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justanothercamgirl
Does anyone have any tips about balancing work and self-care? It seems that I really suck when it comes to that skill set. LOL!
Which aspect of self-care are you having problems with?
Personally, I have a short list of self-care things I absolutely can't skip for fear of having an awful crash, and then a list of nice-to-haves that I'll do if I have more energy or if somebody is around to help me out.
For essentials, I legit set a timer on my phone, that not only tells me what to do, but also why, or sometimes even with how-to details. (I get brain-foggy if I'm super tired.) E.g. "eat a snack because otherwise you'll sugar crash, there're apples in the fruitbowl", or "break time! watch an episode of X, it's more restful than twitter".
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justanothercamgirl
Does anyone have any tips about balancing work and self-care? It seems that I really suck when it comes to that skill set. LOL!
Only accept clients that you want to have. Skip the draining and pushing guys, put your health on number one and money down the list. Because ultimately it will bring you more money.
Feel the freedom of deciding which client you want to entertain and which you dont
Also feel freedom in saying no and in stating your limits during a show.
Build up slow and see what you can handle. Dont compare youself to others. Look at your own progress and your own victories. If you can work 20 minutes a day and the next 30, celebrate
Putting health at number one and gratutide and love way up my priority and core value list helps me out a lot
Doing this excercise in the morning now and it helps me inmensly
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=smhzRqHkpZs
Put yourself first and others second
dont blame yourself for not doing something but celebrate what you could do even if it is not breaking any new grounds but you could manage to stay calm and feel love towrds yourself while beng sick- victory!
Listen to your body and nourish yourself. not only the body but also the mind.
Things that helped me the most; eating healthy (esp veggies and nuts and protein), drinking enough water, seeying the sunlight, going into nature, meditation, gratitude, selflove, yoga, growth through reading books
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Girlsssss I have exciting news!
I just called my rheumatologist and asked if I can experiment with dropping one of my medications... I have been taking Humira for 6 months, and it helped me greatly, feeling no backpain so i could stergthen myself doing my excersises without pain and picking up daily routines. But it has some negatives to, which are chronic yeast infections ( a bit under corntoll with a very strict diet but still not enough to not get all the symptoms under control.. tried multiple medication against yeast infections and probiotics + very strict diet for months (no sugar no mushroom no starch, without cheating) and its just not enough... Humira makes the yeast so strong, that it is still active trough months of no sugar and medication against it and med to help fight it
Also I am having a pms disorder bec of the humira and only having a couple of days in between. Constanly having pms is draining all energy out of me.
I feel like my body is giving warning signs, and I hope so strongly i can do wthout Humira (which ives increased risk at cancer and a loooooonnnng list of other serious illnesses)
crossing my fingers that I will be strong enough to be painfree without and ho[ping i will be able to continuing my diet and excersises to keep healthy
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justanothercamgirl
Does anyone have any tips about balancing work and self-care? It seems that I really suck when it comes to that skill set. LOL!
PS I made a list of all the things that are important for my health and I have been putting them into a cross-of list. I cross off whatever things I accomplished that day, and I made a sticker book so I can get all fancy with it and reward myself when doing a certain amount of things =)
my list contains:
eating healthy and clean (no cheating allowed, or else no sticker) most important veggies, 2 fruits (3 if very tired), enough water, nuts, proteins (milk, cheese or meat) NO sugar allowed (only natural sugars like sugar that is already inside the fruit) and no starch allowed, no premade dinners
going to the gym 5x a week
doing my backpain excersises 2x a day
seeying sunlight
going online everyday
sleeping less than 8 hours a day (i get depressed quickly when sleeping more)
recently made a steady daily schedule and scheduled in all of the above so it becomes a vast routine/ritual. I know how it is so have a steady sc hedule though when you are sick, I ahvent had one in 1.5 years because of it. work towards your goals and dont beat yourself while creating your own path
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I have such a huge anxiety and i am so so scared. Two doctors, two diffrent opinions about my thyroid problem, i just want to be alright & all this to stop. Tomorrow I will consult de positive doctor again to ask more questions and have more tests, it sucks making medical decisions. The thing is i am off my thyroid meds of 3 weeks & my anxiety levels are crazy (i feel like crying a lot). I have to work today trough all that, untill i have some answers tomorrow (hopefully- the doc is crazy busy all the time). 8 h of camming under anxiety, i hope it's gonna be an easy day, with kind guys. Vent over. Lol.
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DancesWithSloths
Which aspect of self-care are you having problems with?
