keeping wok/home seperate
Don't know if ill explain myself very well as I am a bit upset right now. Strippers with boyfriends/hubbys.... how do you separate the two like I know its not good to come home and tell your man all the gross shit you had 2encounter at work maybe briefly its ok but do you think it would affect the relationship? I usually do tell because me and him have a open relationship exp extras but that would beunderstandable also does he expect you to do the same at home? how does it make you feel. when I get home I don't want to be that dirty slutty girl I have to pretend to be at work im sick of it but in a way I feel like I must to keep him interested. How do you gals deal?
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Sometimes it's hard. I try not to unload on my husband when I've had a bad night because I know he worries about me. If some guy is an asshole, I try to leave it at the club and just be 100% home when I'm home.
I know that's easier said than done but it's good to do it with any job. The adult industry is nice because you can actually make up a whole new personality to use at work and then just leave it behind when you go home. I think that's made it much easier for me. With every vanilla job I've had, I find myself bringing it home and worrying or working on projects when I should be enjoying time with my family. Using a fake name and backstory helps me shed all that at the end of the night.
As for the slutty stuff, I just don't do it. I act like me when I'm with my husband. He doesn't get the fake persona I am at work. At the same time, the customers don't ever get the real me. So, I think he should feel pretty special.
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but what if he wants to see that side of you or hates it that you are that there but not when your home??
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but what if he wants to see that side of you or hates it that you are that there but not when your home??
Then we wouldn't have been compatible in the first place and we never would have married. My husband married me, not a fake personality I put on so I can succeed at work.
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sometimes it can be hard because my boyfriend will want me to dress up for him, or do a strip tease and i'm just so sick of doing that for work..all i wanna do is relax and work has taken the fun out of "dressing up".
but i am into roleplaying, so that can kind of breathe new life into it..you just have to find things that turn you both on.
this is really bad, but sometimes whenever he will go to grab my ass/boobs, or touch me i will automatically flinch and take his hands away because i'm so used to it at the club. its just a knee-jerk reaction
as for unloading on them, i am SOO guilty of that. i need to stop..that's why we have stripper web. i won't flat out lie to my boyfriend but he probably doesn't need to hear about some paunchy old dude trying to finger me.
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Mine met me as a stripper (he had just turned 21 and I duly relieved him of his virginity) }:D so not much phases him. Sometimes he will get a little big for his britches (bragging to his friends, etc) but overall he takes it in stride. I try to keep work talk to a minimum though. I have only seen him get jealous ONE time and that was when a hottie with long hair and tattoos got a dance with me. He likes to play GTA V and brag to his buddies on Xbox live that he can fuck real strippers anytime he wants. Kids these days, lol.
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My husband is very supportive. Frankly, I work at a relatively easy club and have a very low ratio of asshole customers. However I had one that bothered me last week, I told my husband about it and he helped cheer me up.
Act like yourself around your partner. I don't act dirty or slutty at work either though.
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I have told my previous bf the good, the bad & the ugly. Maybe that was part of why he left, I will nvr know since he wouldn't tell me.
As for my (semi)current he knew me b4 I was a dancer. He knows me better than almost any1 & so knows if I am acting at all like my club persona, I am either making fun of smtg, telling a story abt work or we are w/ sm1 from work who by virtue of being 'sm1 from work' does not get to see (much of) the real me. He also knows enough from what I have told him over the yrs that I am really ME when I come home.
I try not to unload too much, bc like others have mentioned he does worry, but I did unload on him sm over the yrs we were just friends & he understands that shit happens sm times.
We are both pretty low-key by nature so the 'dressing up' is not really a problem. We are the same hgt so tall heels are out & he knows I hate them anyway -- he only suggests them when he is teasing me & wants to see me stumble abt in them :) he will also discretely call me out when we are waiting in line or smtg & he notices me poppīg my bum out of boredom. It is a running joke.
I have sm times messed w/ him when we are going to sleep tho. I usually sleep on my stomach & he starts out on his side, facing me bc we are snuggling & if he has his hand on my bum I will pop it a bit just to goof on him. His half-asleep 'stop that b4 I get turned on' is always good for a laugh.
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^ Mine always demands "boobie snuggles" aka "boobie heaven". He buries his face in between my tits when we sleep.
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My husband was one of my really long term regulars, so he's had plenty of time to observe the SC atmosphere and it's range of facets. So it's honestly something we both get a tremendous kick out of. I mean, since he's seen me in action over the course of years and is therefore fully aware of my particular pretentious boundaries within the club, there really isnt any room for imagination or misinterpretation. However, I don't find too many nights exciting enough to be story-worthy these days, so consequently my husband isn't overloaded with SC tales.
As for doing strippery stuff at home for him? My take on that is he wants to experience the strippery part of me(which really isn't that fascinating because I'm me at work-just naked and dancing) then he's more than welcome to come to the club and pay me like everyone else.
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He buries his face in between my tits when we sleep.
definitely going for the biggest 'pillows' no doubt !!!