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Help! Mom caught me camming and cancelled the internet!
Hey everyone, I'm Marley. This is my first post, though I've been a long time lurker. I'm having quite a dilemma, and really don't know what to do, so here it goes.
As the title suggests, my mom caught me and it was not pretty. She hasn't kicked me out yet but she cancelled our internet. I'm really trying to get out on my own, but my anxiety prevents me from having a vanilla job, and the job market blows anyway. I'm aware of the risks of camming in public but I really need the money, so it's a risk I'm willing to take. I'm very new to camming so I don't know what all I can do in public and where I could go that will be somewhat secluded.
Any suggestions would be great, thank you. :-)
I'm trying to find different places near the central fl area if possible
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Re: Help! Mom caught me camming and cancelled the internet!
Your parents are forever... That is the most important relationship, jobs come & go. Camming isnt worth risking your home life at such an early age.
Look for positive ways to do with your anxieties, you don't want to be lonely & home bound for the rest of your life. Yes, getting those crappy jobs don't pay much, but teach you many valuable lessons in the work place & in life.
Getting out there dealing with work situations & building confidence that you can handle it will help you in life & with the anxiety. Trust that your Mom has your best interest at heart. It maybe a hard lesson to learn, but that is life. Most hard lessons & over coming them build character & strength.
Sam
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Im so sorry to hear about that. I havent started camming yet, but I want to possibly one day. So I will leave this for the experienced girls to give you better advice. Good luck to you.
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Sorry to hear about your situation. How old are you and what are your ambitions in life?
It's important to realize that once you start camming, it stays on your record forever. Many career doors will be closed for you. Camming may be great money, but so are many other jobs that require years of hard work to get to. Careers you can talk about with your family, post about on Facebook, celebrate your accomplishments with your friends. Camming won't give you any of that. With camming, you will always have to pretend to have another job, or pretend to not have a job at all. It can be difficult to always have a good cover story, especially as you get older.
Your relationship with your family is really not up to me, but assuming your mother is not a crazy psycho abusive bitch, I think it's perfectly appropriate for you to have to follow her rules while living in her house. You really don't reap the full benefits, and deal with the real struggles of adulthood until you're living on your own.
Instead of going behind your mother's back looking for a place to cam, I would suggest trying to find a vanilla job and working towards moving out. Then once you're on your own, weigh the pros and cons of camming (do lots of reserach!) and decide for yourself.
The part about your anxiety preventing you from having a vanilla job? You need to get over that or your life will suck! Find a therapist, don't become addicted to benzos or smoke too much pot, try taking a class or volunteering-- something that gets you in a social situation without too much pressure. Learn to meditate and be mindful, exercise, play with dirt, play with animals. Do things that make you feel good.
Good luck. :)
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I don't wanna be rude but maybe you need to think about the severity of your anxiety problem, (speaking from experience having very sever panic disorder) an anxiety issue severe enough to prevent someone from working a normal vanilla job would usually not be conducive to preforming SEXUALLY in PUBLIC. That just doesn't make any sense to me at all.
And of course its basically not allowed to be in public (with few exceptions like booths at porn type conventions) on any big box camsites due to many many legal issues that could arise from someone wandering on cam etc. and even if you aren't doing obviously sexual stuff its being broadcast live on a porn site so its just against all the rules.
So you may want to have a real serious think about that whole thing, cause its probably not going to work out.
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My extremely abusive parents gave me shit for camming in order to escape them. I packed up my shit and moved into a cheap motel and cammed with their internet during the day, then stripped at night using cabs + paying other dancers to drive me. Once I saved up enough $$$ I got an apartment and good internet and just did camming.
I rarely speak to them at all now and I'm extremely happy with my new life. As someone with anxiety, I can 100% understand having issues with shitty vanilla jobs too, btw. Life is a lot easier when you can just ban creepy people.
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I'm agoraphobic and know how frustrating it is to hear "get over it."
I'm sorry, but you cant just "get over" a psychological disorder.
