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Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
Hey guys, so I recently signed up to MFC but I am unsure about how to progress in the cam world. I am a real virgin (it gets joked about in my room daily..) and 20yr old. I've done two public cumshows just using my fingers to get myself off without any penetration as its uncomfortable. I've advertised my virginity as I thought it would be a major selling point - but honestly the fact that I cant do any penetration and use toys is a let down for the guys. All I get is 'no way you're a virgin' 'can't you put any fingers in??'. My camscore isn't rising and the tips are hard to get in since the new model status expired.
And i've yet to do any privates just because the public cumshows haven't gone down so well - I don't squirt and the wetness was not really viewable. I naturally don't make much noise either so I may need to 'enhance' that.
I'd love to hear your opinions on whether I should forget the virgin angle and start using toys (pretty sure my hymen is still intact cause my fingers literally do not go in) so I'd break it. I do want to have sex this year also.. so whether to film that and sell the video is an option if it was with another cam girl? would any girls be interest in taking another girls virginity? I'm not THAT into guys so.. would love to be with a girl.
Interested to hear your views!
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
Try other sites. If ones not working, move to another. Hang in there miss! Sell up the whole abstinence more. Let them know you are saving yourself for marriage and you don't use dildos because you don't want to take away that first time from you future husband. Idk.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
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Originally Posted by
sparklylollipop
Hey guys, so I recently signed up to MFC but I am unsure about how to progress in the cam world. I am a real virgin (it gets joked about in my room daily..) and 20yr old. I've done two public cumshows just using my fingers to get myself off without any penetration as its uncomfortable. I've advertised my virginity as I thought it would be a major selling point - but honestly the fact that I cant do any penetration and use toys is a let down for the guys. All I get is 'no way you're a virgin' 'can't you put any fingers in??'. My camscore isn't rising and the tips are hard to get in since the new model status expired.
And i've yet to do any privates just because the public cumshows haven't gone down so well - I don't squirt and the wetness was not really viewable. I naturally don't make much noise either so I may need to 'enhance' that.
I'd love to hear your opinions on whether I should forget the virgin angle and start using toys (pretty sure my hymen is still intact cause my fingers literally do not go in) so I'd break it. I do want to have sex this year also.. so whether to film that and sell the video is an option if it was with another cam girl? would any girls be interest in taking another girls virginity? I'm not THAT into guys so.. would love to be with a girl.
Interested to hear your views!
Oil show, lotion show, shower show, bubble bath etc can be main goal, avoid cum show as topic?
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
You can also try selling content that doesn't feature penetration or toys. Do you smoke? Do you have nice boobs? Can you suck a dildo? You know, those kinds of things. They do sell. Maybe that would help.
MFC is all about creativity, too. Try a raffle. Play some kind of game. Initiate clubs. Customers there LOVE that kind of interaction.
If that doesn't work, I would suggest trying out a different site. Don't give up hope, though! There ARE girls who don't do public cum shows and still make great money.
Good luck to you!
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
Also videos sell really well on mfc. Videos of anything at all thats a fetish xD. You could also try video sites instead, sell videos of you doing anything xD, almost everything is a fetish.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
By being a TRUE virgin, you are a beautiful unicorn. Be proud of this. Being a virgin is definitely a selling point. You can still get fans and make money without doing cum shows- I'm not a virgin and I don't do them anyways because I don't want to feel embarrassed about it if I ever get outed. Don't let the degenerates make you feel bad for not doing shoving dildos in your body for their entertainment. YOU'RE the boss, you set the rules. If you want to take your virginity on cam, do a HUGE show for it. Do not settle for anything less. I set my "first nude on cam" goal at like 2,000 tokens ($100) and all my regulars gave me crap. But the day came and I made that goal no questions asked. It was amazingly shocking since soo many regulars said I was charging too much.
As for MFC.. it's tough because of the rating system. I don't use it for this reason. Try Chaturbate, it's a token based site that isn't so high pressure. If anyone tells me to do a dildo show I tell them to kick rocks, and boo hoo if they do, you don't want a fan that is going to be constantly making you uncomfortable. Yes, you will lose some viewers, but keep trying and it will definitely get better, I promise! Focus on your morals and your honesty and guys will really respect you for it. Make a note in your profile that you don't do dildo shows and screw anyone who tries to convince you of changing it. Umm not literally though. You know what i mean <3
btw this was my first post on stripperweb after being a long time lurker of the forums >w< hi everyone!
