NYC girls !! I hate asking for help but wasting so much timeeeeee
Hi everyone!
I have had been visiting this site and I am glad I found it. And THANK YOU for helping out each other.
Basically, I have never been to a strip club but I love dancing and not bad at it.
The thing is, I know I could walk in a club for interview but I have been chickening out so in conclusion, I need a cool girl who can push me and help me. I just need that push.
I believe to have good manners and customer service skills and would prefer to start as a waitress, taking orders, and learn from observation.
Hoping to hear from honest tough SMART ladies ready to shove me around lol.
Re: NYC girls !! I hate asking for help but wasting so much timeeeeee
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Originally Posted by
need2b
Hi everyone!
I have had been visiting this site and I am glad I found it. And THANK YOU for helping out each other.
Basically, I have never been to a strip club but I love dancing and not bad at it.
The thing is, I know I could walk in a club for interview but I have been chickening out so in conclusion, I need a cool girl who can push me and help me. I just need that push.
I believe to have good manners and customer service skills and would prefer to start as a waitress, taking orders, and learn from observation.
Hoping to hear from honest tough SMART ladies ready to shove me around lol.
Go audition.
Was that enough of a "push" for you?
Re: NYC girls !! I hate asking for help but wasting so much timeeeeee
Being able to dance (or having rhythm at the very least) is helpful no doubt, but your conversational skills / hustle skills are what's really going to make you money. Simply knowing how to dance well will not guarantee that you'll make "good money."
If you want to strip I recommend just auditioning to strip. Skip being a waitress --- it's usually harder to get hired at a strip but as a waitress than a stripper, anyway. Most clubs are almost always hiring dancers as long as they meet their club's hiring standards.
I guess just think about it as the longer you wait to audition, the more days are passing where you could have gone home with hundred (or more) in your pocket. If that isn't incentive, I don't know what is.
We were all newbies at one point. You just have the fuel your fear into determination and go audition.
Re: NYC girls !! I hate asking for help but wasting so much timeeeeee
We are entering the best season of the year. If you don't do it NOW, you're going to be missing out on thousands of dollars.
Re: NYC girls !! I hate asking for help but wasting so much timeeeeee
This probably isn't the best advice but when I audition at a new club I like to have some wine or take a shot before because I get really nervous going on stage in a new club. Once I'm hired though I don't have that problem idk why. Maybe to ease into it just go visit the club and say you're interested in auditioning but you just want to check the place out first. Watch some girls go on stage see the environment (remember how the stage is! a new stage ALWAYS throws me off) Then you'll know what to expect when you go in to actually audition. I know exactly how you feel though I bullshitted so much before I actually auditioned! Practicing, getting ready, backing out, and repeat lol. Don't start as a waitress. You can observe and learn as a dancer. Just pay attention to what other girls do and talk to someone who is willing to help you out (usually the older ones who've been there a while). There's no easy way to do this or any short cuts.. you just have to suck it up, go in, and start working. After a couple shifts you'll get the hang of it.
Re: NYC girls !! I hate asking for help but wasting so much timeeeeee
OMG THAN YOU so so much ALL of you. I know that I need to just get over it. You know what, let me be honest here, I don’t know if there is anyone who can relate to my situation..
My background is Iran, indian, kashmir and religion..well take a wild guess.
Most of my teenage life flew by with strict parents, forced head scarf, not allowed to work etc.
I am in late twenties, and I want to do this- I want to feel what it is like.
I am not against any religion. I am against my culture and above all, racism.
If any one out there feel me, I need you to come through and I promise you I will never forget that. Regardless though, I do love you all for supporting each other.
I ask for a one time push/kick.
I will return favor..I have car and my license is clean and would love to help with travel in return.
Open to any suggestions as well.
Peace
<3 <3
Re: NYC girls !! I hate asking for help but wasting so much timeeeeee
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Originally Posted by
need2b
OMG THAN YOU so so much ALL of you. I know that I need to just get over it. You know what, let me be honest here, I don’t know if there is anyone who can relate to my situation..
My background is Iran, indian, kashmir and religion..well take a wild guess.
Most of my teenage life flew by with strict parents, forced head scarf, not allowed to work etc.