Is there someone you can move in with? Maybe try working a vanilla job at home first? Ratracerebellion.com has daily postings for stuff like this.
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Definitely don't try to cam in public...correct me if I am wrong, but you are seeking to cam in public because you now have no internet at home, right? I'm assuming that if your mom didn't cancel the internet, you would still cam regardless of what she says about it...you didn't go too much into detail, but did she forbid you from camming at all, or just under her roof? I just want to make sure I give you the advice that I think is best without jumping to conclusions first lol
I have anxiety as well...and I know how hard it can be dealing with things out there in the world, especially with vanilla jobs. You sound young, and while you could be doing absolutely nothing and just mooching off your parents like so many young people do today, you are making an effort to make an honest living and take care of yourself as soon as you can. You sound ambitious, and while you may need some guidance (one of the many things the ladies here are awesome at giving!) don't ever lose your ambition...just be sure you are absolutely certain of your job choice (as long as you keep it all legal, of course)
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A while ago, for my internet I had used one of those black Sprint aircard devices (mobile hotspot) that plug into the side of your laptop, but according to Sprint those things aren't built for long periods of internet usage. And they're right about that, because that thing would disconnect me from the internet frequently. So it's not the ideal internet connection for camming. And of course you'd have to have money to be able to pay for something like that anyway.
I'm trying to think of some things you can do for money in the meantime. I'm not sure if you have a car or not, but even if you don't you can walk around (take a bus, if possible?) and start applying at several places in the area where you could tolerate working for a little while to save up money. I've never driven/owned a car a day in my life, but - prior to camming - when I was determined to find a job, I did quite a bit of walking to apply at places where I could either walk to or take a bus to get to...until finally I was hired by a daycare center.
My sister doesn't have a car, but she works from home babysitting people's kids, cutting people's grass, and occasionally even doing a little cleaning for one of the neighbors. If you offer these things, put up flyers in your neighborhood offering these services. She also is a member of those Facebook Mom Swap groups where local mothers buy/sell items for cash.
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I have anxiety too, it's one of the reasons I quit my full-time vanilla job, and am so relieved to have found camming recently. It's made me feel as though things are under my control which is a feeling I haven't had for a long time. I wouldn't recommend camming in public. So many legal issues, and it's difficult to find an appropriate location where you will have a good quality stream. Do you have an understanding friend or neighbour who works during the day who might let you work from their spare room while the house is empty, if you paid them a little "rent"?
Is there really no chance of your mum changing her mind? It seems odd that she would cancel the internet entirely when we rely on it for so many things - including job searching! Most places don't accept paper CVs anymore. Try to stress that you're unlikely to find even a vanilla job unless you have access to the internet at home.
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There are also a bunch of websites where you can do small jobs for small $ return, but it all adds up. Swagbucks, mystery shopping, review sites, you can start a blog. Show your mum that you are only going to use the internet for vanilla stuff and will live according to her rules, but really need the internet.
I used to get £10 (roughly $18-something) per week just doing Swagbucks while surfing the web for fun, which doesn't sound like much money ... but it's money I wouldn't have otherwise made. That extra £40 ($75ish idk conversion rates) each month paid my phone bill.
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hey marley, why dont u film some video clips and make some photosets then go somewhere with wifi and upload them. you could join extralunchmoney.com, they also have a texting service. also you might want to look into phonesex, you don't need permanent internet for niteflirt.com. you can sell videos and photos on niteflirt too. you're obviously a grown up girl who can make her own decisions, but since it IS your moms house it is her rules so be a bit more better at hiding it next time lol.
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buy a wireless internet;D.
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If you are in Central FL there should be actual cam studios that you can cam at. I knew of a couple in Orlando, but I'm not sure if they are still active. Check BackPage or SexyJobs.
Ask us to look into the studio. We are practically a detective team.
In the meantime, check out this thread: https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...ns-are-limited
There are a lot of links posted of work out of home jobs.
