to change the schedule.
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Marina Starr
Haha, he wishes. He's very submissive, he's just been getting out of line lately. Cunning, maybe.
Anyway, so I texted him and said, " How would you like it if I said you need to get a second job to make up the difference you're paying in child support, and if you don't I'm leaving you. Forget about going to the gym. That's time you could be working a second job."
And he said ok I'm getting another job.
Anyway, I'll probably end up quitting after today's shift. It's not worth my mental health, Time I could spend with my daughter.
I don't even have legit childcare. And I've got a payday loan to pay back, plus rent. I can't be bothered with this $8 an hour life lol.
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SavannahLynnn
I Like this idea! But I'm sure he's going to say do the gas station and make up the difference with camming.. which means basically keep camming until I've made my half of bills/rent. He keeps telling me he doesn't date "pornstars or strippers" but if he is really going to break up with me over this then I am not convinced of his "love." It's worth a try though. I'm going to tell him if I have to do the gas station and cam, then he is going to have to get a weekend job to make up the difference that he's paying in child support. And no going to the gym if it's time he could be working.
What sucks the most about this gas station job, is that I keep getting scheduled to work at 4am-9:30am or 2pm-7:30pm. Both shitty in their own sense. The early shift leaves me too tired to do anything else and the latter takes up the most useful hours of the day.
At first, bf liked me having a vanilla job because of "stability". I worked 40 hours vanilla and 1 night dancing. (He also works a 40 hour job and works a few a days a month at another job) Because of daycare, gas and car maintanence, we had an extra $200 a month. Once I quit the vanilla job and added a second day to dancing, it was easier. I made more dancing 2 nights than I did in 5 days. But we ended up with more money because there was no daycare and I cut out 5 fast food meals a week. We saw each other a lot more. He realized the value of working smarter, not harder. There have been so many times (since I quit dancing) I felt like going to get a vanilla job so we could have more money. So my bf reminds me that I'll only have $200 at the end of the month, the thought goes away and then I'm happy to make clips once a week.
Why should you give up a good paying job for a shit paying job because of his sudden insecurities? You aren't even getting full time hours... No benefits... Barely making 25% of what you made before... Like Charlie said, if you were trying to build a career by day and cam by night, it might be worth it. If he really 'loved' you, he would understand that what you are doing is to make like for BOTH of you easier. You aren't the only one who benefits from camming. I don't want to piss you off, but your fiancee sounds like an asshat. If you were doing this before you got serious and he knew about it, but now he wants to play the 'I won't date a stripper card'.... People like that just irritate me. "Do what I say because it'll make me happy. I don't care that I accepted it as part of who you are and what you did when we met. You're MINE now, and you'll make ME happy" I swear, that's what goes through their peanut brains. I'm going to stop my rant there before I get REAL bitter and piss the wrong person off.
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SavannahLynnn
I Like this idea! But I'm sure he's going to say do the gas station and make up the difference with camming.. which means basically keep camming until I've made my half of bills/rent. He keeps telling me he doesn't date "pornstars or strippers" but if he is really going to break up with me over this then I am not convinced of his "love."
The last sentence is a pretty healthy way to look at this situation, but I want to talk about him being OK with you making up the difference with camming. Not being OK with you camming at all is one thing. It's controlling and if not accompanied by extra financial compensation it's unreasonable, but it's not uncommon. But if he actually wants you to waste your time working for some pervy prick at a gas station for minimum wage and then come home and get on cam to make way more money in a shorter time period, just so he doesn't have to cover the difference in income... that is sadistic. That isn't jealousy or just "I don't date sex workers" bullshit. That is "I'll date a sex worker as long as I can keep her perpetually broke and miserable." It honestly sounds like he wants you to be unhappy.