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Would you quit camming for a guy?
Tough question and I know it might be hard to correlate a response considering you don’t know me or my boyfriend personally. Here’s where I’m at right now. I met a great guy. We have been dating for about six months (yes I know not very long). I have about a year left of school. I told him I would quit in the future if there was a serious commitment. I love camming; he thinks my nakedness should be for him only. Leaving my past behind is very tough for me because I have been camming for about five years. Camming is a part of me. Are there guys out there that are not threatened by their girlfriend camming? I believe that the biggest factors why boyfriends are threatened is obviously getting naked for other guys and having the ability to make a lot of money. Maybe I have been meeting the wrong guys but most of my boyfriends have not been cool with me camming.
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I would definitely not quit camming for a guy I was dating for 6 months.
I would quit camming for a fiancé or husband IF, and ONLY IF, they were paying all the bills and then some.
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^^ This. The income/security has to be there before quitting is an option.
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^^^ yeah, I'd totally quit camming if my hubby was bringing in another $50K. But then again my hubby doesn't believe my nakedness should be for him only. It's a rare breed-- I hope you find it!
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luvnrockets
^^^ yeah, I'd totally quit camming if my hubby was bringing in another $50K. But then again my hubby doesn't believe my nakedness should be for him only. It's a rare breed-- I hope you find it!
Thankyou luv. Your very lucky.
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I asked myself this question once.If he didnt agreed,would I stop?Absolutely not.Camming pays my bills and a man keeps me warm.Especially since he can`t afford to take care of my spendings I see no reason to quit.I guess Im lucky and my bf was always cool with it ,he is the one that would listen my complains in a bad night or give me a massage after a busy night.Think twice.Good thing is that u can always come back to camming if u decide to quit and then change ur mind.
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I'd honestly just probably never be able to be with someone long term that didn't support that I have complete autonomy over my own body and future, so it probably wouldn't work out.
If there was a more practical reason, than I'd consider it of course.
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I wouldn't quit camming for a man. Thankfully I was blessed with someone who accepts the job and has no issue with me doing it.
I trust myself and only myself to support for myself.
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I would only quit if we were a. married, b. he was going to be paying the bills and never ask me to get another job and c. bought me all the random things I already buy whether I need them or not.
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Personally, no. If Someone wants to change something that ingrained in who you are aka (5 years of camming + you seem to enjoy it) thats a very selfish thing for him to do imo. Also if youve only been together for 6 months and hes already jealous about your JOB, not a great sign
On top of that I dont trust anyone to "take care of me" husband boyfriend girlfriend whatever, I haven't had one in many many many years but if they didnt like me taking care of myself/paying the bills, well thats a bad sign to me. I dont care the reason if im not fucking other ppl and keeping a roof over the head and food in the belly theres nothing wrong with that. Im a very take me as i am kinda person though, if you didnt like something about someone you shouldn't be still dating, so hoping that you'll quit for him or whatever is just dumb on his part. I'd dump him, other ppl just get in the way of life.
But thats just my opinion.
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Heidi_M
Thankyou luv. Your very lucky.
Try Fetlife. Lots of poly groups on there. But you gotta be willing to let his nakedness be for other girls too, of course. :P
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EternalRose
Personally, no. If Someone wants to change something that ingrained in who you are aka (5 years of camming + you seem to enjoy it) thats a very selfish thing for him to do imo. Also if youve only been together for 6 months and hes already jealous about your JOB, not a great sign
On top of that I dont trust anyone to "take care of me" husband boyfriend girlfriend whatever, I haven't had one in many many many years but if they didnt like me taking care of myself/paying the bills, well thats a bad sign to me. I dont care the reason if im not fucking other ppl and keeping a roof over the head and food in the belly theres nothing wrong with that. Im a very take me as i am kinda person though, if you didnt like something about someone you shouldn't be still dating, so hoping that you'll quit for him or whatever is just dumb on his part. I'd dump him, other ppl just get in the way of life.
But thats just my opinion.
Exactly! Never trust a man to take care of you. Nope. I cam and my hubby loves it. It's a few extra thousand a month added to our income. It's safe and I'm at home, plus I get to spend time with my family. I would not change a job that I love for someone else's insecurity.
