Discomforted by other dancer
There's this girl who works with me at my club, we almost never communicate when we work together, but sometimes we can exchange a couple of words with each other but that's about it.
Here the thing, every time we do communicate for whatever reason, say we are in room together or something, I always feel a lot if negative energy coming from her towards me. Every time she looks at me, I see sarcasm in her eyes, she looks me up and down all the time. When I dance for somebody, I can always feel her watching me unless she's in the room, and if I turn around, I see that she is indeed watching me with that same sarcastic look of hers.
I cannot machine her being jealous because she's very pretty and makes a lot of money, but I don't know what it is. Lately I've noticed that when she is at work, I make less than when she's off and I'm working. I'm probably way too sensitive, however it's the very first time I have an experience like that. I've worked in many clubs with many girls and nobody ever gave me that vibe. I'm friends or at least friendly with everybody at my work always.
I don't want to change club either because I love this one I'm in and I am in a very good relationship with management and have made wonderful dancer friends and gained a great customer base. What do I do?
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You realize how extraordinarily lucky you are to have never encountered a co-worker like her until now!
Seriously, all you can do is avoid her and focus on yourself. Trying to ask her why she doesn't like you will get you nowhere.
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Why are you even paying attention to other dancers? You're not there for friends you're there for money. You're not completely green at this. Ignore the bitch and move on.
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some girls are just bitches. throw her a big smile, and continue on your way. some girls are just poisonous, don't let her get to you or give her that satisfaction. if you haven't run into it before, you WILL again in the future. don't let her run you off, or make you change clubs. that's just ridiculous.
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What Tempest said. Dancers will do this and best to ignore. Don't be friends with dancers in general that you work with.
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I could give two shits if other dancers like me or not. They're not paying my bills so why the fuck should I pay them any mind? Granted I'm starting at a new club in 2 weeks where most of em are model thin. I'm nervous as hell. But at the end of the day nothing else matters but ME.
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Just ignore her. And be grateful that this is the first time you've encountered a nasty dancer!
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In any job you will encounter negative people but in an industry where competition affects income it can get intense. As a dancer you should have a thick skin at least at work. She's obviously threatened by you & looks aren't the only thing that is playing into her insecurity. I've has many exceptionally beautiful women dislike me. Who knows why. Charisma & personality can often intimidate more than just a pretty face. Like, damn she's the whole package. Ignore her & avoid her BC a snake can pounce anytime. Haters gna hate! & hey like katt Williams says if people aren't hating on you you need to step it up.
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There's at least one of these wherever you are. Some people are just assholes, and no matter how nice you are, she will never like you. The girl I work with who is snooty and rude to almost everyone had a terrible day two weeks ago. I suggested she talk to one customer, and then I talked another guy into getting a few dances from her and I. I'm sure she still hates me. She is 19 and dumb, and I'm 32 and couldn't give a shit less! (no offense to the young ones on here)
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cleopatra216
Haters gna hate! & hey like katt Williams says if people aren't hating on you you need to step it up.
One of my customers told me that his goal for the year was to gain 3 haters! Lol. Sounds like a good goal. That's how you know you are doing something worth being jealous of.
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It's uncomfortable for sure when we sense that someone is relating to us from a place of animosity. I would suggest that you ground yourself before you enter the work environment and put up some energetic boundaries (do a google search). Remind self: What other people think of me is none of my business!
I had a similar situation and one day, the girl in question (the club Queen Bee) asked to sit down with me, and proceeded to tell me she had been unsure of me at first but now she felt that I was an extremely considered person who showed remarkable insight.
My expectations were that she stared at me and didn't like me but really, she was taking her time to get to know me (by observation).
When all is siad and done, one person in the environment isn't too bad! Hopefully you can learn to feel secure in yourself and your ability to handle the situation. Best of Luck.
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It's easy to jump to conclusions and we all do it. A few weeks ago we had a new girl who was staring at me constantly. I was ready to pull an LL Cool J and knock the bitch out when she approached me. "I'm sorry if it seems like I'm grilling you but I forgot my glasses at home and I was trying to squint at your tattoos." Yeah. Big Whoops. I have a new gym buddy.
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azaleanola
You realize how extraordinarily lucky you are to have never encountered a co-worker like her until now! .
^This. The best thing that you can do in this situation is to ignore this dancer. Avoid her and keep to yourself. If you do have to work with her, continue doing what you are doing (not really communicating unless it's necessary i.e. faking a relationship for the customer's sake, hustling together etc). She'll get over it and find someone else to hate, eventually. If not, continue to ignore her.