I don't usually provide anal sex with clients, but this guy is a regular and is willing to pay extra. How do you prep for anal sex? I heard of an enema with warm water. I have never given myself an enema. What do I do!
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I don't usually provide anal sex with clients, but this guy is a regular and is willing to pay extra. How do you prep for anal sex? I heard of an enema with warm water. I have never given myself an enema. What do I do!
Just go to your local pharmacy and buy an enema kit. I have given myself enemas when I've done cleanses but never for anal sex, one of my gay friends always gives himself an enema before he goes out on the prowl..
You can do oil or water enemas, I don't think you can give yourself an oil enema but water enemas are pretty simple... just buy the pre/mixed kit, stick it up your bum, and sit on all 4s for a few minutes and bam! lol.
You probably know this but just exercise caution and safety as it's much easier for diseases and whatnot to be transferred with anal sex....
If you give yourself an enema it's generally recommended to not use the rinse it comes prepackaged with. That rinse is a kind of detergent, which can irritate the delicate skin inside you, causing microtears that make the sex more painful and make it easier to get an infection (tiny cuts in yr butt might hurt and let pathogens into your blood stream, WHO KNEW! ;))
Just replace that rinse with clean, fresh water. It's best to warm the water to body-temperature. If it's too cold you can sometimes get cramps and if it's so hot it scalds the skin on your hand, imagine what it'll do up your ass!
Dunno as it applies to your situation *directly* but in porn, we generally:
- Make sure not to eat anything that will upset our intestines for 24 hours before the scene
- Poop the morning of
- Do a *small* enema about an hour before the scene. As Nina Hartley says, "you don't need to clear out the entire length, just a dick length." Don't use the giant bag, use the little bottle.
- Helps to relax, lie back (I think most ppl do it in the tub) or get doggie when you pull the water in.
- You can hold the water in for a little bit. I know some girls like to hold it for a few minutes, but I don't know what it's supposed to do. I mean, it's not like you're washing a bottle or something, the poop particles don't need to be soaked off your colon. Maybe holding it would be helpful if you were using the enema for its traditional purpose of relieving constipation?
- Get on the toilet and let it go. If you feel like there's still some water left over after most of it has come out, sit there for a little longer. You don't want it to come out when you're at the bank later.
- Put a comfortably sized butt plug in to stretch and relax while you wait for the scene. That way you're not starting from 0 when he says go.
- If you're really concerned about santorum, you can always just insert your finger to check after you remove the butt plug. ;) should come out like a fork from a just-baked cake. (HAH! I just ruined someone's appetite, I know it.)
...and for those who don't bake, a fork should come out of a cooked-enough cake clean, not with brown crumbs on it.
Isobel's post is pretty much exactly the standard advice in the BDSM community as preparation for strap-on play
Warm Water - works better. Depending on your shower hose you have all the equipment already.
If not the pharmacy has different kits some with a solution pour that out, and use warm water, if they don't have them the vaginal douche kits can work as well pour out the solution fill it up with warm water and use that.
Or some sex shops sell kits.
http://www.comeasyouare.com/product/...Enema-Kit.html
You can never use enough water. basically you keep doing it until it comes out clear.
Then when you are doing it you can never have too much lube. I use H2o Anal lubricant. Walking around with a butt plug for a few hours helps a lot.
Warm Water - works better. Depending on your shower hose you have all the equipment already.
If not the pharmacy has different kits some with a solution pour that out, and use warm water, if they don't have them the vaginal douche kits can work as well pour out the solution fill it up with warm water and use that.
Or some sex shops sell kits.
http://www.comeasyouare.com/product/...Enema-Kit.html
You can never use enough water. basically you keep doing it until it comes out clear.
Then when you are doing it you can never have too much lube. I use H2o Anal lubricant. Walking around with a butt plug for a few hours helps a lot.
just make sure you start off slow..like a small buttplug, dildo or finger..then gradually get bigger. loads of lube. and i mean loads. and do not tense your muscles while its happening..that's always been my problem. its the least painful when you are actually relaxed and enjoying it. if it really starts to hurt though, stop. pain is your body's way of telling you something is very wrong.
Since you said you don't know, I'm going to let you know. Your risk of contracting HIV from vaginal sex is 8 out of 10,000. Your risk of contracting it through anal sex is 138 out of 10,000. By comparison, sharing a needle is a risk of 63 out of 10,000. This information comes directly from the CDC.
