came out to a friend/person dating .... it went DOOOOWN hill
Im kinda sad bcuz ive been dating/hanging out with this guy he is nice to me, honest (about everything). We met at the gym by the way.
It seems like ever since i told him im a dancer he has been les trust worthy of me.
For example, we went to the gym last night nd it was my second time wrking out for the day. So after a couple sets of exhausting chest/tri exer. I decided to go home, plus it was almost 1am. I waited around for about 30 more minutes to see if he would b done with his wrkout but he wasnt so i decided to go home.
He txt me about 2am to come over, eat breakfast nd let it b one of our once in a while late nights. He text me being flirty "am i coming to cuddle with u tonight?" I text back "idk lol" just playing hard to get. He text me back basically saying if i was going out or had plans with someone else to just b honest...he also said forget it nd was super angry.
This is like the 2nd time this has happened. Nd he has told me b4 that he has almost stopped dealing with me.
It hurt my feelings bcuz i havent done anything dishonest, etc. :( this is the first guy ive liked in like 2 years. ;(
Ugh i just wanna dance, nd b happy.
Only thing about me thats a advantage nd disadvantage is if i feel unappreciated/pushed away/etc ill CUT YOUR ASS OFF! But i feel like i dont want to bcuz i havent had this in a while. I asked him if he was ok he hasnt replied or answered my calls.
But i dont like this feeling so once im done im done. I dont like the feeling of anything that reminds me of my past/old self. (Cut a couple times, low self esteem, fat, no confidence, poor kid, ugly duckling, abused).
Ive turned my life around (im healthy in everyway nd i wont let anyone/anything takr me there.
Wat to do?
Re: came out to a friend/person dating .... it went DOOOOWN hill
Re: came out to a friend/person dating .... it went DOOOOWN hill
Ask a mod to move it to Life Support. So sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately this is very common. I've had it happen where I liked a guy, told him and he either dumped me or he thought of me as a sex toy.
Re: came out to a friend/person dating .... it went DOOOOWN hill
Fuck that guy. Red flag fo sho.
Re: came out to a friend/person dating .... it went DOOOOWN hill
He was horny & pissed that he wasn't getting laid.
I'd be pissed that he texted for a booty call at 2am if I were you.
Obviously he has no problem getting angry over such a little thing & trying to guilt trip you. This is an abusive person who has no consideration for others. Run away. Work out at a different gym.
Full grown men throwing a fit because they didn't get their way are horrible people.
Good luck,
Sam
Re: came out to a friend/person dating .... it went DOOOOWN hill
Yea!.. NEVER go to a man's house at 2 am in the morning.. like NEVER.. not even if you have been with him for a long time.. all it is just easy and lazy for him to do whatever he wants.. I had a rule before I stopped dating.. I accepted NO PHONE CALLS past 10 pm UNLESS.. He asked my permission to call after 10 for one reason or another.. and this way?? they could NEVER ask me for a booty call... that was my boundary.. make boundaries.. Do NOT accept impromptu invites either... that one is semi- negotiable.. in other words don't be so readily AVAILABLE that he doesn't really have to work for you... Men never appreciate you when you are always there for him like a doormat.. And if you haven't known him that long why are you telling him you're a dancer? I know everyone has different views here.. Tell right away or not til things are serious.. I vote for when things are serious.. WHEN they will risk everything to be with you. Less heartache for you that way... For instance, I tell everyone I sell electronic components.. NOT one person has ever inquired about exactly what kind of job that is.. it's amusing!.. And I do know about it. My ex owned a business such as that.