Personally, I have a short list of self-care things I absolutely can't skip for fear of having an awful crash, and then a list of nice-to-haves that I'll do if I have more energy or if somebody is around to help me out.
For essentials, I legit set a timer on my phone, that not only tells me what to do, but also why, or sometimes even with how-to details. (I get brain-foggy if I'm super tired.) E.g. "eat a snack because otherwise you'll sugar crash, there're apples in the fruitbowl", or "break time! watch an episode of X, it's more restful than twitter".
I seem to have trouble with multi-tasking self-care with anything else in my life for some reason. I get stuck in excesses. If I do nothing else but self-care than I seem to be able to do it more often than not but last time I added work to the mix then self-care went out the window and because of that I burned myself out on work. Lately, now that I've been getting healthier I've been able to socialize more and I've actually now burned myself out on socialization because self-care went out the window because I was doing that to excess.
I think the problem is that since I have been sick and bedridden for so long that I get over-excited about being out and the world and end up being like a kid in a candy store and unable to moderate because my excitement somehow makes me completely forget that I am a 'sick girl'. (*laughs*)
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I've had cancer on and off for 18 years. It started as melanoma and spread to different places. Right now I'm on a maintenance drug with no active cancer present but I'm going through menopause early...sort of. I started out good. Was able to cam all the time as I had just left my vanilla job that was eighty hours a week between office and on call. But lately I've been having tons of trouble.
I get all dolled up and then either I feel terrible or I start getting anxiety and I don't go on. Plus I've had my period for literally two months straight . I can't take hormones because they increase risk of other cancers when you've had certain types of cancer.
I didn't have problems having my period on free chat sites cause I didn't so shows with penetration but now that I'm on SM , I want to.
So really I have two problems, getting online and not going broke and performing without grossing out the world. I was thinking about trying those menstral cups but I wonder if you accidentally hit it with a dildo will it all spill out. That would look like a murder scene.
Ivy, I just want to say that I trolled on SW for a year before just joining and I have gotten so much out of all your posts. Thank you for putting yourself out there to help other people.
Everyone on here is so amazing. I am not used to girls/women helping each other especially when it comes to tips that can make other people money in the same smallish pool.
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queenc
I've had cancer on and off for 18 years. It started as melanoma and spread to different places. Right now I'm on a maintenance drug with no active cancer present but I'm going through menopause early...sort of. I started out good. Was able to cam all the time as I had just left my vanilla job that was eighty hours a week between office and on call. But lately I've been having tons of trouble.
I get all dolled up and then either I feel terrible or I start getting anxiety and I don't go on. Plus I've had my period for literally two months straight . I can't take hormones because they increase risk of other cancers when you've had certain types of cancer.
I didn't have problems having my period on free chat sites cause I didn't so shows with penetration but now that I'm on SM , I want to.
So really I have two problems, getting online and not going broke and performing without grossing out the world. I was thinking about trying those menstral cups but I wonder if you accidentally hit it with a dildo will it all spill out. That would look like a murder scene.
Ivy, I just want to say that I trolled on SW for a year before just joining and I have gotten so much out of all your posts. Thank you for putting yourself out there to help other people.
Everyone on here is so amazing. I am not used to girls/women helping each other especially when it comes to tips that can make other people money in the same smallish pool.
Thank you queenc, made me happy and had a big smile bec of your mention
I am so sorry for what you have to go through. I am glad to hear you have no active cancer present. I feel like I can not even comprehend the struggle you must have been through.
I am not at all in the same position as you are, but I do have active period for 8!!! weeks now without break because of the medication I am getting for my rheuma. its is mental! and exhausting
I am using sponges to still cam and do penetration
I never used cups so I cant give you any insight on it
The sponges work really good for me but I do have to take a couple of them in at heavy days since they do not absorp as much as a tampon
I use the Beppy Action Tampon the wet variant
the wet ones are more expensice but they are easier to take out.
I have had them stuck a couple of times when first using them but figure out a way to get them out even on ly using my thumb. So dont worry, they cant really get stuck (its more a stress thing and mindfuck).. you just have to wiggles it a lot and it will come loose)
It does not spill, only when its all full and you hit it hard or try to squirt when it is full (bec you squeeze)... and yes i can still squirt using them *wohooo
about the anxiety
I always get more and higher anxiety when I stop camming for multiple days. The longer i stop or postphone the higher it gets
some videos on youtube might be able to help you since they helped me... one of them was * how to stop worrying and start living, by Dale Carnegie* there is a major parft about religion, that part didnt really grasp me but the rest did
also seminars from Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar and Tony Robbins always boost me
he book the * compound effect* also helped me getting back in the camflow
ultimate its just going online and pushing through that first hour... when that is done everything gets better again... its like goig to the gym, bbut than scaryer
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IvyRose
Thank you queenc, made me happy and had a big smile bec of your mention
I am so sorry for what you have to go through. I am glad to hear you have no active cancer present. I feel like I can not even comprehend the struggle you must have been through.
