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I would have explained that when I came back out after putting myself back together, I looked for him but couldn't find him. However, the second they start w/ the 'I really like you but you're just all abt the $$' nonsense, I know that almost nothing I can say will make them happy. It's natural to try & refute those statements bc we want to please, regardless of how much we actually like the customer (professionally speaking). I have heard of girls agreeing w/ them when they get like that, & sm times it works in their favour. But from what you posted it sounds like you did nothing wrong. Sm customers just can't quite reconcile spending all that $$$, knowing it is only a fantasy, & on top of it wanting to keep spending on the fantasy, so they say tricky things like this. It is definitely them, not you.
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Thank you! I guess that makes sense, our VIP rooms are $360/hr so he was probably just trying to justify having spent almost $700 on a girl who isn't his girlfriend.
That makes me feel better, thank you.
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Agree with Aniela-- he also seems to have a bit of an entitlement complex going on, his hour was up and if he wanted you to hang about more, then he should have said something. I've done VIPs or dances with customers before and when it's over they've said "I'm gonna smoke a cigarette but I'd like another dance/more time in VIP when I get back" or something along those lines. In that case I would hang out for a bit, surveying the room and enjoying a little break, and if they weren't back in 15, move on. If they don't say anything I assume once a dance/VIP is over it's over because most of the time guys don't just keep buying hours of VIP and taking breaks and buying more, and my shift is not done so I need to move on to the next person. And I'm certainly not going to hang out for free for twenty minutes just because they bought an hour or whatever of VIP.
Perhaps he was hoping that after buying an hour you would give him your phone number and the two of you would run off into the evening together (his comment about being different makes me think that was his hope, like he thought he was serenading you by not grabbing your tits the first hour, god knows it doesn't take much to charm us strippers ::)) and once that didn't happen he felt ripped off. He may have been a bit drunk the first hour and after sobering up a bit the reality of the situation set in and it wasn't as much fun for him. I don't know how many clients I've had say things along the lines of 'you say that to everyone' and like Aniela said, there's not much you can say. My response is usually "come on, don't be insecure. I'm having fun, is that so hard to believe? You're being a bit a downer and ruining my good time!" Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. But it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong here. He just may have had some unrealistic expectations. And if he wants to get all wrapped up in the reality of the situation and act like a downer, that's his choice. He knew was he was getting into when he went in an SC!
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That makes sense with the things he was saying.
Most of the guys who book me for VIPs so far have been lonely men who just seem to want someone to make them feel special. I don't mind that at all, but I guess it means I'll have to deal with guys who think I'm going to be their girlfriend a whole lot.
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Everything Aniela and Audrey said is the most likely scenario, but IME difficult customers who keep spending (and spending is the key!) sometimes want you to reflect the negativity back onto them. Test the waters next time by saying some bitchy things with a smile. If it gives him a boner you can segue into some light BDSM with his consent -- a light slap on his face, tweaking his nipples, etc. If he likes light stuff he'll tell you to stay there or how to progress.
Again, this isn't the most likely reason why he gave you a hard time (but still spent ~$700!!). But at my home club they called me the fetish whisperer, and if I had your customer I would have definitely tried this out. Although I would back off and go to strip club GFE the second he seemed not into it of course!
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I don't know...Maybe I'd ask him if another dancer might be more to his liking, since I was obviously failing to meet his expectations? But then again, it's a hour, which is usually pretty good money from a single customer. It might be worth just putting up with it and changing the subject at every moment he tries to go into that negative place. His change in attitude might be because he was more drunk by the second hour than he was in the first hour. Some people just become surly when they've had too much to drink.
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Did you try to get him to stay another hour when the first hour was up? Did you tell him you had such a nice time with him and couldnt believe the hour was already up etc?
If you didnt that might have something to do with the way he acted in the second hour. It might have hurt his ego if you just let him go easily.
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I did say something like, "Wow, that went really fast! Do we have to stop?" And he said he wanted to get back to his friends. I assumed that meant he wasn't going to buy any more time.
Now that I think about it, when he asked me for another hour I was in the middle of selling a dance to another guy, and maybe he saw that and bought another session because he was feeling possessive. I guess some guys don't understand that it's fantasy.
I appreciate everyone's feedback. I'm feeling a lot better about it now.
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Some people are never happy or enjoy "winding people up".Some men get "hurt" when they see a dancer they have spent time with working the room; the fact that it is a job becomes real and they develop buyers remorse, or don't feel special anymore. Either way, you made money from him and did your job. He paid for the second dance, he was not forced in any way so he obviously wanted to spend time with you. If he chose to spend it whiney instead of enjoying your dance, then that's his problem. Don't sweat it.