Unsupportive family members
I have a very wonderful brother, with whom I'm extremely close and honest about everything. He knows that I'm a dancer and supports me, never judges, etc. i always discuss with him difficult situation in my life, always ask advice and he always gives it to me. He's the only real family I have, because I'm not close with anyone else. I pretty much rely very heavily on him and use his moral support a lot! Here's the thing, I go to school and will graduate soon and I also am thinking of buying a cleaning franchise, as I have enough money to do so because of my dancing years. When I tell my brother about it though, he doesn't say anything directly, but I can just sense that he's very skeptical about it. That discourages me. I'm probably not independent enough then I guess, but it's just so hard for me when the only person who usually is so supportive is suddenly so skeptical of my ability to run a business.
Does anybody have any kind of similar situation?
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Why ask him why he's reacting this way? Is he jealous? Does he have enough info?
ETA: I meant, "Why not ask him..."
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maybe he has other concerns, and its not just about your abilities to own a business..ask him what's on his mind if you want his input. weigh the advice, but take it with a grain of salt because in the end its your decision. its great to have emotional support and love, but that doesn't mean they have to be crazy about everything you do. that doesn't mean they love you any less or course. that's the biggest thing i've learned in the way of family support and love. my dad obviously isn't psyched about me undressing for hundreds of men lol but he isn't going to insult me, disown me, or judge me and force his own opinions down my throat. i know he loves me, and wants the best for me and he's glad that i'm now making enough money to live comfortably.
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He knows literally everything. I asked him, but he's always getting away from the answer somehow and changes topic. As far as jealousy, I don't think so, because he has never been jealous of me before and he has a very good life himself. So I don't know what to think....
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simone87
maybe he has other concerns, and its not just about your abilities to own a business..ask him what's on his mind if you want his input. weigh the advice, but take it with a grain of salt because in the end its your decision. its great to have emotional support and love, but that doesn't mean they have to be crazy about everything you do. that doesn't mean they love you any less or course. that's the biggest thing i've learned in the way of family support and love. my dad obviously isn't psyched about me undressing for hundreds of men lol but he isn't going to insult me, disown me, or judge me and force his own opinions down my throat. i know he loves me, and wants the best for me and he's glad that i'm now making enough money to live comfortably.
He tells me that if I want to start a business, I need to make more money dancing, so that I have a cushion so to speak if the business fails. The thing of it is though is that when I graduate, I don't want to dance anymore. I wanted to move on.....
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I have a disability fund and an emergency fund, bc things have a way of going el fucko when you very much need them not to (i.e., when all your moohlah is in the business, or you're on the line for multiple potential liabilities, like another's wages or higher taxes).
Perhaps he's pushing for that? I agree with him.
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It is possible in his idea of being supportive telling you that your business idea is a bad one is not being supportive.
Why franchise?
Why not start your own business?
franchises frequently take a big chunk of capital and can return little of value
do lots of research