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How to walk away without hurting feelings?
Hi everyone! I'm a newbie stripper gearing up to go on my first audition either next week or the week after. I've been doing lots of reading, and have learned a lot about how to approach customers. I was having a hard time finding a lot of information on how to depart from them, though.
If you've been chatting with a customer for a while and it becomes obvious that they have no intentions of getting a dance from you, what are some good things to say so that you can move on to another customer? I don't want to be rude to them because for all I know, they could return on another day and buy a dance, you know? But I feel like cutting a conversation short and then moving on to chat with another person in their line of sight (the club's seating is semi-circle so no matter where you go, they can see you; unless you go to the bar, which is behind the stage, and even then, they can see you, depending on where you're sitting.) Idk, I just feel like them seeing that you cut things short so that you could go talk to someone else could have a negative effect on possibilities for future business with them, should they return. Am I overthinking that?
In any case, what are some conversation enders you all use?
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"My time is money. You don't have money, I don't have time. Toodles."
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"Well I better get back to work now- you're just too much fun."
"You're making everyone jealous by keeping me- should I give them a chance to say hi or are you going to take me back and keep me occupied....thanks, I'll be back to check on you in a while"
"better keep moving before I get cold, maybe I'll let you warm me up later"
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The suggestions in the post above are really good ones.
Anything like that, that suggests you have enjoyed the conversation but you need to make money.
When there arent a lot of girls working i chat until they call me onstage and then excuse myself to start my set. After that i give them a hug and tell them i have enjoyed their time but would like to go say hello to the gentleman who tipped me and go do that.
But if its a club where they have a lot of girls and rotation takes awhile just tell them you would like to go say hello to the guy a few tables over who just arrived and will be back later. Etc. There are a lot of nice ways to word it without upsetting him and ruining a potential dance.
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If they don't care that your time is money then fuck their feelings. In time you will learn that a freeloader will always be a freeloader. I see em all the time in my club not spending money and always trying to get free chats as well as free titty/ass grabs and I walk past them like they're invisible. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice...
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"Okay sweetheart, I'll be around if you change your mind. I hope you have a fun night!" And smile.
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I always just say some variation of, "Well I better get back to work!"
Don't worry about hurting their feelings! They know you're there to make $, not chit chat. I highly doubt it would hurt future business to politely excuse yourself. In fact, I think guys gravitate towards girls that are working the entire room and keeping busy.
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I always say "Well, it's been nice talking to you! I'm going to go do a loop, but maybe I'll see you later!"
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hurting their feelings after they turn you down?? can't say i've ever worried about that..i'll ask ( even if i think they won't, i've been surprised before) and if they say no thanks i'll just go " ok thanks!" get up and walk aways. i doubt they are crying in their soup about it
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That's really good advice. Thanks, y'all!
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simone87
hurting their feelings after they turn you down?? can't say i've ever worried about that..i'll ask ( even if i think they won't, i've been surprised before) and if they say no thanks i'll just go " ok thanks!" get up and walk aways. i doubt they are crying in their soup about it
Haha, good point. I don't really expect that I'll be breaking any hearts. My context is: Before I found stripperweb, or even was 100% sure about becoming a stripper, I was getting my information from The Ultimate Strip Club List via reading reviews of different clubs. Pretty often, there were guys complaining about how the girls at certain clubs make their hustle obvious and it turns them off, or they dismiss the girl out of spite. I wasn't sure if that's super common or if these are just a few guys who are just flat out assholes (After spending time here, I concluded that yeah, they're just assholes, heh), but it was curious to me that it's apparently something guys take offense to. :O
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I say some variation on "*sigh* Well I guess I should go make a lap around the floor now... I'll check back on you, okay?" They usually seem to understand that I have to make money and they're not contributing. That also leaves it open if they do want me to come back for dances (I haven't offended them and I've insinuated I enjoyed spending time with them... which grows on them sometimes).
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"I have to go back to work; unless you want a dance? Ok then, come find me when you are ready to have some fun."
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Fk TUSCL. Just, fk em.
A lot of the best reviews on that site are given to girls who do extras. Hopefully you wouldn't stoop to that kind of behaviour just to avoid 'hurting feelings'? Guys who are trolling for that sort of thing, esp among brand-new girls like you, will say the darnedest things if they think it will get you to give it up, including holding the threat of 'lost business' over your head. Like Simone said, they aren't even giving you $$ to go away? Fk their feelings.
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TUSCL customers are not representative of the majority, in my many years of experience.
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Thanks so much for the great line ideas, you guys! I just wanna make sure I have my bases covered before I actually have my feet in the ring. I think I was overcomplicating it when I tried to figure it out. I'll keep it simple and polite. :)
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A lot of the best reviews on that site are given to girls who do extras. Hopefully you wouldn't stoop to that kind of behaviour just to avoid 'hurting feelings'? Guys who are trolling for that sort of thing, esp among brand-new girls like you, will say the darnedest things if they think it will get you to give it up, including holding the threat of 'lost business' over your head. Like Simone said, they aren't even giving you $$ to go away? Fk their feelings.
Ah, yeah, I figured. Most of the reviews I read were actually pretty thorough but still had at least a brief mention of: "Good mileage here." "Not much mileage, but hot girls." "If you're looking for mileage this isn't the place to be, but other than that, it's great." "Horrible club, horrible looking girls, but great mileage." Etc etc etc -___________- I guess since that was my only exposure to the inner workings of a customer's mind, I took it with far more grains of salt than I should have.
But personally, I would never do extras. But thanks for pointing that out! I didn't realize that customers were so good on picking out who's the newbie. I figured they'd just assume I came from another club or something, so I'll keep my eye out for guys who think they can pull shit.
