Do you ever get into a rut in your personal relationships because of sex work? ++
I am turned on by mental and emotional connections and I don't get that from my customers, so all the time I am literally just lending my body and I don't get anything out of the sex. It's totally fine with me, but I notice lately I've become "turned off" with my boyfriend at home. i.e., not explorative, spontaneous, and over all kind of boring. This is not okay with me, because before sex work, I used to be a lot more sexually charged and interested in trying new things (i.e. threesomes, role play, costumes).
I basically feel like because of my job, I'm not interested in sex as much in my personal relationship...and I want to get out of that rut because a healthy sexual relationship with my boyfriend isn't worth losing over sex work!
Have you ladies experienced anything similar, and have any advice on how you maintain your real relationships?
Re: Do you ever get into a rut in your personal relationships because of sex work? ++
I got into a rut dating wise. I enjoy sex and was losing the wow factor from it only getting it from clients - so I made the effort to get it the way I want it and not rely on work to give it to me.
Soo I tried my old dating scence that was a huge hassle, speed dating, online sites, and then just said fuck it I am willing to pay for it. If I had a boyfriend it would be a little different cause he would mostly likely be complaining of how things have changed. So you might want to sit down your boyfriend and ask if there is something he wants to try and you have to be able to shut off work and give it a go work is not allowed to be a thought with the boyfriend even if some sexual act might feel like or this is work.
mindfulness plays big into that. where you are completely present with him and no one else, no phones, tvs or computer. maybe even one of those chessey sex store board games.
Re: Do you ever get into a rut in your personal relationships because of sex work? ++
I got into a rut dating wise. I enjoy sex and was losing the wow factor from it only getting it from clients - so I made the effort to get it the way I want it and not rely on work to give it to me.
Soo I tried my old dating scence that was a huge hassle, speed dating, online sites, and then just said fuck it I am willing to pay for it. If I had a boyfriend it would be a little different cause he would mostly likely be complaining of how things have changed. So you might want to sit down your boyfriend and ask if there is something he wants to try and you have to be able to shut off work and give it a go work is not allowed to be a thought with the boyfriend even if some sexual act might feel like or this is work.
mindfulness plays big into that. where you are completely present with him and no one else, no phones, tvs or computer. maybe even one of those chessey sex store board games.
Re: Do you ever get into a rut in your personal relationships because of sex work? ++
Yeah same here. I am looking for a fun friends with benefits/fuck buddy scenario. No drama and just someone fun I find hot.