I am in late twenties, and I want to do this- I want to feel what it is like.
I am not against any religion. I am against my culture and above all, racism.
If any one out there feel me, I need you to come through and I promise you I will never forget that. Regardless though, I do love you all for supporting each other.
I ask for a one time push/kick.
I will return favor..I have car and my license is clean and would love to help with travel in return.
Open to any suggestions as well.
Peace
<3 <3
Audition by yourself, and take your time making friends. That great, sweet new dancer friend you make in the club could end up having you drive her all around town looking for her fix- be a loner at first! A loner with your guard up.
That is my strong suggestion to you, and make your money!
Re: NYC girls !! I hate asking for help but wasting so much timeeeeee
Not a NY girl but 2nd'ing chloemay's advice.
Unfortunately, the girls here on SW are not very typical of the girls you will meet at the club. Be polite but keep to yourself, keep your guard up w/ staff, customers & fellow dancers alike. Friends are a fringe benefit in this industry, you will generally find that the girls most worth being friends w/ keep a low profile. Sm clubs are much friendlier or cattier than others, def Take Your Time getting to know ppl in this job.
That said, re: needing a push -- to be successful in this job, you need to be self-motivated. It's great for those days when you're exhausted or just have no fks to give, but this is essentially a sales job & no one is going to do your selling for you -- or those who offer to try, they are generally not the kind of ppl you should be around. If you have a competitive streak, stripping may be perfect for you. But you can't be reliant on others to give you a push whenever you need it.
Waitressing may get you acclimated to the environment, but there's a reason strippers make better $$, & nothing can really prepare you for stripping, so why keep wasting your time? Off w/ the water wings & into the deep end w/ you, dammit!
Re: NYC girls !! I hate asking for help but wasting so much timeeeeee
Keep to yourself and trust NO one!
When I had my 1st audition, I brought my non-stripper bff with me. My first shift, I had one cocktail to help ease in and feel at home. After that, it was smooth sailing. Keep to yourself. Stay alert and sober.
If you feel like waitressing first, do it. I personally know girls who waitress at the right club and banks like a stripper, sometimes more. But if you hate working with schedules, then go right in and audition.
Good luck.
Re: NYC girls !! I hate asking for help but wasting so much timeeeeee
Baby steps.
I felt exactly the same way before I first started. I was super nervous, and every time I tried to go audition, I would chicken out or make some lame excuse to myself about why I couldn't go. My background is similar to yours in that I'm really the LAST person you would ever expect to be a stripper. I also really wanted someone experienced by my side to make the whole process just a little more nerve wracking. HOWEVER, in this job, you are really on your own. Even though you're surrounded by other dancers and staff in the club, you work for yourself and by yourself. No one is really going to help you or tell you what to do. Since you're going to have to get used to that anyway - might as well start now.
I ended up making it into the club to audition by breaking the process down into a bunch of little steps, and telling myself that I could turn around and drive home at any point after each step, if I wanted to. It was something like this:
1. Just get ready, do all your makeup, put on cute clothes, and look your best. If you don't feel like going to audition after that, then you don't have to leave the house at all, no pressure. Just get ready as if you were going to.
2. Well, I'm already ready, I spent so much time on my hair and makeup, might as well go. Just drive to the club. Just go to the parking lot. If you decide you don't want to go in when you get there, you can turn around and go back home. No pressure.
3. Well, I'm already here, might as well go inside. I'll just tell them I want to check out the club. I don't have to commit to anything. I'll see if I like it, and if not, I'll just walk out and go home, and I don't ever have to audition or come back.
4. Okay, I'm already inside, might as well just audition now...
When you think about it, what's the worst that could happen?? I mean, the WORST thing is probably that some mean manager you don't know could say you're fat/ugly/GTFO whatever. (Which will almost definitely NOT happen, but we are talking worst case scenario here.) And then what happens? You don't get hired and you're embarrassed and you turn around and go home and never see these people again? If you're never going to see them again, WHO CARES what they think!! It's not like they're going to throw a rock at your face or call your parents or anything else that might ACTUALLY matter to you.
Seriously, just go!! And then once you audition, you'll wonder why in the hell you waited so long.