Do you ever get into a rut in your personal relationships because of sex work? ++
I am turned on by mental and emotional connections and I don't get that from my customers, so all the time I am literally just lending my body and I don't get anything out of the sex. It's totally fine with me, but I notice lately I've become "turned off" with my boyfriend at home. i.e., not explorative, spontaneous, and over all kind of boring. This is not okay with me, because before sex work, I used to be a lot more sexually charged and interested in trying new things (i.e. threesomes, role play, costumes).
I basically feel like because of my job, I'm not interested in sex as much in my personal relationship...and I want to get out of that rut because a healthy sexual relationship with my boyfriend isn't worth losing over sex work!
Have you ladies experienced anything similar, and have any advice on how you maintain your real relationships?
Re: Do you ever get into a rut in your personal relationships because of sex work? ++
I've experienced this. In fact, I ended up feeling repulsed by sex for several years after quitting stripping. My SO is amazing in that he was willing to put in the work and patience as I got my groove back.
My best recommendation is that you start dancing for men/women whom you find sexually attractive. I know this will hurt your money, but it will get you back on track with your sexuality. Also, when you feel sexually attracted to someone at work, don't shut it down mentally. Indulge yourself in those feelings and let your biology guide your work day.
A word of caution: don't sleep with your co-workers! This seems like a safe outlet, but it is better to pour that sexual energy on paying customers. Also, the drama makes it not worth the thrill.
You may want to keep this information from your SO unless you have an open relationship. His ego may not be able to handle that you get lady-boners at work.
ETA: I've returned to dancing a year ago and am very happy with my new found sexual explorations through my job. I do have an open relationship with my SO. I've also found a club that attracts the type of clientele that I'm most likely to find sexually attractive (older professional gentlemen).
Re: Do you ever get into a rut in your personal relationships because of sex work? ++
Yes, I was just writing about this in another thread. When it gets to this point, it's good to take a break if you can (I can't take a break anytime soon unfortunately) but in time, your sexuality will come back. Currently, my sexuality is being affected by my job...but I know this is only temporary.
Sometimes I have to force myself to masturbate and have an orgasm just so I feel relaxed to go to sleep, and to make sure my clit is still working, haha...
Re: Do you ever get into a rut in your personal relationships because of sex work? ++
i've had this happen to me from time to time..usually when i'm stressed at work, and had been dealing with a lot of grabby assholes. sounds like a side effect of stripper burnt out
Re: Do you ever get into a rut in your personal relationships because of sex work? ++
I overcompensate by overmasterbate..