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
Don't focus on what you can't do focus on what you can do. Shower shows, sensual strip tease, etc. MFC is about personality and creativity focus on that. If people are bitching during your public cum showa start doing cum shows in group. Make them a special treat. Also don't let the focus be just about your virginity, yes it's part of you but if you try to sell it well guys are going to want to see you lose it even if it's only with a dildo. Don't let it become all guys talk about in your room. Ban disrespectful idiots, fuck them it's your room.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
Look girl, in camming world, you need to stick to your guns and that's it. If they don't like it, they can move on. MFC, imo is great for a virgin..you can totally do softcore shows there..stick to your guns, be persistent and be patient. TONS of men would love that you're a virgin and MFC is like a bar anyway- they want to "get to know YOU" more than your pussy. Play games, do oils shows, do anal if you're into that, do hitachi shows- totally popular..or clit play...do shower shows, do raffles or whatever...TONS of girls on mfc make $ without penetration...make videos "Playing with my virgin pussy" or a video called "will this fit in my virgin pussy?" ....to ME that sounds like a hot seller ...in cam world, you need to not give a fuck who you let down because no matter what you do, someone is not gonna like it or talk shit. This is international- you plan on pleasing the whole entire damn world? Impossible. Have fun, be yourself, get creative...your virginity is what stands out and make you more valuable- seriously, in this day in age, you can't even find THIRTEEN year old virgins let alone 20...you're a prize so embrace it. Don't give a fuck what the haters say.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
I was a virgin until I was 20 so I understand. Be proud and work that shit to make money. If it's not working on MFC try a site like Streamate, Cams, Kink, Flirt4Free, Live Jasmin, etc. You would rock the whole virgin schoolgirl theme and be a huge tease. I think that would kill it on the pay per minute sites. Guys go crazy over the schoolgirl look and a real virgin will really help sell the look.
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Originally Posted by
sparklylollipop
Hey guys, so I recently signed up to MFC but I am unsure about how to progress in the cam world. I am a real virgin (it gets joked about in my room daily..) and 20yr old. I've done two public cumshows just using my fingers to get myself off without any penetration as its uncomfortable. I've advertised my virginity as I thought it would be a major selling point - but honestly the fact that I cant do any penetration and use toys is a let down for the guys. All I get is 'no way you're a virgin' 'can't you put any fingers in??'. My camscore isn't rising and the tips are hard to get in since the new model status expired.
And i've yet to do any privates just because the public cumshows haven't gone down so well - I don't squirt and the wetness was not really viewable. I naturally don't make much noise either so I may need to 'enhance' that.
I'd love to hear your opinions on whether I should forget the virgin angle and start using toys (pretty sure my hymen is still intact cause my fingers literally do not go in) so I'd break it. I do want to have sex this year also.. so whether to film that and sell the video is an option if it was with another cam girl? would any girls be interest in taking another girls virginity? I'm not THAT into guys so.. would love to be with a girl.
Interested to hear your views!
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
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Originally Posted by
sparklylollipop
I'd love to hear your opinions on whether I should forget the virgin angle and start using toys
I say no, no and again, no.
I mentioned it in the forums a few times in the past, but I don't do penetration (I'll use maximum one finger, and also only on special occasions) because it really, really hurts me. I struggle with my SO too, so I'll just feel flat out horrible about using a toy, not even being horny (because, come on, let's face the truth...).
Usually, it doesn't even come to this point during private shows. I just do my own thing (either rubbing myself or using the life-saver AKA the Hitachi magic wand). If they ask me to use fingers, I say "Sorry, no. It hurts me to do it" (if it's a really good, long session I try using fingers, which usually end up being one, lol). If they're the type that after my saying "No" say something along the lines of "Try it bb it will feel amazing" I just kick them out because I understand we're not in the same mind-set and it just won't work.
If somebody asks "Do you have toys?" I'll just say "Yes, but not for penetration".
I'd say 90% of the time they are fine with it, or won't even ask for toys or any penetration whatsoever.
I don't know what's the reason for that. Perhaps it's because I make a point of doing my best to look like I'm REALLY enjoying the rubbing/Hitachi action. I smile and laugh constantly, trying to create the GFE as much as possible, so they treat me more like the cute girl-next-door/young girlfriend type than a hardcore porn performer (I'm totally not saying that's a bad thing; each of us has their own niche, and it's all fine!).
The MOST important thing is that at the end of the day, you feel comfortable with yourself. Don't ever ever ever do something which either hurts you physically or makes you question yourself on a moral/mental level.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
You put your virginity out there & now men see it as a challenge to get you to go beyond your comfort level.
It doesn't cost them a damn dime to type on a computer & harass you without mercy. Cause quite frankly we are not human to them & only to be used for their perverted pleasure. So you are taking what they say WAY TO PERSONALLY.