I am not at all in the same position as you are, but I do have active period for 8!!! weeks now without break because of the medication I am getting for my rheuma. its is mental! and exhausting
I am using sponges to still cam and do penetration
I never used cups so I cant give you any insight on it
The sponges work really good for me but I do have to take a couple of them in at heavy days since they do not absorp as much as a tampon
I use the Beppy Action Tampon the wet variant
the wet ones are more expensice but they are easier to take out.
I have had them stuck a couple of times when first using them but figure out a way to get them out even on ly using my thumb. So dont worry, they cant really get stuck (its more a stress thing and mindfuck).. you just have to wiggles it a lot and it will come loose)
It does not spill, only when its all full and you hit it hard or try to squirt when it is full (bec you squeeze)... and yes i can still squirt using them *wohooo
about the anxiety
I always get more and higher anxiety when I stop camming for multiple days. The longer i stop or postphone the higher it gets
some videos on youtube might be able to help you since they helped me... one of them was * how to stop worrying and start living, by Dale Carnegie* there is a major parft about religion, that part didnt really grasp me but the rest did
also seminars from Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar and Tony Robbins always boost me
he book the * compound effect* also helped me getting back in the camflow
ultimate its just going online and pushing through that first hour... when that is done everything gets better again... its like goig to the gym, bbut than scaryer
Thanks for the tips Ivy,
I finally broke through and cammed the last three days. I'm so thankful for this forum cuz I don't think I could do this without you guys. No one else understands why this is a hard job. It sounds ridiculous but we know different.
And for me it's my only option right now so that puts a ton of pressure on me. But u r right, the longer u go without camming, the harder it is to go back on.
I didn't do great but it's a good start. And I'm gonna hit it hard from now through Sunday cuz I cammed until 5 pm yesterday and then relaxed until now When I need to start getting ready.
yesterday I was going trough a tampon an hour on cam but that's cuz I think my regular period started. So that was fun. I leaked on my new bed spread and two of my new panties but I survived and I actually don't normally use toys but I recently bought two dildos and they got me a bunch of extra paid sessions. I either faked it or was super careful to put a new tampon in first and keep an eye on the toys. Luckily the one dildo had a reddish tip so I make sure and put that up close to the cam before I stick it in, all sneaky like, so if they see red, they won't think anything of it
Today the bleeding has slowed way down so I'm happy about that.
I need to make $140 by Thursday at midnight so I can get my medication. Fingers crossed. If I put in the time on SM, I know I can do it. I just need to do it.
I will also read that book you mentioned for sure
Thanks again.
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I also use darker colored toys if i can get away with it when having sharkweek
maybe have wet tissues at hand, so you can wipe toys clean if you need too when you have to switch up for bjs
i actually got my period again after 2 days of rest yesterday. 8 weeks and counting..
got it in the middle of a show, so embarrassing. The guy didnt mind though luckily, so I just grabbed my waterbidon and gave my toy a good big watersplash and carried on. The show must go on. had abit of luck because I for some reason did not bleed anym ore after the watersplash untill after the show was completed * thank you camgoddess*
I dont even know if I have a real period or if it is medicatio induced or what it is... anyways, still have to deal with it
lets keep grinding and collecting new clients and $
we all know how shitty and dark things get when we dot work and not have any income
I also have only camming as income right now, so when I dont cam I do not have cash.
I have to cam the next couple of days, and get in as much hours as possible bec of taxes which are coming (and my parents are trhoiwng a party so i have to tak eprecious days off to be there for them)
lets grind and just give our best
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Who does coffee enemas here? I just started and got my enema bucket kit.. so I haven't reaped the benefits to much yet.. but I am pretty desperate to get better.. I cannot even lose a pound .. and been Intermittent Fasting ( Since April), and doing my mineral protocol.. and started a lil weight training but not to much cuz I still have air hunger.. I am god damn desperate!.. Now I am combining IF with protein shakes and an egg bowl 5 days a week.. I am desperate to lose weight more now for quality of life rather than vanity.. I cannot breathe even worse now and I am limping around all the time cuz something is wrong with my foot.. either some heel spur or plantar fasciitis thing.. who knows.. but I am dying over here and had to give up a lot of things on cam for now cuz I just can't physically do it.
p.s. and before you talk about measurements? my measurements haven't changed in over 2 months!
