Is It Me (or is it the club)?
Hey everyone! This is my first post on SW, and I am so excited to be a part of this community!
I was a dancer in NJ at a go-go bar a few years ago, but I only danced there for a month or two before I stopped dancing. I had never danced in an all-nude club until last year, and during my first six months, I thought I was doing well (I had $300 nights regularly). However, I noticed that this year, I am not doing so well...but I witness other girls I work with making at least double or triple what I make a night. The only thing that has changed about me in a year is that my hair is much longer (isn't that a good thing, though? lol) and I purchased better-quality dresses.
I am half-Asian/half-Caucasian, 5'3", slim, have small (but perky!) boobs, and have really light skin. I know I'm not ugly (that sounds so conceited, sorry) because the girls I work with always compliment me on my "exotic" looks. Yet when I approach men and groups at my club, I'm almost immediately waved off or they will glance up and away from me until I take the hint and leave. I usually approach a customer sitting by himself and will smile, say "hello," ask them a few questions, and then ask for a dance...but they tend to always say no or they will ask if they can get "extras." I have read all of the posts in the Hustle Hut, but it doesn't seem to help. I have tried working at different clubs around the area and I make even less than I do at the one I'm currently at. The majority of the girls at my club are white, with maybe 1 or 2 black girls. Almost everyone makes at least $300/night at my club, but I only make half of that nowadays. I don't understand what's going on, but I feel so discouraged and confused! :-\
Help! Lol.
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Welcome to the forum! I can't be of mch help, sorry..but you sound gorj. I'm sure the other ladies on here will have some insight for you.
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If you're being shooed away before even having a chance to sit or at least start a conversation, you either have bad timing or you're encroaching on regulars.
With those you get a chance to sit down with, you might not be building any rapport with all your questions before asking for a dance. Maybe it comes off like you're questioning them. Maybe you come off as bored or scripted. Maybe they can smell the desperation if you've had bad luck lately.
If you're constantly getting rejected for dances for not offering extras, it could just be that you're working in a dirty club and the customers know who to get dances from or know that there are enough dirty girls that they can openly ask for extras.
Are there any other clubs near you? If I were in your shoes, I'd probably try out somewhere else. Then you can find out if it's just you or if it's your club. Some clubs are more regulars heavy than others. Maybe your look doesn't appeal to the clientele that frequent your club -- what your fellow dancers think of your look is honestly irrelevant if it's not making you money. Maybe your city is just dead and the only girls making money are relying on their regulars.
So many possible reasons! But you'll have more information to go on if you go somewhere else. And if you end up making tons of money there, all the better!
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if you've' tried other clubs with the same result, and you still notice the other girls making more money than you then yeah it probably is you. but not because you aren't beautiful!! you sound gorgeous. looks aren't everything when it comes to making money in the club though. i think some of your hopelessness may be coming out when you approach guys. they can smell desperation/depression/unhappiness a mile away. and when i get into a slump, i tend to stay that way until i take a break and find a way to get out of it and have fun at work again. or maybe the girls are all providing a lot more contact than you are, and that's why..this business has changed a lot
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It's the way you're coming off. You gotta walk around like you're hot shit and you own the place. Get turned down? Their fucking loss because you're the best and they're missing out!
:)
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I think it's probably your confidence and approach. Are you smiling and making lots of eye contact? Touching their shoulder/arm/hair? Keeping the conversation on clubs and dances, light and fun topics? I always start off by talking about clubs (the club I'm at and the ones I worked at before) asking a few shallow questions like what they do for work and always keep the conversation on them. I try to talk about myself as little as possible, and always "ooo" and "ahh", act genuinely interested in them and make lots of eye contact and smile. If you come off defeated, angry or in a bad mood it repels them. I know it's hard to break that cycle when you're not making $, but many customers have grumpy wives/girlfriends at home and they want to spend time and money on pretty, happy, fun girls when they go out. Try to go into your next shift with the mindset of just having fun and flirting with guys. Try to relax and you should see an increase in earnings.
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OH and as far as them shooing you away before you get to talk, fuck those guys. They would be a waste of your time anyway! I make most of my $$ off a hand full of guys that I charm the pants off of who get multiple dances and VIPS. I made half my earnings last Friday and Saturday off of one dude and did better than most of the other dancers. You only need ONE good customer to turn your night around. :)
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Don't approach from the front if you can help it. Always approach from the side and kneel down to ear level of the customer. This will force him to hear your words first and then turn his face or body or both to look at you. From there ask to sit with him, either in another chair or on his lap. You will not be shoe'd awáy because by that point you are a "real person" not a nameless thing approaching .
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Thanks so much for your feedback and support, ladies! I work again tomorrow evening, and I will let you know what happens! If I must try another club, then I will! Will update! :)