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What you had to learn on your own camming & why you're grateful for the experience...
I'm curious to what other ladies had to learn on their own. I'll start. Why self professed 'nice guys' and 'gentlemen' aren't really.... It has been my experience that these self proclaimed 'nice fellas' and 'gentleman' will RARELY tip or go 'in show'. Yet they'll expect to chat for hours giving you frequent compliments because hey 'I'm a nice guy' and 'I'm a gentleman' and they're sure to let you know it. Repeatedly. A true nice guy, a true gentleman would value your time and tip/take you in show. I'm grateful for this because I used to waste time on these kind of people in hopes they'd eventually buy a show and of course they never did even with me inviting them to play, etc. It helped me to subscribe to the money talks bullshit walks way of thinking. I have no time for these guys anymore, and have no problem letting them know it.
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Re: What you had to learn your own camming & why you're grateful for the experience..
Yep, I like the "nice guys" well enough but they don't get my attention unless things are totally dead. I know a handful of sweethearts who mostly just want to chat, but who will tip as they go and respect the fact that I'm working. :)
I somehow learned how to be The Sex Icon at parties, ha! I used to be such a wallflower. I look and dress essentially the same way, but now I grab attention like a sponge. It's kind of weird. I think that bubbly, teasing personality I had to train for working MFC slowly filtered into my real-life public persona.
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Re: What you had to learn your own camming & why you're grateful for the experience..
I've learned that not all women are backstabbing bitches!
Before I became a camgirl I truly believed that another women could never be trusted. They would all sell you out for the attention of a man in a second. I never had any close female friends because past experience taught me that was just a bad idea.
But now that I've become a camgirl, I feel like that scene in 'The Last Unicorn' where she finds out that she wasn't alone and that they were all hiding in the sea.
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Thanks for being amazing girls! You all truly rock.
*Mwah!*
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Camming has taught me to not base my self worth and value on how I look.
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Camming has taught me that I/we can do a job without the materials that we have today, IF you really have/want to! I started on Dial-up. It's harder to get by, but you have to learn to float not sink. Many nights I logged off when I first started camming because I was very nervous, then day after day camming became easier and I know others had to learn to just do it as I have... wing it. Wow, how the world of cam has changed!
Guess I am saying I had no support, and can be a self starter.
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Camming has taught me to love my body. Rolls, stray hairs and all.
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I used to be so shamed of my body. Society has really gotten in my head on what a woman supposed to look like. Camming has taught me to love and accept myself and my body, flaws and all.
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Nocturnelle
Camming has taught me to love my body. Rolls, stray hairs and all.
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Re: What you had to learn on your own camming & why you're grateful for the experienc
there's a bunch of threads about this same thing.
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MellyMay
there's a bunch of threads about this same thing.
Maybe I didn't do as thorough of a search as I thought I did on this topic. I know we have why camming rocks threads among others along the same subject and the importance of having gratitude threads as well, but I didn't see a match for what you had to learn on your own (as in I wouldn't of listened to anyone had they told me, I had to experience it myself sort of deal) and why you are grateful for the experience one. I didn't mean to repeat the subject. :)
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The Scarlet Letter
Maybe I didn't do as thorough of a search as I thought I did on this topic. I know we have why camming rocks threads among others along the same subject and gratitude as well, but I didn't see a match for what you had to learn on your own (as in I wouldn't of listened to anyone had they told me, I had to experience myself sort of deal) and why you are grateful for the experience one. I didn't mean to repeat the subject.
i need to apologize, actually. the prev thread is several pages back and hard to find. i'm in jerk mode today and you don't deserve that! i actually really enjoy these types of positive threads and it's so valueable to reflect on lessons learned in such a small but huge industry.
Many sorries bb.
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I never realized just how many guys are fucking perverts. If I didn't already know a couple really good guys in my life and I wasn't married, I'd probably be a lesbian at this point.
Also, there really never is any way to fully prepare to go on cam for the first time. I spent tons of hours researching before I finally took the step to go on cam but even then I wasn't prepared at all. Being on the other side of the cam is much different than watching.
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I learned on my own to silently ban trolls without giving them any public attention. Doing so only brings negative energy to your room. I used to sometimes fight with them but now I don't give them what they want.
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MellyMay
there's a bunch of threads about this same thing.
Very true, but in my humble opinion there is always something to be gained from going over something positive -- even if it is only for nostalgia's sake.