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^^^^ I agree. I think you should apply for a studio in your area. Craigslist.org has a video/film/web/design section under 'jobs' and there are always studios advertising there. Not sure if you're mom is a snoop but getting out of the house might give her the idea that you have a job somewhere (call center, etc) and perhaps she will lay off.
If you're mom is anything like mine, it's crucial for you to just move out and take care of yourself. I remember my mom calling me years after I moved out (she was moving house) about a dildo and a personal letter she found and she freaked out on me. Yes, parents are forever but not everyone has a great relationship with their parents. Some of us have very controlling parents. My mom still tries to tell me what to do and I've been on my own for 7-10 years now. I love my 'rents but my mom does the most with her 'parenting'. If it was in her house and she didn't like it, it had to go, including my dildo :D I respect that, but a dildo, really? If you can't do it at home, do it in your own home. To this day my mom still rags on me about going back to church. Some of our parents don't give a rat's ass about how "grown" up we are, if they could they would control our entire lives. I have that type of mother and I refuse to live my life according to how she wants me to. My father is laid back, she isn't. If she had it her way I'd be living back at home, going to church, and remarrying someone SHE thinks is good for me. A good Christian man. *vomits* Don't get me wrong, she's not overbearing and she's supportive of my dreams but she's still very religious. We work best out of sight.
OP, not sure how old you are or what your situation is but research camming first and if it's something you really want to do, try and work at a studio, save up, move out, disguise yourself if you can, and if you can't find a job start your own business. No one has to let camming stop them from vanilla work.
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I agree. I have panic attacks and anxiety and when people say get over it, I want to hit them in the face. I did have agoraphobia for a time but it is better now due to therapy. Have you tried therapy that makes you go outside the house?
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MeekMinxi
I'm agoraphobic and know how frustrating it is to hear "get over it."
I'm sorry, but you cant just "get over" a psychological disorder.
Is there someone you can move in with? Maybe try working a vanilla job at home first? Ratracerebellion.com has daily postings for stuff like this.
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Originally Posted by
MeekMinxi
I'm agoraphobic and know how frustrating it is to hear "get over it."
I'm sorry, but you cant just "get over" a psychological disorder.
Dunno if you were directing that comment towards me, but when I said "get over it," I did not mean to imply that it's easy to get over an anxiety disorder. I was simply saying it is possible. Therefore I did not say "JUST get over it." I said that it is important to get therapy, and learn how to face your fears. You can in fact get over an anxiety disorder in many cases with methods such as systematic desensitization, which is great for things likes agoraphobia. Having panic attacks? Your therapist can teach you breathing techniques to calm yourself down.
When I said "get over it" I meant "go get yourself cured, girl." "Go get some help." That's why I threw in the part about drugs too, because if you rely on benzos to keep you relaxed, you will still have issues. But there is absolutely no point in therapy if you yourself don't believe you can get over it.
Anyway, my comment was directed towards the OP, not you, and I don't really know about your situation. I just wanted to clarify. Therapy does work, if you find a good therapist. I'd be happy to refer you to some academic journals if you don't believe me. :P
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If it comes down to it, you can always pay a couple extra bucks a month to either put a hotspot on your phone (most smart phones have this feature) or buy a mobile hotspot for your own personal use. You can always record a ton of clips from home and upload them without having to cam at all. I would avoid public wifi as it opens you up to a whole different mess of problems. You can always start doing voyeur shows, not really talk, and be able to shut it down anytime w/o looking too sketchy.
If you want to keep a roof over your head, I wouldn't do anything to aggravate your mother until you can get your own footing. I'd just be thankful she's still putting a roof over your head now that you're over 18. My parents sure didn't. also, if you aren't ready for therapy, look into going to the doc and getting some meds. It's probably a good first step.
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I totally know how you feel, I have struggled with extreme anxiety issues myself since I was 17. It has absolutely ruined my life, I could never work a vanilla job in the state it has left me in. I also am in the same position with my family, I don't want them to find out when I start camming either since I KNOW they would pull something like this no doubt.
