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how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it?
So i've been camming full time for about 3 yrs now, and i know how to handle my customers for the most part.... But here lately just about ALL of my good customers (the ones who do hour long sessions or more) have been all pestering me to meet up. Then getting pissy when i tell them i can't, or No. It's really bugging me, i think to myself "Do u really think ur the first guy who spent a little money, now u expect me to drop everything and meet u IRL" it's so annoying to me, almost like the guys are needy children. And there's a pattern, i've had this happen with 2 different customers in the last week as soon as they drop a significant amount of money or buy me alot of gifts on amazon literally within the hour or the next day, there's the emails asking me to meet up, or wanting my number or things like that. In my eyes it's like a bribe, and it's almost insulting to me for them to do it right when they've spent money. I guess it's because im on a sex site and they assume we can all be bought. But it's been getting to me lately, because it's not just been one or 2 but literally all of my good customers acting this way the last cpl of months. I know every customer has a shelf life and they eventually move on but im the kind of girl, id rather go make my money elsewhere then have to feel the pressure or the nagging of you asking me to meet u up. Because it's not going to happen. Ya ur a nice guy and all and greatly appreciated but..... what i do stays online.... Im really grateful that i am able to make a good living off of camming but some of these guys try to put u on a guilt trip when they finally realize it's not going much further and we're not meeting up, they act as if we came and robbed them or something... When there the ones who chose to come and talk to a web model....... I even had a customer write in a email to me that "Webcam hosts' are liars, thats why i dont like these sites" (well don't come dumbass, im thinking) I said to him "not all hosts' are and if i'm being completely honest, a lot of the men here are too, i've witnessed it first hand". Anywho..... they just drain me.... Anyone Relate?! if this is TMI on a public forum i will delete.... just ask :D Thanks ladies!
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
Happens to me all the time. You did what's best and comfortable for you by by telling them it's not gonna happen. Unfortunately, I think the majority of men on and off cam have ulterior motives so they try to guilt you at any chance they can when they don't get what they want. I wouldn't worry too much about it. You can always get new regulars.
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
I deal with this situation myself and feel the pressure the same way u do. I think its happening to everyone. I wish not to talk much in open forum about this in case my guys are reading these forums but i will say 'milk as much as u can' then for each individual try to find the right approach, people are different so expect different reactions. Just remember u safe at home, nobody can touch or force u to do things, if they act bad just block them. Good luck!
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
To put it straight I simply tell them to sod off. I get nagged and pressured to do a whole load more though.
Because I am a non-nude model, guys seem to accept that as a challenge into trying to pressure me or nag me into me showing them more, offering me more money to go nude and quite often won't just accept my initial or even second 'No'.
It makes me angry when guys pressure cam girls into anything. For me, I relate it to rape. If a woman does not want to have sex with a man and she says no and they take it upon themself. I struggle to understand why some men fail to accept a no, and it makes me wonder if they cannot accept a No answer to meeting up, going nude, what else will they not accept a No for?
Never meet up ever.
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
yes very annoying--and they pester you to no end if you keep saying it won't happen--"c'mon baby I get other camgirls cell numbers on here, it's not a big deal blah blah blah"
I usually have to ban them--but mine aren't the regulars, just random dumbasses in my chat--think I've only had a few regulars start that crap with me--it's not flattering when they want to hook up or meet you or for them to find a way to get a free show.
Oh..let me just hit the block button--too busy for this
>:(
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
I milk them for as long as I can saying "oh what would you do if I were there right now". I find it disgusting but also hilarious at the fact they think you would *actually want* to meet them LOL! Do NOT feel guilty!!! You should never feel guilty on cam. As far as dealing with them without stress: I cuss them out, which they usually enjoy. How desperate do you think I am? Do I look single? You can't get a woman in real life. You will probably remain a virgin forever. I know how bad you want to meet me, but I am greedy and only want to take your money and leave you with nothing not even my attention etc.. If not = block. If society is going to continue to put women down then more men need to be put down. It's good for them to see how it feels. You get 'other girls #s on here' well prove it! I bet that's not their real cell # for personal use, and if it is, I hope you paid a pretty penny for it loser. No CUSTOMER is worth my personal time/ information. And that's exactly what most of them don't want to hear that they are a CUSTOMER and nothing more. Any person who causes you stress on cam is not worth whatever they are going to pay. That being said, I know there are some ladies who have met friends and even boyfriends on cam so maybe they can chime in on their positive experiences! :)
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Ty all for ur responses, im on my tablet and its soo hard to type more than a sentence ill write back more n the morning :-D all really gr8 advice!
