newbie question:Should I block him?
So today was my second day on SM and I get this guy who does a premium show for about 6 minutes then he logs off. I thought he was done. Then he pops back in guest and says he has to transfer more money like he was gonna get another show. Well he never got another show but just kept hanging out in guest telling me how cute I am yadda yadda. After a while I just started , not ignoring him totally but not giving him so much attention, and talking with other guys .So he pops out, then back in for a while then out. Then he tells me he sent me a message to go read it and i said i can't while I'm streaming. So he just continues hanging out and its getting a bit annoying especially since he didn't continue his show.I'm wondering if he was just jerking in guest chat too? I have pretty big boobs and had on a low cut bra. and so it goes him popping in and out until my shift is over and him pressing me to read his message. So i read it and it was a pic of him naked with his phone number and him saying to text or call him. He had a nice body but it was still weird and i'm wondering if he is gonna keep coming back just hanging around in guest asking me to call him and maybe occasionally doing a short show. Should i just block him? How do you handle guys that are not exactly stalkers yet but kind of (cheap) creepy admirers?
Re: newbie question:Should I block him?
Ignore the shit out of him til he either gets annoyed & rude, in which case I'd block him then.. Or he gives up and moves on. Guys that instantly start giving out their personal info usually will keep trying to get you "offline" until you clearly tell them it's not allowed and you aren't interested. That's just my experience though, also the body pic could be of anyone :-)
Re: newbie question:Should I block him?
Disclaimer: this is my personal solution and I do not mean to say it is at all the only one or the best one.
Situation: Customer buys short show and comes back into chat to lurk/gives small tip and lurks/won't stop complimenting me in free chat without paying and lurks/etc. Basically he's paid me little-to-nothing and expects my time.
1) For the first minute or five (depends how generous I feel), I'll humor him and be pleasant, while reminding him to tip or go private if he wants something.
2) I ignore him, while sending him one of my canned messages about my 'No Parking' rule (this says, basically, 'No Parking--tip or go private, but staring is NOT allowed').
3a) Guy pays in and becomes/returns to being a well behaved customer. Problem handled.
3b) Guy continues to lurk for more than 60 seconds without tipping/going private, continues to send compliments that don't pay my bills, or generally wastes my time. I kick him out of chat (no block, just a kick) as I've warned him. He may or may not come back. Continue to point 4 if this is the type of customer I'm dealing with.
4a) Guy is stupid enough to come back. He now tips/pays for a show and becomes/returns to being a good customer. Problem handled.
4b) Guy is stupid enough to come back and continue the shit from 3b. Guy is now banned from chat, but I leave messages open on the off chance he someday behaves himself enough to come back to my room. I am no longer worried about it and he isn't wasting my time. Problem handled.
Optional: 5) Guy is extra stupid and hassles me via PM. Permanent ban from all form of contact. Reported to SM support for being an asshat (i.e. 'harassment' under the complaint form).
If he sends you his contact info, flag the message or report him. I do this only to cover my own ass if SM tries to suspend me for getting 'off site info' sent to me. I've never had an issue, but I don't want to potentially be banned for some idiot pretending I asked for his info or SM support thinking I have.
Re: newbie question:Should I block him?
Here is a little tip. I don't look at any pictures unless I get a $3 gold tip first for each photo. Penis or not. If they really want you to view it, but don't tip, tell them to take you to private (or exclusive) for c2c
About sending you his contact info: Tell him any offsite contact can get you banned. If you want to interact with me, you can on SM only.
If he acts like a giant man child, block his ass.
Re: newbie question:Should I block him?
Issa, you're amazing.
first time in guest, how long do you let them lurk in there? This thread is helpful as I'm new on SM and don't know how to handle guest chat x
Re: newbie question:Should I block him?
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beauvoir
Issa, you're amazing.
first time in guest, how long do you let them lurk in there? This thread is helpful as I'm new on SM and don't know how to handle guest chat x
Aw, thanks. I was sleepy when I wrote that, so I'm glad it made sense. Regarding first time lurkers, I follow the same rules of warning them of my No Parking rule after a few minutes. Even my level 3 paying customers have been warned before. They know not to fuck around in my room, which works just fine for me, if not requiring a bit of my Circus Trainer side to come out.
Re: newbie question:Should I block him?
It's okay to be "block happy" if a customer annoys you for any reason just pull out the ban hammer. It will keep you more sane as a cam model and keep you from getting emotionally burnt out. It also conveys the message to your other customers that you will not tolerate negative behavior. You'll attract more quality customers that way.
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^^ I absolutely second what smaddy says here. Training the customers to behave and being block happy to get quality customers aret two of many solid strategies camgirls on SM use. I will add that, at my discretion, I will make my blocks temporary 'time outs' from being asshats, depending on how I feel about what they did to annoy me. That's all totally camgirl specific stuff though.
And what Audri says about opening pics--seconded as well. I'm not wasting my time looking at dick pics that probably aren't even their sad, tiny penises unless I get paid. I actually think I borrowed this idea from you Audri!