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I think it probably comes from guys who a) just don't read profiles/listings, or b) don't really understand BDSM/fetish/nuance and think dom & sub roles are interchangeable. Muppets.
I'm very submissive in my personal sex life but excel at domination in camming. Work-wise, I always have a dominant personality, my submissive sex life remains between myself and my partners. So you might find that you can perform the role very well! If you have a good understanding of what's required from being a dom and guys want to pay you for it, go ahead. :D Enjoy.
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RedAlice
b) don't really understand BDSM/fetish/nuance and think dom & sub roles are interchangeable.
It's called being a switch. SOME people do enjoy topping and bottoming equally.
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It's called being a switch. SOME people do enjoy topping and bottoming equally.
I know this. Very much so. What I mean is ... there are plenty of people who will see an explicitly sub profile and think "oh, I'll approach them for dom services, because it's all the same".
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Redalice- maybe you are right and they are just too stupid to read or think we are all switches. I even had one call me after I submitted to him and tell me he was a submissive. Maybe they think that submissives are good Doms because we have been there? Or maybe subs who don't know what they are doing are cheaper than Doms who advertise as such?
(Thanks audritwo but I knew what a switch was as an active submissive in a BDSM community. I am pretty sure Redalice did as well. Just because there are switches in the world does not make it logical for a customer to assume everyone is a switch.)
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^Yep, TY. Didn't explain my original comment very well but that's what I meant. (It's been a long week, I'm not v eloquent rn.)
You've got a good point about them thinking subs might know what it takes to be a good dom. I'd never considered that before. It makes a lot of sense.
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I've cammed for all of three shifts, but this very thing has been happening throughout. I'm actually a switch, but intended to advertise only as a sub to start with, while I get more confident on cam. Well, what do I know - apparently a sub profile is a sub dude magnet. Who knew? Certainly not saying no to their money, anyhow.
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Men don't read profiles full stop.
I work on Adultwork and I have been a domme for 4 years and I still get guys throwing demands at me like I'm a sub.
I will never sub for anyone other than my boyfriend.
Niteflirt is very fetish focused and is a haven for submissive guys.
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I advertise that I'm submissive, but frequently they want me to dom them. They just think you're hot and that's why they choose you. When I first started camming I figured everyone would read my profile but soon I realized that most guys barely look at it lol.
The ones who actually do read the whole thing turn out to be the best shows (cause they're intelligent and articulate, and in my experience, frequently doms themselves) but it's nice to learn to do different things and appeal to a wider range of customers, so enjoy it!
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This job involves a whole lot of acting.
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I really want to learn more about acting as a domme.. Seems like it could be way more exciting than other cam stuff
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I really want to learn more about acting as a domme.. Seems like it could be way more exciting than other cam stuff
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This job involves a whole lot of acting.
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I find that reading a lot of erotica (such as stuff from Literotica) can give you a good jumping off point, if nothing else. It gives you a lot of good phrases to use. Smut=research. :)
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I really want to learn more about acting as a domme.. Seems like it could be way more exciting than other cam stuff
Yeah it seems exciting....but it isn't lol
I find the customers who are looking for a domme, many of them are the biggest liars around. They often want their fetish fulfilled for nothing and will try every trick in the book to coax a domme into fulfilling their fetish need. This is something to be aware of because they love to find a domme who is unaware and not in the know of their tricks.
It's a very interesting subject, with a whole load of avenues and fetishes to learn about.
I always like to remind girls who want to be a domme is that you have to be a true domme (in your real life and in your personality) for it to really work and for guys to come back. Over the years I have seen many girls "act" like a domme when it's not in their nature and then wonder why sub guys don't come back.
If some girls are sub there is a huge market for that too.