customer wants to go on dates - does this sound ok to say to him?
I have this one panty buying customer - super nice and polite - he's a really good buyer. A few months ago, he asked if I would meet him for a coffee to chat. I thought ok, this is just part of strengthening the transactional relationship - he's smart and when we met for the exchange (in public), we always stopped and chatted for a bit. But one coffee led to him asking me out again, without buying my panties and I just didn't reply.
He sent me an email asking if everything is ok, that I had been on his mind bc I was completing school in August; and asking me out to coffee again. I'm just not interested in anything like that... I'm happy to meet him for coffee *if* he buys my panties but that's about it. Could I reply back with something like... "hey, been really busy this summer. had an opportunity to travel (which i actually did) so was away from the city a lot. i'd love to meet up for a coffee, but could we agree to a panty purchase as well?" or is that way too direct?
i just want him to know, nicely, that i'm not interested in anything aside from the transactional nature of our friendship/whatever.
Re: customer wants to go on dates - does this sound ok to say to him?
Ha! He "wants a relationship" with you. I had one dumbass client who tried this. (Actually two, now that I think of it.) They have been the older guys who have tried that junk with me too. Anyways- DON'T go on anymore "coffee-dates" with him. Let him know how much you enjoy spending time with him, but that the fantasy stops there and that when it boils down to it- This is a business transaction. I was actually mortified beyond belief when I ran into a similar creature as you are describing in a Supermarket. He immediately outed me to the friends and family that I was there with- All because he was possessive and had "marked me as his territory" and wanted everyone to know that we had slept together. Ewwwwwwww!! I blacklisted him and there is a huge thread about it on one of the screening sites, but WTF? The damage was done because "He wanted me to be his girlfriend", AND he was clingy and weird and shit. TELL HIM NO and that you will only see him while you are working and not ever outside of it. These guys can get relentless and obsessive, especially the older ones, who arent going to be around much longer and feel desperate. At least that has been my experience. They have no respect- Set him straight real quick!
Re: customer wants to go on dates - does this sound ok to say to him?
If anything, I'd say the way you're phrasing isn't direct enough! This guy has made it clear that he just want to hang out with you, no money/transaction involved. You need to make it equally clear to him that your time isn't free. No bullshit busy excuse, just: "I'd love to grab coffee with you next time you buy some panties!"
Re: customer wants to go on dates - does this sound ok to say to him?
Maybe add a 'menu item' panties $xx, panties + 15 min coffee $xxx...
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Originally Posted by
shanna dior
If anything, I'd say the way you're phrasing isn't direct enough! This guy has made it clear that he just want to hang out with you, no money/transaction involved. You need to make it equally clear to him that your time isn't free. No bullshit busy excuse, just: "I'd love to grab coffee with you next time you buy some panties!"
Re: customer wants to go on dates - does this sound ok to say to him?
"Hello Mr. Pantyfan :)
How many pairs of panties would you like to buy this time? Tell me which day & time you'd like to pick up the panties and I will check my schedule to see if I'll have time for coffee.
Thanks!
Tralalala "
Or... Cut him lose. He's past his customer expiration date if he's trying to see you for nothing. If you give them an inch they'll take a mile...