Edited to add: Opps....I didn't see your awesome and heartfelt apology. Sorry about that MellyMay! This is what I get for not reading the thread backwards. ;)
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I had to learn virtually everything on my own when I started camming.
had a friend at the first studio I worked at who told me about SM, and MFC, but other than that, I knew nothing about it.
I didn't even know about this forum until 2 years after I had started camming.
I've always been a curious person, so I'm grateful that I got to do things my way when I started, because I did my research.:teacher:
I'm grateful that things are always evolving, because it keeps it fresh. For me, camming itself can be repetitious and very boring, mainly because I'm use to being out in the field working, as opposed to staring at words on a screen, and being asked to do the same things over and over again.
I didn't grow up with computers, or texting, so I'm used to face time, and not having human contact takes some getting used to.
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Camming/sex work has taught me that it's OK to have curves, that a round bubbly butt is sexy (really none of my past boyfriends even liked it, now I realize it is a major a$$et!). For a while I thought men just care about looks but now I've come to see that most men see your personality and sex appeal shine through, no matter what you look like, and this is what attracts. I've learned through sex work that even if someone isn't your type, often we can connect to them in a moment in time and see what's inside. I also discovered I have tremendous power of empathy to put myself in other people's minds to some degree and just "get" their fetishes, no matter what it is really, understand it and make them believe it is my fetish almost, because for that moment in time, it is.
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I have learned that the cam girls I have met personally... are Wonderful. Networking in person and putting faces/personalities with name is great. Networking here is fabulous. I have learned so much from all of you. Carey Riley helped me to figure out the encoder and showed me how to get online on cam.. lol
Now I have also learned that it's okay to admit my age on cam (50). There are a few jerks out there making Gilf comments but they don't get to hang in my room. I have a few pounds/wrinkles that I did not have in my 20's but it's okay. Even on my worst hair/makeup day on cam someone comes in to tell me I am beautiful and then if I give them a good show.. :) I am glad to help out.
Thanks to all on here who have offered advice and kept encouraging me to not give up. Camgirls- Camladies ROCK!!!
Oh.. and I learned I can squirt... lol which hubby loves ;)
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^^ Well put! It seems that the older I put my age, the better I do on cam! I was so worried about starting camming at my age, because all I saw at the studio were girls in their 20's, but now, I realize, guys love cougars, and fantasize about being with a mature woman. Plus, it makes it easier for me to do cam to cam, because I have always dated younger guys, and most of my cuties are Hot, Hot Hot!!:hot:
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- I learned that a smile is truly the sexiest thing you can wear.
That it can affect my earning by an 50% increase when I keep my smile up and feel happy on the inside.
I learned that you feel better with a smile on your face, bec of camming. I smile a lot more in my free time, which makes me instantly happy. I can even - make myself feel happy inside- like truly happy inside my body if I focus on it, which is amazing to me (I have been in severly depression before I started camming). It feel like camming has been a form of therapy for me, which helped me to focus on the positive and happy side of life.
- I learned to not kick silent members in free chat, because the silent ones tend to be the ones who bring me Long pvt/excl by just clicking that button
- Also I learned that there is that "sexy point" in free chat you dont want to cross because guys will just wank off for free bec your just to hot. I know now guys can get off from very little, so I give them close to nothing in free chat
- talking to freely and chitchat doesnt work for my earnings, I have to keep the talk sexy because else they will keep chatting me to death without paying me for shows
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SophiaSylvan
I thought men just care about looks but now I've come to see that most men see your personality and sex appeal shine through, no matter what you look like, and this is what attracts.
So true, and it makes me appreciate the guys more because of it.
It makes me look different towards myself, towards guys in general and shows there is a lot more that makes someone beautifull (obviously) but even on cam- a visual medium. I love the fact that I could tell my best girlfiend who asked about "what type the topgirls on the site are", that they are all different appearance wise but they all share an outgoing alluring, mysterious and/or sexy personality and hae to ability to engage
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I've learn I have some kind of potential for this, I thought I didn't! I get to be an attention whore and talk to strangers and be weird and bossy and acting acting acting which I love so much. I have social phobia and it's kind of cool doing this because I don't really enjoy attention IRL and I don't think I could act ever in my life.
Also before, I thought, ugh this guys watches cam, now I get some of them really know what they're doing, and are completely detached, even though they treat you nice. Some are just plain stupid. It thought me interesting guys are usually broke but I don't care anymore.
I get to be whoever I want to be, a spunky bitch or a nice sweetheart.