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"I know every customer has a shelf life and they eventually move on but im the kind of girl, id rather go make my money elsewhere then have to feel the pressure or the nagging of you asking me to meet u up."
for the most part at this very point, is when they have expired. This is the hint
They really want to meet you
At this point this is when roleplay comes in handy on YOUR END.
Babe, I am the GFE online, I would love to meet you but I thought this was online to you as well. I really do care about you.
Say whatever you need to say to save face.
9 times out of 10 you will NEVER meet this person and he is now wasting your time, expired customer.
usually they live 10 states away.
now broke
or
NOT WILLING TO PAY bc they have paid you enough in their heads.
I deal with this shit all the time.
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If they're a regular then I always tell them I'm sorry but it's never going to happen, sorry, I don't meet and that's final. If they keep in about it I figure well fuck you for not listening and then I proceed to ask things about which will keep them talking and the £ rolling in, like "and what would we get up to hmm?", "how do you see us having fun?" Etc. then I'll use his answers as cues for more sexy talk to lead back into naughty online only stuff.
Once they've started being annoying about meeting up I figure they are going to cease being my customer soon anyway so now is the time to rinse the last ££'a you can out if them!
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
I tell them that while most guys would be ok to meet IRL that I just can't take a chance. I tell them women have gotten killed that way. When they keep insisting they're nice and safe I say Ted Bundy appeared that way also. If it's still an issue I don't have time for them and ban. I try to keep them. But mostly ban is better. Kinda like shotting them and putting them out of their misery. Let them nag someone else with their broke, desperate asses.
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
Ur all so right.... I guess my inner "good person" comes into play lol and I somewhat fall for the BS or maybe there's just a glimmer of me feeling bad, but I don't force anyone to come chat with me. Or say buy me these things! And If there not spending there money on me, it's going to be on another host once he's moved on from me. Even though they all swear "your the only girl I see online" hah! So that's what keeps me going.... I guess sometimes I think of the insane dollar amount these guys start to spend and im like woe that's overwhelming but in no way shape or form would I meet up, I've got a BF who actually helps me with my business but he's sick of hearing me vent about these naggy customers im sure so that's why I decided to come here lol But yes u guys are right, once they've hit that "i want to meet up" stage there on the way out the door and onto the next girl to try and get to meet up lol It's crazy! I've had guys be down right rude to me after they figure out im not, who were once sweet and generous customers, Im just thinking, "F*** Off with ur petty BS"! This is for fun.... nothing more..... Half of them I bet if we agreed to meet up wouldn't even follow through it's probably just some type of ego thing! Thanks everyone! Ya'll are awesome, Glad i'm not the only one with somewhat obsessive naggy customers... lol
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
I just make them feel stupid for asking. I'm into humiliation after all...if they didn't want it they shouldn't have asked. Haha
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I usually say no flat out, especially if it's a guy who hasn't spent a dime on me. I usually try and get them in a private and play their game until I tell them that the site doesn't allow meeting. I don't promise anything but I tease and say things like "Well, what would you do if you were with me right now?" by then I've gotten some money from them before I drop the TOS bomb :P
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
I have no problem saying "I'm 100% online" over and over again (thanks, Phrase Express & JAC for introducing me to it). I just say nononononono about 30 times (or more!) per day. I do have some little "perks" for my big custies, though, like if I am on Skype just diddling around while waiting for indy shows or while editing clips, I'll give them a little free non-dirty chat if they are a guy who has spent a lot on me, or are a dependable regular. I'll give them more twitter love than some random dude, @ them photos, stuff like that. I find that "extra access" is nothing for me and seems to curb the "meet me" shit but I DON'T give too much away. Just enough that they feel special.
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
If it's not a regular, I will block instantly. To me that's a serious matter, and for all I know they could be a cop. The majority of my requests seem to be for escorting though. In my area this is a serious offense! I don't want to go to jail.