Hang in there, but certainly don't perform in public.
Is there any way you can secretly order WiFi for yourself? It's not that expensive and it seems like it could be done, it just wouldn't be easy.
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Also medication for anxiety is a really bad idea. Anxiety is not a temporary issue that resolves itself, it is a personal struggle that is linked to life circumstances and self esteem.
I went the medication route, I was on xanax for almost 3 years after trying other meds that didn't work. I had terrible cognitive problems and I realized my memory had gotten really bad. My boyfriend made me stop a little over a year ago when I would forget conversations we had hours apart, and I'm so glad I did. Those 3 years are still a blur and I'm not totally back to normal but I'm really happy I stopped.
I know medication works for some people but it is very dangerous, the best thing you can do is work with a therapist and overcome the root of your issue yourself and take hold of that personal power. It's not easy and it sure as help does not happen overnight, but once you conquer it you sure as hell will know it was worth it.
By the way it makes me feel so good to know I'm not the only one with anxiety and depression issues here, this really is such a great diverse place :) <3
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audritwo
Ask us to look into the studio. We are practically a detective team.
we should totally come up with a cheesy name and buy matching uniforms with it on :D
i got dibs on the sherlock hat.
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illuminaughty
Also medication for anxiety is a really bad idea. Anxiety is not a temporary issue that resolves itself, it is a personal struggle that is linked to life circumstances and self esteem.
I went the medication route, I was on xanax for almost 3 years after trying other meds that didn't work. I had terrible cognitive problems and I realized my memory had gotten really bad. My boyfriend made me stop a little over a year ago when I would forget conversations we had hours apart, and I'm so glad I did. Those 3 years are still a blur and I'm not totally back to normal but I'm really happy I stopped.
I know medication works for some people but it is very dangerous, the best thing you can do is work with a therapist and overcome the root of your issue yourself and take hold of that personal power. It's not easy and it sure as help does not happen overnight, but once you conquer it you sure as hell will know it was worth it.
By the way it makes me feel so good to know I'm not the only one with anxiety and depression issues here, this really is such a great diverse place :) <3
If you aren't ready to deal with the source of the problem, medicating until you can is best. Call me crazy, but I prefer to be functional until I can work through a problem. Therapy is a complete and utter waste of time if you aren't ready to face the issue. Once you're ready, then yes, therapy of some sort is best. Valium stabilized the hell out of me and got me on track rather quickly. different things work for different people at different times.
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I thought the OP was asking for help with camming and earning money in the short-term, not suggestions for therapy/meds/lifestyle changes/whatever. ;) Haha. My anxiety prevents me from having a vanilla job, but that fact is in a sea of context. It upsets me when I mention it to someone and they start suggesting therapy/meds/lifestyle changes/whatever to me when I didn't ask for them - even if it's really really really well-intentioned.
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Why can't you buy your own internet, and work and make enough money to move out. and set up a password on your internet account where your mother can't cancel it.
as for your anxiety you can choose to deal with it or let it control you. you could start seeing a therapist for it but then the meds will cost money. CBT and mindfulness only does a small part in controlling the anxeity and any other mental illness that might be lurking or not yet diagnosised.
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i know this is an amazon wishlist but the stuff inside is a list of work at home jobs u can do. it was the easiest way i could think to share it with others and have easy access to it when i needed it lol i know ur mom cut ur net but maybe u can go to like a starbucks or something and work it like that?
http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/wi...wl_rlist_go_o?
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RedAlice
I have anxiety too, it's one of the reasons I quit my full-time vanilla job, and am so relieved to have found camming recently. It's made me feel as though things are under my control which is a feeling I haven't had for a long time.
I am also a member of club anxiety. I'm still working on controlling it but I've come a long way since moving to where I am and getting out of the lifestyle i was in before moving that wasn't helping the situation at all . Something about being ur own boss and doing what u want when u want is so liberating . i wouldnt give it up for anything .