Do you feel sexy when you dance?
Hi, I'm tantra. I've been looking for a forum of open-minded, sex-positive, non-judgemental people to share my recent sex explorations. I'll talk about that in another post. I've never done any sex work, but I had one experience that opened my mind to stripping. When I was in college I went to Cancun for spring break. We went to a bar where they had a wet t-shirt competition. I decided to go for it, even though I have smallish boobs. Something happened when I got up on stage. All the guys were clapping their hands, stomping their feet, and shouting for me to take off my clothes. I was the center of all their attention and it seemed like they were all turned on by me. I got so excited up there I can't even describe it. I've never felt that way before or since. I ended up taking almost everything off, and I won the contest! Although I only did that once, I've always been fascinated by the idea of stripping. I've tried dancing sexy for my boyfriend, which definitely turns him on, but it doesn't do that much for me. I guess it's the idea of being naked in public, feeling vulnerable and exposed, but also in my power with all that energy from a room full of guys.
OK, so here's my question. Do strippers get excited when they dance like I did that one time? From postings I've read on this forum, it seems a lot of strippers only care about getting tips. What about enjoying your sexuality and feeling the power you have over guys? Do any of you who strip for a living feel that way? I would especially like to hear from dancers who have the same experience I had.
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Well, in regards to only caring abt getting tips: this is how most of the dancers on this board make their living. Tips, private dances, VIP -- this is what pays our bills, so yeah, it's kind of important.
The strip club is not the place for your sex explorations. If you are seriously considering giving stripping a try, you need to get these 'sex exploration' thoughts out of your head. Sure it can be a great outlet if you're an exhibitionist, but further attempts at 'exploration' will get you quickly into territory that's both inappropriate & illegal.
As for feeling sexy onstage, I won't try to speak for others on that but I would say it falls under the performance aspect of the job, for me anyway. I dislike a lot of floorwork & raunchier moves but good polework, & being able to do good polework, is what does it for me.
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You are right that we mostly care about getting tips. Stripping is a job, not a kink. If you want to explore your exhibitionist feelings, you should keep it out of the strip club.
I mean, I do enjoy bluntly displaying my sexuality and controlling guys at work, but there's so much more to stripping than that. There's a lot of boring shit that requires a loving mother's infinite patience. There's a lot of rejection that will destroy you if you're not strong. There's a lot of drama and sore ankles, too.
Personally, I'm just too busy working to get off at work.
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Why do I get the feeling this was written by a dude?...
The only thing I care about when I'm on stage (other than tips) is how much exercise I get and improving my pole tricks and floor work. I care about improving myself as well as putting on a good show. It feels about the same as when I used to perform in musical theater and ballet. It can be fun but it's still work. I get no sexual satisfaction out of it.
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Money makes my pussy wet. ::)
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wednesday86
It feels about the same as when I used to perform in musical theater and ballet. It can be fun but it's still work. I get no sexual satisfaction out of it.
I feel the same. I feel sexy on stage but it's not completely due to stripping in public. It's more of a mindset I put myself in. It's like acting in the sense that you make yourself feel the emotion being conveyed in the scene, but it's not how you really feel. But "fake it til you make it" does come into play.
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I'm so focused on pretending to be absolutely infatuated with myself on stage and pretending that I want every man in that club that I don't feel genuinely sexy at all. It's all a show and a good enough one at that that I can make the bald obese man believe he turns me on beyond compare.
It's all about the money for me. It's my job. If I were "whatever" about the money, my ass would be living in a box on the streets in no time.
Finally, for your wanting to talk to a dancer with a similar experience, I have some definite kinks. You know where I take care of those? Not at a strip club. Things could end up very dangerous and very illegal otherwise. The strip club is no place for dancers to play out their fantasies, and not every night will have men fawning over you on stage (especially depending on where you live/dance). There's nights where not a single person even looks at the girls on stage, and it sucks. The dancers end up praising each other so we don't all feel shitty after our sets.
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Cancun is fun!!!! I never did a wet T down there but have done it before and did bikini contest. And yes I do enjoy being in front of people on a stage atmosphere.
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OK, thanks you guys, I get it! BTW, I'm not thinking about becoming a stripper, I already have a career. I just wondered if it's ever like what happened to me on stage. Naive question I realize now.