I do try to be polite to my regulars, though. I've had maybe one or two clients who just don't understand things unless explained to them. Sometimes people are anxious in front of a pretty girl and can be a little dense. Sometimes they just really don't know any better. A warning for these guys is enough. It also depends on how much I like the client. If he's actually a nice guy, I'll just say that I'm sorry and they're usually understanding. It's a case by case basis. I'm a lot lighter on my regulars because they are carefully selected to be nice guys. I mesh with my regulars pretty well, and actually enjoy being around them. :) (Maybe not in person, though! Like I said, I don't wanna go to jail.)
As for turning people down nicely, you can say--
1. I'm sorry, I'll get banned. That would be a shame because I really like the community here, and if I got banned we would never get to see each other again.
2. I'm sorry I have a boyfriend.
3. I don't escort, please don't ask because I can get into trouble!
As for being a cunt (for my little submissive boys)
1. You don't get to see someone as beautiful as me in person. In fact, you had to pay just to look at me. You're lucky to be graced with my presence. There's other people I could be seeing right now. If you ever want to cum again, you will learn your place when we are spending time together. Apologize. Now.
2. Hang up. Tell them to type what they did wrong. Assign punishment.
Hope this helps!
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
Some of my canned responses...
#1 I giggle and tell them that isn't what they want, I would annoy them off cam. They are lucky they can make me go away with the click of a button and that so many of my friends and family would be jealous as they don't have that feature
#2 "Baby I'd love to but I'm so nervous!!! I've heard horror stories as I'm sure you have about crazy cam girls meeting people"
#3. "But what if you are a serial killer? How do you know I'm not one?"
#4 "maybe??? I really have to think about it. Just know I'm a "never say never" kind of girl so it COULD happen...but I have had a rule about not getting TOO close and it makes me so nervous ! I'm a spaz, I know. I just don't know *shrug*
So many of them keep buying the dream and others wise up. It doesn't matter, there will always be more custies so don't worry!!
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3 ways for me: 'I dont meet someone I dont know. You never took me private or talked with me. I need be sure about you'. Sometimes I get privates after that and bcs tgey are sexual I answer I dont meet people whi cares about my body.
'I dont share my detais bcs its not allowed due site rules. But we can always have nice private shows. ' usually people dont ask details again bcs its not allowed. Or I simply block them if they are too anoying
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LOL @ expired customer!...haha
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Originally Posted by
temptingmodel
"I know every customer has a shelf life and they eventually move on but im the kind of girl, id rather go make my money elsewhere then have to feel the pressure or the nagging of you asking me to meet u up."
for the most part at this very point, is when they have expired. This is the hint
They really want to meet you
At this point this is when roleplay comes in handy on YOUR END.
Babe, I am the GFE online, I would love to meet you but I thought this was online to you as well. I really do care about you.
Say whatever you need to say to save face.
9 times out of 10 you will NEVER meet this person and he is now wasting your time, expired customer.
usually they live 10 states away.
now broke
or
NOT WILLING TO PAY bc they have paid you enough in their heads.
I deal with this shit all the time.
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
I tell them if they send me 1000 weekly for 3 months straight than i will meet them for coffee. lmfao that usually scares them off!
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I recently had a reg who is my weekly whale find out I was going to fetcon. I wasn't advertising it and didn't submit a photo. A week before they pulled one off my twitter page. The weekend it was said so I'll see you this weekend at fetcon. I said, "Do not come up to me. I'm not about that and I'm not ready to meet any fans. Please respect my space." He did, but was a little upset about it.
I didn't care, I was there to work on my fetmodel portfolio and do shoots.
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Originally Posted by
ABigNerd
I tell them the simple truth. I'm a cammodel. I don't escort, and I wouldn't feel comfortable meeting even for casual conversation. I like most of my customers. I don't try to 'milk' anything. I don't lie to them. I avoid any behavior that makes me feel guilty or uncomfortable. Anything that has that sort of negative impact on your attitude will impact the way you feel about camming.
So vry true, here lately its almost made me question camming well not long, maybe a split second i make too good of $$ to let a needy regular get into my head and throw me off :-D but u said it perfect!
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Re: how do u deal with customers nagging u to meet up or trying to pressure u into it
I tell them to log into exclusive chat and lets talk about it. The majority of my guys log in after the clubs close and they are just saying it for obvious reasons. I'm positive none of them actually intend to meet me, it's a part of their fantasy at the moment and it's nice to be able to say, "I can't do that, it's only our first date, what kind of girlfriend would I be if I .... " when he asks me to show him my tits.