Of course condoms will always reduce that risk significantly but you should still know that anal sex carries a much higher risk. It's completely up to you whether you want to offer it and I'm not judging you for it but I want you to have all the information so you can make an informed decision.
If this is a routine thing that you have to douche more than once to get all residue out of you, you should probably incorporate more fiber into your diet. All the poop comes out at once, cleanly. I mean, sometimes you have a bad burrito or something and that's a mess, but in general it's one and done. In a healthy bowel type of situation there's not like, poo scum just chillin' out in your butt all the time, more like residue, like not brushing your teeth.
Hm, or you may be putting too much enema liquid in, going past your rectum and getting the nearly-done-digesting food in your colon. Don't steal food from yourself! You spent effort eating that yesterday!
You know, I don't really know why I still remember this stuff from my short stint in the life sciences (thought I wanted to be a doctor) in undergrad years ago, but I do. Don't remember NEARLY this much about some other body systems but ask me how the digestive/excretory system works and I've got that shit. Maybe I'm just anal retentive. HAHAHAHAAA TWO on-point puns in ONE post! I am the greetest! I will now leave the thread for no raisin!
*rereads this all* God. There is really something wrong with me. I am sorry you have to listen to this. I can't stop myself. LOL
Oh wow. I was like, "there's no WAY that's right. She must have gotten that from a fearmongering site that lied and said it came from the CDC." You're right.
Here's the link to the CDC's page:
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/policies/law/risk.html
Which also says that "consistent use of condoms reduces the risk of getting or transmitting HIV by about 80%"
LOL and for anyone who is skimming, not reading, those exposures are out of 10,000 The percent chance you'll get HIV from someone who has it and is not on retroviral drugs is as follows:
Condomless vaginal sex 0.8%
Intravenous drug use 0.63%
Condomless receptive* anal sex 1.38%
Am I doing this right or is prevalence per population different than risk?
Edited to add
For comparison and reference, CDC found these rates in the whole population for other STDs in the same year
All syphilis (including people who had had it for decades and were getting to the "bitch you crazy" stage)
16 per 100,000
Chlamydia
456.7 per 100,000
Gonorrhea
107.5 per 100,000
*that's you taking it in your butt. Putting part of you in someone else's butt is "low" risk, which means that out of 10,000 people the CDC tested, less than one person contracted HIV from being the "top."
^Even though 1.38% sounds EXTREMELY low, when we're talking about HIV it's something to consider.
I mean, I have a friend who shared a needle ONCE... I've known her for 8 years so I believe her... and she just happened to use a needle from someone who was absolute shit at cleaning their works and not only had HIV but Hep C... now she has both. Her life isn't over but it's become very complicated (and expensive).
Hepatitis C is SUPER easily transferred though, most addicts that I know have it actually, I would be curious about it being transferred through anal sex... I've always heard the likelihood of it being transferred through sex is like, zero, but I think it might be more easily transferred through anal?
Yes, I think it's definitely worth considering as well. Especially since one is more likely to catch HIV from anal sex than from sharing a needle. I don't think most people realize that. Plenty of people would never even dream of using a dirty needle but they would sure have unprotected sex.
^I have guys ask me that all the time, please will you do bareback if I show you I'm clean????!!! Ugh. You can't go by those results.
After doing the things mentioned above, use the following right before doing the deed:
Use a water based lubricant. Other materials will damage latex condoms.
Thank you all for the good info, but it really got me thinking of the risks and changed my mind. Lots of prep also. Eckkk! I made it up to him, I sold him on the idea of all the usual stuff plus oiling my body and rubbing myself all over him. I made him happy twice. Another satisfied customer.
Well with regards to the risks: Those percentages are for bareback sex. Condoms are not 100% safe, but condom failure often happens because they are not put on the right way or they are not used with sufficient lube which is safe for use with condoms (does not matter if we are talking anal or vaginal here).
Else the preparation is not so bad: A quick enema as IsobelWren described and then you just put in a butt plug. During anal I made the mistake that I tried to "pull the cock in with my muscle" (sorry for the bad description), but this makes it actualy painful. The right way is to push the muscle outwards and then it goes in super easy.
I never messed with enemas. Just purchase a natural laxative and go to the bathroom! I promise that is all you need. :)