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Sounds like they are derailing your minerals and causing quite the imbalance.
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Ativan is the devils vomit. I took one today because I had to get out of the house (yes need pills for that) and now they are weaning off and I feel terrible mentally. I had this the last times I took them too. I think I might begin to develop an addiction to them.
Fuck these pills. Only taking them when it is absolutely necessary. I took them for fun a lot of times too, when going out and stuff.
I want to murder like everyone now and my whole world is falling apart again, and I just know it is because of these stupid pills. Accidentally fell asleep this afternoon and woke up all sick, doozy and sad.
Allright I hope I will feel better by tomorrow. Very rock n roll. Pill popping addiction. But not fun.
The period talk cracked me up. I have an IUD so my periods are so light I actually don't use anything on cam. I daily life I use a mini tampon but I take it out for camming. I have used the Beppy sponges too and also tampons with the string cut off but I keep hurting myself trying to fish it out. Never had an accident on cam. It is working for me, but my period is very very light and often I take the first day off.
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You are probably right. Time to take my magnesium, B12 and multi vitamins again. I usually feel better then.
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And zinc.. you sound copper toxic with the raging.. I am on a mineral balancing program.. you should look into hair testing.. best thing I ever did..
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You are probably right. Time to take my magnesium, B12 and multi vitamins again. I usually feel better then.
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thank you... I should get the zinc supps too then.. will look at the hair testing <3
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I am taking Solgar Zinc Picolinate.. that's what my mineral practitioner recommended for me.. it's cheap only about $6 or $7 . .. not that expensive as far as supps go.
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thank you... I should get the zinc supps too then.. will look at the hair testing <3
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Ugh, I have epic joint pain from shoulders to fingertips. Can barely grip a pen. This is new, and I don't like it at all. *sulk*
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Aunt flo isn't due to arrive until next Thursday but I'm having major cramping and nausea already. I think the nausea is my ibs acting up. I don't feel like doing shit but sleeping. I gotta get my ass on cam though.
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Resilience Is About How You Recharge, Not How You Endure.
https://hbr.org/2016/06/resilience-i...how-you-endure
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Joining the club. <3
I'm struggling with bipolar disorder type 2. Don't really know what more to write about it, I'm just glad there is a thread like this.
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I'm so glad there are other girls out there who are able to get on cam despite having physical & mental obstacles! I myself have depression/anxiety and some other mental health issues I don't really want to get into and it's just really inspiring to see you all doing your thing and getting your checks! It's really kicking my ass into gear lol
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Catched a cold (I think). Started right on day 1 of my many days on cam- in a row challenge, today. I did finish my day good but still, I have a sore throath and just a bit of fever. Well, ain't nothing gonna stop me finish my challenge. Am treating myself so it won't get more serious. I catch a cold once in years and it's always brutal and I end up losing 2-3 kilos in 2 weeks. I am living with the impression persons who catch a cold a few times in life, their episodes are really severe. I mean, for somebody who catches a cold every year, they somehow got used to it and it looks less rough. Anyways, I think I just drank excessive cold drinks and that's why. Might not be a cold anyways :)
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Ive posted on here before about being sick for a long time. They finally diagnosed me in April with Hashimotos Disease. Im on meds for it and Im just now starting to feel better but I am really hopeful for the first time in a long time.
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For the first time in years I feel like I am standing on solid ground. I feel better. A few months ago I was really messed up. Began hearing voices, maxed out credit cards and made debt.
I feel better now. Paid debts off, earning more money, feeling better in general. I am happy I know my triggers and am learning to recognize changes in my behavior that can lead to bad episodes, and countering those. I feel so much better now and ready to move forward.
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Anyone have Plantar Fasciitis? I have had it since May.. I tried orthotic vionics.. which I broke in and got used to only to develop new pains in my feet to make it unbearable to wear them now.. so gotta return them .. I am currently trying serrapeptase... ice wraps, rollers, balls, stretches.. Just bought a TENS unit.. going to try that.. trying out a different pair of orthotics.. going to up my calcium supplement.. anything else? going on a strict diet to lose weight even though been unsuccessful in the past.. this is getting bad.. All my doctor did was give me a pamphlet of exercises to do.