For ladies who use the ice queen/bitch persona...
I mean those of you who purposely give off the "You're lucky I even give you the time of day, of course you should be paying just to be in my presence" vibe and demand respect from your customers. How do you do the initial approach? To me, it seems like it would be difficult to transition from a friendly, bubbly, "Hi, I'm so-and-so, nice to meet you, you look like you could use some company!" (which seems like the typical hustle style) into this type of personality. Especially since we're the ones doing the approaching and not the other way around.
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I'm hoping for responses to this as well! Sadly, in my experience the dancers who pull off this persona successfully are brought to high spending customers by hosts. In smaller clubs without rooms it often comes down to being by far the hottest one.
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My tits do the approaching for me. ::)
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I wouldn't try to transition from friendly/bubbly into ice queen with the same customer. It would just confuse him.
I don't use the ice queen persona often, but when I do, it has to be the customer's first impression. The approach goes something like this: Walk over and sit down in a chair so that you are directly facing him. Don't ask permission to sit. Don't introduce yourself. Make intense eye contact. Look him up and down. If he talks, respond, but don't volunteer anything. Once he is uncomfortable yet intrigued, say something like "I think we can use each other." Phrase the test close as a statement.
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When I get the inevitable "Tell me about tattoo A, B, and C" I coolly reply "It doesn't say 'This bitch works for free' does it?"
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Be friendly, but not too friendly. Don't throw yourself at the customer. Girls who jump on guys laps and give mini lap dances are good hustlers too, but that is not going to allow you to land the customer who wants the Ice Queen.
Body language is key. Direct and intense eye contact, with glances at his mouth is a very strong flirtation signal. He won't even know you are seducing him, he'll just feel very attracted to you. Shoulders back head up and spine straight is the best approach. Mirror his body language subtly. Look at his arm position and upper body while also leaning in toward him slightly.
Sharon Stone in the movie Basic Instinct nails the ice queen seduction. In one scene, she is being interrogated as a murder suspect, but she owns every cop in the room. She lets them know that she is in charge by flashing the men while crossing and uncrossing her legs just slow enough to reveal that she is wearing exactly nothing under her mini skirt.
Despite the fact the detectives believe she is guilty of murdering her lover, they all still want to fuck her. This is the perfect example of how to own your customer by playing the Ice Queen.
Basic Instinct isn't available on Netflix, but you can rent it as a streaming video at Amazon. It is probably free if you have Amazon Prime.
http://www.amazon.com/Basic-Instinct...Basic+Instinct
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I occasionally use an ice queen hustle (unintentionally, mostly on the days when I'm annoyed) and it works with some but not for everyone. Be strategic as to who you use this approach with and remember why a lot of men come to the strip club -- to spend $$ to feel wanted and desirable for a little while. They probably have wives at home who are already bitchy to them, and they don't want to spend money to feel rejected. There are anomalies but most men like to have their egos stroked and inflated even when they know it's complete bs. That said, I've noticed being icy tends to work with younger guys. A few months ago there was this young guy at my stage watching and not tipping, I told him "This is the TIP RAIL. Tip or leave." He said, "Oh, really?" and left. Then by my next song, he was back with ones and made it rain on me. I made pretty decent money off of him that night.
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Not work related but I was at the gym lifting and this douche canoe said "Wow, for a little thing you sure are strong."
"Bet they don't say the same about your dick."
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I think it's just one of those things that come off naturally, honestly. Especially if you're an experienced dancer. You know your worth and your target.
I've been called Ice Queen before, I guess bc I have little tolerance with BS and will let a customer know about it if he's wasting my time? I'm not gonna be a sweet flirt for free until I feel there's money potential, otherwise it's gonna be a dry personality here. Lol. It doesn't bother me if others notice either, bc you're just letting ppl know you're not there to waste time.
It's a cute proper term for bitch. Lol. I'll take it.
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I think this approach really only works some of the time with young guys who have the "I'm too cool/good looking for strip clubs" attitude. It rarely works on older guys, although occasionally there will be an older guy who is there with a friend and the friend is nice and friendly while the other guy is cocky and acts like he's too good for strip clubs. Most guys want their ego stroked by a hot chick paying attention to them and complimenting them.