I will say this about the club I'm planning to audition at: three of the girls were nice enough to talk to me when they found out I was interested in auditioning, and while you do have to hustle, extras aren't really an expectation for that crowd. And the club is also in a location by an airport and surrounded by hotels; according to the manager, the place is an oil city so lots of men from Texas stop through. So I don't think I'll suffer much by not doing extras. According to the ladies I talked with, some of them give higher mileage lap dances but that's about it.
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TUSCL customers are not representative of the majority, in my many years of experience.
Good to know! Personally, I was using it more to figure out what clubs would be worth auditioning at, but I should cross TUSCL off my resource list.
Ooh but I will say this about TUSCL: the guys who are all about getting their dicks wet have very loose lips about the techniques they use, so I'll know what to look out for by way of red flags, at least. ;)
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^^Not ALL TUSCL members are bad. This forum has some TUSCL regulars (Yoda, a moderator, and a dude called Rick Dugan). However, Aniela and Vackra are right; they are not the majority. Think of TUSCL members as the type of guys that also go to sites like TER (The Erotic Review); a bunch of lonely hobbyists.
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I really hate that they called it "mileage" like we're old used cars and "take out" like we are a pizza.
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HallelujahHopkins
"better keep moving before I get cold, maybe I'll let you warm me up later"
Ooh, I like this one! Might have to try it next time. :)
I try to learn and remember the customer's name first thing. If they don't want a dance, then I will use my "sexy" voice and say (or whisper it in their ear, it depends), "Well, (insert name here), it was nice meeting you." Then I will get up and walk away, but look back at them seductively for a couple seconds as I'm walking. It's sort of a "I want you, come over here and get me," type of look. If the guy has $$ and isn't a total time waster, he 9/10 times he WILL go with me later. It depends on your stripper persona though, whether that approach would fit you or not.
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"If you get a dance I'll tell you the truth about my tits." (show them my XFiles tattoo) "The truth is out there." Works just fine. ::)
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I always say 'well I guess I better go try and make my fortune (sigh). Of course I'd much rather just stay with YOU let's go to the back. Just for one. (while snuggling closer to them smiling and intensifying physical contact). I think phrasing it this way creates an us vs. them mentality which guys like this seem to respond well to. If I've already spent the time talking I'm at least going to ask one more time before I get up a lot of times guys will cave or like others have posted they will find you later. Also during this close I try and emphasize that I will be busy later now is the only time etc.
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If you're superblonde or girl next door type, you can always smile with HUGE doe eyes and say, "Well, I'd love to keep chatting with you, but I gotta make some MONEY.."
(My favorite!)
A young "maybe later" guy: "Oh, I'm not letting you out THAT easy! I'll be back to corrupt you.."
Cocky guys or guys who have a wad of cash in hand but need some motivation: "So! I'm gonna shake my booty for you..if you can handle it..think you can handle one more?"
"Yall ever throw those ones?!!" "Oh, you're from ____? I hear guys make it rain there all the time!"
Older guys: "Are you ready for this?;-)" "I can't wait to play with you...wanna play with me?"
When the club is slow or obviously lacking energy: "OMG, it's sooo lame out here! Let's go to VIP and have our own party!" smile, wink wink.
Haha, I guess over-the-top cheesy works really well for me most of the time BC guys really think I'm into them when I carefully place these closing lines on them! If/when it comes out too corny/the guy isn't feeling it, I almost ALWAYS still get a laugh and smile, which means they at least think I'm cute/funny so they'll at least probably throw me a few bucks on stage or come back for me later! Even the guys who supposedly realize the game (which I act TOTALLY oblivious to if called out on it) will often get some kinda consolation dance or buy me a shot.:)
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8)If you're superblonde or girl next door type, you can always smile with HUGE doe eyes and say, "Well, I'd love to keep chatting with you, but I gotta make some MONEY.."
(My favorite!)
A young "maybe later" guy: "Oh, I'm not letting you out THAT easy! I'll be back to corrupt you.."
Cocky guys or guys who have a wad of cash in hand but need some motivation: "So! I'm gonna shake my booty for you..if you can handle it..think you can handle one more?"
"Yall ever throw those ones?!!" "Oh, you're from ____? I hear guys make it rain there all the time!"
Older guys: "Are you ready for this?;-)" "I can't wait to play with you...wanna play with me?"
When the club is slow or obviously lacking energy: "OMG, it's sooo lame out here! Let's go to VIP and have our own party!" smile, wink wink.
Haha, I guess over-the-top cheesy works really well for me most of the time BC guys really think I'm into them when I carefully place these closing lines on them! If/when it comes out too corny/the guy isn't feeling it, I almost ALWAYS still get a laugh and smile, which means they at least think I'm cute/funny so they'll at least probably throw me a few bucks on stage or come back for me later! Even the guys who supposedly realize the game (which I act TOTALLY oblivious to if called out on it) will often get some kinda consolation dance or buy me a shot.:)
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~*SwanPrincess*~
I always just say some variation of, "Well I better get back to work!"
Don't worry about hurting their feelings! They know you're there to make $, not chit chat. I highly doubt it would hurt future business to politely excuse yourself. In fact, I think guys gravitate towards girls that are working the entire room and keeping busy.
That's what I would say too. My usual lines were about exactly like this - Ok, gotta get back to work then, if you change your mind you know where to find me. Have a great night!
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"I haveveto get back to work and make some money. I'll be back around when your ready to go play".
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When I ask for a dance I ask if they're "ready" for the dance, not if they WANT a dance. I assume they want it. If they say "no" then I say, "Ok I'll come check on you later when you're ready...if I'm not too busy." *smile* About 85% of the time if I DO come back, they get the dance...especially if they see me giving dances to other guys and they get jealous. :)