There are non nude models who make money. You have to up your game with personality, games & upselling pics, videos & such.
Start hitting the ban button quick & often for the worst offenders.
I rarely use toys or fuck myself on camera. I upped my sexuality & emoting while shaking my tits & ass on camera. Can cam 6 to 8 hours & never once put a single thing in my pussy. Nor do I EVER do public cum shows. You don't have to do public cum shows to make money on MFC
Go to C4s for plenty of ideas on how to do videos without fucking yourself.
At this point you are so focused on what you can't do, that you can't see all the possibilities of what you can within your comfort levels.
Take into consideration that you got into a sex based business & don't want to have sex. Then you need to up your game in other areas to make money & to be a success. Got to get creative & fun with it. You have to train these guys who to treat you on cam, otherwise they are training you to do what they want for free.
Your virginity should NOT be for sale. Even in a video with another girl. There are some things & moments in life you should keep private & for yourself. Cant let this world or job take over everything in your young life. Boundaries are GOOD! Many men will tell you different but NONE of them will ever have your best interest at heart. Many girls don't squirt, men wanting proof of orgasm & such are douche bags. Many squirting shows on cam & in porn are really just girls pissing.
Camming isn't for everyone.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
Keep in mind if it were up to men, we ALL would be fucking the biggest toys in all our hole for free in public cum shows.
They only think of their dicks & never about what our well being.
It is up to you to find ways to get money out of them doing only what you find comfortable.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
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Sam38g
Boundaries are GOOD! Many men will tell you different but NONE of them will ever have your best interest at heart.
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The entire post was great.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
Agree with Sam38G... The guys(and girls) are here to be entertained in whatever perverted manner they desire. How many hundreds pop in/out of room? As individuals we cannot possibly please them all. Know what you can/cannot will/will not do.... end of story.
I am very tight and cannot use large toys down below...so I have specific dildo's I use there. I have larger ones for boob play and BJ. When they want to move around on play I switch out my toys. Sometimes they want me to use the larger ones down below... i just tell them I am too tight and I can't and will not and keep going until they leave the show.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
buy a hitachi magic wand vibrator, u dnt need 2 penetrate and can get big orgasms with them. try doing blowjobs on dildos. even some girls what arent virgins refuse to penetrate and still do well. you're just not trying hard enough to get around your obstacle.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
Thanks for the great responses guys.
To make it clear (when the guys are not on at me for being fake) I do enjoy the MFC atmosphere so I'm gonna stick it out best I can.
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Originally Posted by
Sam38g
Your virginity should NOT be for sale. Even in a video with another girl. There are some things & moments in life you should keep private & for yourself. Cant let this world or job take over everything in your young life. Boundaries are GOOD! Many men will tell you different but NONE of them will ever have your best interest at heart. Many girls don't squirt, men wanting proof of orgasm & such are douche bags. Many squirting shows on cam & in porn are really just girls pissing.
To me if I enjoy it and can profit from catching the moment on film, why not? I definitely appreciate how this is not everyone's cup of tea but the exhibitionist in me says it'd be awesome.
I'm gonna try out my first pvt soon and see how it goes. :) Assholes don't get far with me.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
I think she means its a very private moment and it really is. You do what you feel comfortable with and what works for you.
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Originally Posted by
sparklylollipop
Thanks for the great responses guys.
To make it clear (when the guys are not on at me for being fake) I do enjoy the MFC atmosphere so I'm gonna stick it out best I can.
To me if I enjoy it and can profit from catching the moment on film, why not? I definitely appreciate how this is not everyone's cup of tea but the exhibitionist in me says it'd be awesome.
I'm gonna try out my first pvt soon and see how it goes. :) Assholes don't get far with me.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
My experience with MFC members and videos:
When MFC members ask me about videos, they're usually looking for masturbation/boy-girl videos. I link them to my Clips4Sale store, and they'll sort of "hate on" the clips of me eating, crying, etc., and they may say something like "You mean guys pay to see stuff like that?"
If you do have a Clips4Sale Store/some fetish-y vids, it wouldn't hurt to get the word out to MFC members. As many guys as there are on that site, there's bound to be somebody interested in some of those fetishes. Just remember that the majority of MFC members (in my opinion, at least) won't really appreciate fetish-y stuff. I've seen so many guys on there sorta hate on the foot fetish guys.