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I feel like you have to be really hot, or intimidating looking in some way to pull this persona off. Hate to say it, but that’s what I’ve observed. When I first started dancing I was really young looking and baby faced, and acting like an ice queen didn’t fit my look so guys weren’t having it. This persona also works for older dancers. Not to say you still can’t pull that hustle off though...I would initially act sweet then act cold and bitchy the more he came in for me. He would spend more and more trying to get me acting sweet again lol. Now that I’m older and my look has evolved, I use this approach sometimes by just using lots of eye contact and body language but not being too friendly or personable.
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That’s a good point that your “look” affects how much the ice queen thing works for you. I am in my mid 20s but easily still appear like a teenager. I don’t try the ice queen thing either, but I still like to give myself an “unattainable” persona by:
1. Moving around constantly—not spending too much time with any one customer unless he is spending.
2. If nobody is buying yet—then hiding in the dressing room and setting a timer on my phone. Act like I was busy.
3. Ideally, actually *be* busy rather than pretending like in #2
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Actually, I would say this Ice Queen persona really works for me in phone sex and camming. However, I would say that I do not behave bitchy but more just aloof and cold. Also it does help if you have an more alternative persona as well. But that was just my experience overall :)
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EastCoastDancer01
I feel like you have to be really hot, or intimidating looking in some way to pull this persona off. Hate to say it, but that’s what I’ve observed. When I first started dancing I was really young looking and baby faced, and acting like an ice queen didn’t fit my look so guys weren’t having it.
That's interesting. I get the "I didn't know you could get hired at 17!" jokes whenever I don't do a full face of makeup... I've actually found the bitchy demanding bit to work in that case. If I act sweet & nice, they either slide into not seeing me as 'sexy' enough and don't get many (if any) dances or else they try to push the rules during dances. You can be REALLY mean to a guy and get away with it as long as you're dressed cute and smile enough...
OTOH when I'm doing the goth/dominatrix bitch look, I have to be nice a lot of the time lest they be too intimidated.
Or maybe the whole thing is a crap shoot & just depends what customers happen to walk in :banghead:
(Agreed that it's almost always the best option for young cocky guys. If they were going to spend any $$ at all, it'll probably be when you shame them in front of their friends).
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I only do it to regulars that I already "empowered" over when they start to cut spending and wanting OTC then to remind them about my job.
That "ice queen" persona doesn't work. It just gives customers bad vibes about you quickly. I guess it works on customers that you already establish a connection with,.IME.
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Being hot helps a lot. So does not giving a fuck about losing money. I do the ice queen hustle, mostly on young guys because they want to please me. I have zero tolerance for bullshit, and I save my money so I never feel desperate or needy for money. I tell people to tip me. I tell them right away what the rules are in dances. I don't play nice unless you're a nice person too.
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I dont do it on purpose, but I’m a really good dancer that cares about providing a fun experience. I don’t entertain men for free. I’m one of the kindest people you’ll ever meet, but I think I can’t help but to come off as aloof and bitchy with all the freeloaders these days. Most customers don’t deserve the sweet girl until they are paying.
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I have this type of persona I guess. I’m actually super sweet but can spot bullshit from a mile away. The first sign of BS I will straight up get out of my seat or turn my back and walk in the other direction with no explanation, no “I’ll be back later” or any other bs thing I used to say as a baby stripper to not hurt someone’s feelings. Sometimes I will even straight up giggle at time wasting customers and tell them to have a nice night as they watch me walk away for a more deserving customer. My mind set is that they came there for me & if they can show me they are worth my time I will give them my full undivided attention and make them have the best time. If not, they can give their money to someone else if they even have any. If I don’t enjoy them or if they aren’t paying me then I just don’t bother. I refuse to put up with anyone that makes me uncomfortable, or isn’t good company and that makes me “cold” I guess. I also suffer from the worst case of resting bitch face ever. When I talk to people they are surprised that I’m as nice as I am. I think the shock is a money maker for me lol. But I don’t mind being “ice queen” because it reduces the amount of BS customers I come into contact with. It comes naturally to me, even outside the club everyone says I look like the biggest bitch. I don’t smile on stage or in general unless I feel like it, or if someone tips me or makes me laugh. I would say if it’s your natural personality then rock it but if not then I would just be yourself. Nobody likes fake. If you are bubbly and silly, be cute and fun. If you are serious and mean business then be like that. Just Be real and do you. Even if one night you want to be fun and silly and the next night your Over it and keep getting crappy customer and feel like being cold then do it. Just letting it come naturally to you will make the most money with the least amount of effort.