Potential Sugar Daddy - I have no idea what I'm doing...
I did search, and couldn't find anything that answered my question. I hope it's ok to post this.
I had a very generous customer at the club last weekend, who didn't want any VIPs, but paid me to sit and talk with him. He was basically the perfect customer. Charming, respectful, genuinely interesting, he didn't try to touch me or even talk about sex, and didn't get upset when I left to do stage spots, or when I got booked for VIPs. He told me he has a wife, and a girlfriend as well. When I asked about the girlfriend, he said he met her in a strip club, and that they've never had sex, that he just pays her rent and bills and they spend time together. He said he knows she's in it for the money, and that she sees other people, but that he doesn't mind.
At the end of the night, he asked if I wanted to get coffee when I finished my shift. I said that I couldn't, but gave him my stripper email address, and asked him to let me know when he was in town next.
He emailed saying he would love to come visit me, that he thinks I'm an incredible woman, and that I should just name a date and he'll make it work.
My questions are:
How do I stay safe in this situation?
How do I make it clear that I won't have sex with him, and that I expect to be paid for my time?
How do I know if he's genuine?
Thank you!
Re: Potential Sugar Daddy - I have no idea what I'm doing...
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Graci
How do I stay safe in this situation?
Until you're 100% comfortable with him, meet him in public places, like restaurants, malls, coffeeshops, etc.
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Graci
How do I make it clear that I won't have sex with him, and that I expect to be paid for my time?
In these arrangements, the sooner the better. Try to milk him as much as possible; be charming and adorable with him but also establish the boundaries early on.
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Graci
How do I know if he's genuine?
A few clues:
-He's not cheap with you.
-He won't be demanding you to "host".
-He will not push your boundaries.
-He'll act generous without asking too much in return.
Re: Potential Sugar Daddy - I have no idea what I'm doing...
If you look in other work section there's sugar daddy threads.
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whirlerz
If you look in other work section there's sugar daddy threads.
Thank you! I'm new to the site, so still learning my way around.
Re: Potential Sugar Daddy - I have no idea what I'm doing...
Sure..understood. There are more in other sections too, Ladies, Hustle etc. I believe.
Re: Potential Sugar Daddy - I have no idea what I'm doing...
In these cases, you have to be explicit about the compensation. You can't just skirt around it by asking him to take care of you or make it worth your while, or else you'll end up disappointed when he doesn't give you as much as you had hoped for. Given that he brought up his current pay for play situation (and I wouldn't believe that they don't have sex; he might just be saying that now to get you OTC and then will most likely try for it down the line), this shouldn't come out of left field. But really hammer down how much you want vs. what you give him in exchange. Make it clear for both of you and always get your money upfront.
Be safe and avoid sex by only meeting in public and having a safe call.
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shanna dior
In these cases, you have to be explicit about the compensation. You can't just skirt around it by asking him to take care of you or make it worth your while, or else you'll end up disappointed when he doesn't give you as much as you had hoped for. Given that he brought up his current pay for play situation (and I wouldn't believe that they don't have sex; he might just be saying that now to get you OTC and then will most likely try for it down the line), this shouldn't come out of left field. But really hammer down how much you want vs. what you give him in exchange. Make it clear for both of you and always get your money upfront.
Be safe and avoid sex by only meeting in public and having a safe call.
Thank you. He's traveling to my city to see one of my shows in a couple of weeks (I'm a singer), and I've said we can go out for breakfast one morning. I'll make sure he understands the situation then.
Thank you for the advice. He seems very straightforward when he talks about money, so hopefully it won't be a problem.