Clips4Sale is awesome for different fetishes though.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
Also, you know, nothing wrong with faking it? Make yourself look super wet with coconut oil, gasp and moan and flop like a landed fish, fold your fingers into your palm instead of penetrating with them, all the while going on and on about how your virgin pussy is soooo tiiiiiighhhhttttt ohhhhhhhhhhhh.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
Off topic, would an iPhone camera be sufficient to film videos? I don't have a HD camera.
Tried MFC again last night, was like pulling teeth getting the guys to tip and had privates open. Not giving up yet, I just prefer the atmosphere compared to the pay per min sites, apart from the silent freeloaders ofc.
I want remove 'virgin' from my username to limit the 'no way virgin lol' but it says I need 1000 reward points, how can I check up on these?
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
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TeenageAnnie
buy a hitachi magic wand vibrator, u dnt need 2 penetrate and can get big orgasms with them. try doing blowjobs on dildos. even some girls what arent virgins refuse to penetrate and still do well. you're just not trying hard enough to get around your obstacle.
Great idea! Use an Hitachi, or finger rubbing your clit. I would never penetrate and run the risk of popping my cherry on cam for no amount given!
I popped my damn cherry jumping horses riding bareback at the age of 17! It burned and I had bleeding a little. My mother took me to the doc. and sure enough I tore myself. I was glad this happened this was instead of dating the wrong guy and losing my virginity, but I do remember my first time now, of course I was a virgin, I just did not have that pop and bleed. I never explained it to him and he never asked.
I have seen a couple girls raffle off private shows losing their virginity with their bf on cam. It's far too personal IMO to do that for X amount of $$$.
have fun teasing that clit!
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
So, uh, funny story, I'm right there with you girl. The only difference is that I was never comfortable playing up my virginity. It's kind of hilarious in a twisted way. I'm a Sex Goddess!!! according to the guys who do shows with me and none of them realize the furthest I've ever gone with a guy is him fingering and going down on me. I've been best friends with my vibrator since my senior year of high school and discovered the miracle of a handheld back massage device long before then. No one believes I'm still a virgin. I doubt I have a cherry left with the ease I have shoving giant dildos up my pussy.
Anyway, what you do in your show and what you tell the guys you do shows with is completely up to you. Faking penetration, as has been mentioned, is definitely an option. Using dildos or vibrators on cam? If you want to. Just doing dancing/striping/fetish type work? Yup, anything. The [digital] world is at your fingertips here lady. I'm going to take a stab in the dark and say part of your difficulty thus far has been that, yes, you work a niche, but also that you aren't comfortable setting/enforcing your boundaries on cam. Guys can tell that last one, so if you can't sell them on your own comfort they probably won't buy.
Just my .02. <3 and good luck!
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
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Issabelle
So, uh, funny story, I'm right there with you girl. The only difference is that I was never comfortable playing up my virginity. It's kind of hilarious in a twisted way. I'm a Sex Goddess!!! according to the guys who do shows with me and none of them realize the furthest I've ever gone with a guy is him fingering and going down on me. I've been best friends with my vibrator since my senior year of high school and discovered the miracle of a handheld back massage device long before then. No one believes I'm still a virgin. I doubt I have a cherry left with the ease I have shoving giant dildos up my pussy.
Anyway, what you do in your show and what you tell the guys you do shows with is completely up to you. Faking penetration, as has been mentioned, is definitely an option. Using dildos or vibrators on cam? If you want to. Just doing dancing/striping/fetish type work? Yup, anything. The [digital] world is at your fingertips here lady. I'm going to take a stab in the dark and say part of your difficulty thus far has been that, yes, you work a niche, but also that you aren't comfortable setting/enforcing your boundaries on cam. Guys can tell that last one, so if you can't sell them on your own comfort they probably won't buy.
Just my .02. <3 and good luck!
Hey, I cant say I was fully comfortable with it either! But its getting a little easier every night I get on cam. Standing my ground has been the toughest part, they sure know how to drive us crazy. ;)
I'm still giving the idea of losing my virginity live with another cam girl. It would be great publicity but I can see how its a delicate subject.
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Re: Virgin Cam Girl - struggling.
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Originally Posted by
sparklylollipop
I'm still giving the idea of losing my virginity live with another cam girl. It would be great publicity but I can see how its a delicate subject.
For me, the idea of losing virginity is silly anyway, it's steeped in patriarchal values about women's purity. We don't "lose" anything. It's just another step on the journey to becoming ourselves. If people want that step to be something beautiful, special and private, it's cool. But it doesn't have to be! If you really really want to film yourself doing it, go ahead. If you would rather keep the experience to yourself, go ahead. It's up to you. Doesn't matter what anyone else would do. It's your virginity, no one else's!