not sure what to do with this customer? OTC
So I had a customer when I was working outside of London, he came in and spent a medium amount of money, like $600 or something. He's pretty fucking infatuated with me, he kept going on and on about how I'm the most amazing woman he's ever met, blah fucking blah. I know he has money, he's young but he has a good job and he's a little rich boy.
Anyway I had given him my phone number to try and get him to come in a second night, which he did, and he's sent me a few texts since then saying he wants to see me when he comes to London. He's gonna be here in a couple weeks and he's asked about seeing me but he knows the deal and said he knew he would have to come see me at work.
He's gonna be here for 4 days and he's basically insinuated he wants to come to the club most nights. The thing is, I'm not working in a club at the moment. I quit the club I was working at in London a few weeks go and can't go back there-- I could audition somewhere and just work there when he comes I guess but that just seems silly. I want to tell him that if he pays for my time he can see me outside which is what he would prefer anyway, but I don't know how to phrase about it. I don't want to let him know I do escorting because I think it would be a huge turn off and ruin his romanticized idea of me. So I guess I'm wondering how to go about asking for OTC without saying something like "my rates are X" since it will make it clear I'm an escort? I'm also not interested in offering sex to him because I don't think it's what he wants anyway, I didn't even get naked when I saw him he just wanted to talk and cuddle, and if I can get someone to pay me for OTC without offering sex then I'm gonna run with it.
Re: not sure what to do with this customer? OTC
Idk that I would go the OTC route here, even if no sex is involved, bc even tho you obviously move in both worlds, it seems you try to keep them separate rather than basically being an extras girl. I think maintaining that separation is important bc taking the OTC route w/ clients one meets in the SC, even if the dancer also escorts, it seriously blurs the line between what is part of the dancer's job description & what is not. Altho I have no problem morally w/ prostitution (assuming all participating parties are legal, consenting & whatnot) girls who fish up clients from the club pond, so to speak, are a peeve of mine. Perpetuates the stereotype that all girls will do it for the right price.
What I am getting at is keep your club clients ITC & your escorting clients OTC.
Also, you indicated that knowing you also escort might be a major turn-off. If you have reason to believe this is the case, that right there sounds like keeping him as an ITC client would be the best way to safeguard the income you are hoping to generate from him.
Re: not sure what to do with this customer? OTC
Could you tell him that you've become a "private party" dancer and that you'd love to come to his location and dance just for him?
Re: not sure what to do with this customer? OTC
I agree with Isobel. I've been though situations where my customers are unable to see me at the club on the days I work so we arrange for us to meet and dance for him in his hotel room. I love this type of arrangement because there is no house fee to pay and the club can't get a cut of your money.
Just be honest with him. Tell him that you aren't working at a club at the moment but you would love to perform the dances at his place, where it's private; it sounds much better than telling him that you wanna meet him OTC instead.
Re: not sure what to do with this customer? OTC
Thanks ladies, I like the idea of suggesting private party dancing... I guess what I was thinking of originally was something along the lines of, well I wouldn't mind skipping work to be with you but I would have to get reimbursed for not going to work, basically, and then go out to dinner and drinks with him and then come home? But I guess the line could become blurry as to what I will/won't do, whereas with private party dancing it's pretty clear.
I don't know what it is but I could never sleep with someone I met in an SC and when my escort clients have asked if they can come see me at work I've said no, sorry, lol, they're always sort of confused.
Re: not sure what to do with this customer? OTC
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audrey_k
I don't know what it is but I could never sleep with someone I met in an SC and when my escort clients have asked if they can come see me at work I've said no, sorry, lol, they're always sort of confused.
Well sm of the blues have stated that SC clients & (genuine) escort clients tend to be completely different animals. Seems you realised this from the beginning. Nothing wrong w/ keeping the two separate, & we compartmentalise so much already to preserve our mental health that it seems natural to extend that to the escorting vs SC worlds.