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unless u have children, everything you do in life should be for you and only you. the only factor that changes that is children and doing things for the benefit of them. i would never change for a man. NEVER.
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I would never quit camming for a guy or any other job I may be working!
I also would never have a guy pay the bills and support me, I feel I would lose my self worth.
I love the jobs I do, no man is going to take that away from me, nope not even for love! He will go into the relationship knowing this.
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Unless he was going to support me and give me lots of money to spend...
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This is my job, and that is how I see it. I wouldn't ask my significant other quit a job that they were truly happy in because I was insecure. Also if they made a great money. That isn't fair. My husband has been %100 supportive since day one. He understands this is a job, and that's it.
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No never ever!!!!
Its part of who I am.
If someone wanted me to quit then it must of not meant to be!
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Adding into the chorus of "Nope, never ever". Not even in exchange for being a well-kept woman. I am far too much of a control freak.
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You have to ask yourself how do you benefit from the relationship over a job? Would he quit his job for you? Do you get an engagement ring instead? Do you have a plan on how to make money or job after quitting? To be realistic, he isn't going to pay your bills for you.
Can you afford rent/house payment, car, car insurance & other bills on a different job? Did he take that into consideration? I bet he didn't. Nope, I bet he is only thinking about how your job affects his ego. Bet your bills, your lifestyle & savings for the future mean absolutely NOTHING! to him. So with that in mind how do you feel about his ultimatum? Is it an ultimatum< quit your job for us to have a future together?
Does he have your best interest at heart or just his ego?
The problem lays in that many females give up so much to be in a relationship, give up financial freedom in the name of love & men DON't give a fuck. Sacrifices made for them doesn't mean a DAMN thing, but they have no problem in asking for them. What is he sacrificing for you?
Many of us here & woman throughout history don't always end up well when they give up money or a good paying job in the name of love. History is NOT on your side. Having you financially disadvantage gives him more power in the relationship. You risk your future, your credit rating & such for a man?
Truth is he won't pay your bills. He will tell you to get a regular job, in which you will have to work 50 to 70 hours a week to try to make ends meet. Then he will be mad at you for never being around for him or to tired for sex. Most of these deals is a lose/lose situation for the female. Never seen one, even if the guy was rich where the girl benefited. Most end up broke, in debt with bad credit having to start all over again to get it all back. Losing momentum...
Most of the time with a kid or four to support on top of it.
So you have to ask yourself, who benefits the most & who is making all the sacrifices. Men never care or appreciate much less acknowledge the sacrifices females do in order to have a man at all. Look at George Lopez, his EX-wife was a comedian manager. She was the major force in him having a career at all. She even gave him a kidney to save his life. Guess what, he still cheated on her. He still tried to keep her from getting 50% of the money made during the marriage & complain about her being a gold digger. No gratitude at all. Let that be a lesson in how men think.
Sam
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No no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no
No. No! No!!! Don't do it.
I'm a stripper, but I found myself in your exact situation last year. I chose to stop dancing and it severely fucked up my finances, first of all. It also made my boyfriend think it was okay to expect me to upend my life and my goals for him. I went back to work after a few months and I'm still struggling to readjust. So, no. Put your foot down, tell him you love him, but you're not going to stop camming right now. His insecurities are his problem and he has no right to ask you to change.
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I wouldn't quit if my husband or boyfriend asked me to quit but I would seriously consider quitting if they were hurt by my job.
It's sort of a catch-22 with me. If you love me, you wouldn't ask me that but if you wouldn't ask me that, I would probably quit for you. Luckily for me, working in the sex industry doesn't seem to threaten or hurt anyone I love so I'm good.
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HELL to the NO.
If my partners were not on board with my job choices and my life choices they would not be around me for long. Both my fiance and my other partner gave me their full support when I choose to quite my vanilla job and camming my regular gig. Had they not they would not be the people for me.
However we are also poly, so I feel there is already a larger degree of open mindedness and communication going on with us all to begin with.
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Thankyou so much for all the responses!! I'm feeling empowered and i appreciate all of your support! The man cant hold me down!!!!!