I AM sooo grateful for teaching me how to be more independent. It boosted my self-esteem like crazy, who wouldn't know? I used to hate my body a lot, my boobs, my legs, my smile. Man, I have crooked teeth and more and more often guys are telling me i have the sweetest smile, what the fuck? And truly didn't know that doing this kind of jobs would help me to feel more confident about myself.
I have many issues, sure, and when I'm too emotional unstable I just don't cam, but right now I'm stronger on this. So yay!
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1. That my body is worth money, and I shouldn't show it for free to just anyone (no problem with anyone who does--this is just my own personal thing)
2. I agree with the "nice guy" thing. They want freebies because they're nice. They want freebies because a woman fucked them over. They want freebies because they do this and that. That's cool, but I'm a nice girl and the world doesn't owe me shit so I don't owe you anything either.
3. A lot of women in this world legitimately hate women because of whatever reason they have. They hate the fact that women can make good money camming.
4. It's not about looks, it's about personality. I've seen Barbie looking gorgeous women with 300 cam scores. And girls who are eh with a 5000 score and make tons of money and have a ton of followers.
5. That women really do run the world in a way. We can make so much money off men, and get a lot of things if we flash cleavage or whatever.
6. Again on the personality thing... most guys are actually interested in reading your profile and finding out about you.
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Kaii
I have social phobia and it's kind of cool doing this because I don't really enjoy attention IRL and I don't think I could act ever in my life.
I get to be whoever I want to be, a spunky bitch or a nice sweetheart.
It boosted my self-esteem like crazy, who wouldn't know? I used to hate my body a lot, my boobs, my legs, my smile. Man, I have crooked teeth and more and more often guys are telling me i have the sweetest smile, what the fuck? And truly didn't know that doing this kind of jobs would help me to feel more confident about myself.
ALL of these things! I used to detest my body, I still don't find all of my parts aesthetically pleasing, but guys have taught me that if they can appreciate it, I can too. I might not have long legs, or straight white teeth but they love how strong and curvy my legs are, and how my face lights up when I smile. I think many would assume sex work would teach you to hate your body or objectify yourself, feeling it needs to be perfect, but it's not the case. Objectively I can see that I have more mass appeal when I am more fit and maybe a little more money, but I have many, many guys who love me with a little more. It's made me really have a different point of view. Men are horn dogs, and they get turned on by all kinds of women, I think that's great. We women are often way too hard on ourselves.
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^^ yep that's the thing. I don't really care about my being attractive to others IRL, sometimes i just hate being with people. I've heard before sex-work was so empowering but I didn't believe it. I'm a feminist, I've been dealing with serious issues about sex bc things happened to me in the past so I didn't want to become a sexual object. So i had my doubts about it but now... But it's what you say Sophia. You don't need to be perfect. You already are.
BTW SORRY for misspelling or grammar mistakes, I'm sooo sleep deprived I'm not even sure how to structure sentence anymore lol this forum is my only distraction from study hard hard hard.
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^^ yep that's the thing. I don't really care about my being attractive to others IRL, sometimes i just hate being with people. I've heard before sex-work was so empowering but I didn't believe it. I'm a feminist, I've been dealing with serious issues about sex bc things happened to me in the past so I didn't want to become a sexual object. So i had my doubts about it but now... But it's what you say Sophia. You don't need to be perfect. You already are.
OMG my post didnt even make sense... so SORRY for misspelling or grammar mistakes, I'm sooo sleep deprived I'm not even sure how to structure sentences anymore lol this forum is my only distraction from study hard hard hard.
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I have learned that camming truly is a 'sales job' and I'm grateful for the brutality and honesty of it because it prepares you for other things in life. I know that because I experienced selling to men, I can sell to anyone and it makes for a great business skill.
Also, camming has been an amazing teacher when it comes to depending on oneself. My whole life I've leaned on others to take care of me and when I started camming full time I got hit with reality more times that I'd like to have. It tells me that if I don't work, I don't eat, I don't get to keep a roof over my head, and I don't get to enjoy the finer things in life.
It's a great teacher because when I used to depend on a man and my parents, I was sheltered. Camming made me grow up real quick because I've made mistakes (not paying the internet bill on time) and with the quickness it put me back in my place.
There's nothing more eye opening than realizing you were irresponsible with your own job (as your own boss) and your internet bill is due, they've shut you off, and you can't even work to pay for food, rent, bills, gas, etc.
Once you've made that mistake you learn your lesson and you don't do it again. That kind of silence and helplessness is the worst teacher and knowing that I did that to myself taught me a valuable lesson. Don't fuck with the hand that feeds you, even your own! haha.