How much should I ask for a Dinner Date?
I never go out on dinner dates because I'm always afraid I'm going to bump into someone I know. But lately I'm starting to get more comfortable with what I do. Plus it's nobody's business but my own. Well that's what I'm telling myself until it blows up in my face. Anyway, I'm thinking of charging my regular rate 350/hr, but that includes normal services. But for dinner and a movie type date and just that, I considered about 150/hr. What do y'all think?
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Depends.... is this just dinner or is there BJ, HJ, or sex accompanying it?
I break it down with my clients, it's $300 for the hour of sex afterwards (or however long they want) and $250 for a two hour dinner. So it comes to $550 for everything.
I will tell you though I am considering taking it off my menu because these men just love to stretch the meal, and it's really awkward to say "uhhm, can you please eat faster? We've already been here for and hour and a half." It's not like being in a champagne room or even my incall flat where you're in charge and can time out the date.
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Yep, moving those dinner dates along smoothly can be a challenge! I find it easier to estimate the total time we'll probably be together and come up with an amount based on that. You can say, "For dinner, drinks and an hour of fun at the hotel afterwards, I'll need $___."
If no "fun" is involved, it seems hard to charge more than $100 or so per hour.
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I charge $200-$250 for a lunch date, $300-$350 for a dinner date.
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From a companion, a.k.a. escort: My rate doesn't change unless the length of the date does. Fees are for my time.
When you base your rate structure on "activities" or "services" instead of time you start sliding down a slippery slope. I do dinner dates, overnights, and longer, and I charge for my time, every time. Don't feel guilty about your rate! If 350 is your hourly rate then I wouldn't go lower than that per hour. Adjust appropriately for longer dates. This is a high-risk business, you should be banking.
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Elektra Luxx
I never go out on dinner dates because I'm always afraid I'm going to bump into someone I know. But lately I'm starting to get more comfortable with what I do. Plus it's nobody's business but my own. Well that's what I'm telling myself until it blows up in my face. Anyway, I'm thinking of charging my regular rate 350/hr, but that includes normal services. But for dinner and a movie type date and just that, I considered about 150/hr. What do y'all think?
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I offered a range of dinner date options from $600-$900 before I moved to a three hour minimum.
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I'm the same with Aether... You are paying for my TIME, so why would my rate change if you (client) decide you want to do something different with me during our time (dinner date) than the usual? Now, that's not to say I haven't been negotiated with and taken certain offers before. I personally don't like going out on dinner dates. If someone I know happens to see me, awkward... if we don't have good chemistry, it's awkward/boring/pulling my hair out... Make sure whatever you do to keep it by the hour though so that X amount of dollars for a dinner date doesn't turn into X amount of dollars for 5 hours of pure hell!
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I have a lunch/cocktail rate that is 300 for an hour. I have to drive a total of 4 hours for any of the "dates". And it is strictly lunch or cocktails. As the other's have said... the rate is for my time only.
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Aether
From a companion, a.k.a. escort: My rate doesn't change unless the length of the date does. Fees are for my time.
When you base your rate structure on "activities" or "services" instead of time you start sliding down a slippery slope. I do dinner dates, overnights, and longer, and I charge for my time, every time. Don't feel guilty about your rate! If 350 is your hourly rate then I wouldn't go lower than that per hour. Adjust appropriately for longer dates. This is a high-risk business, you should be banking.
Precisely. Time is your most valuable possession. Once it is gone, you can never get it back! I always remind myself and clients of this (not so bluntly) but when I act like I am worth $500 for an hour of cocktails, men tend to agree.
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You guys earn like $500 to get taken out to dinner? I could get used to that, lol. I don't think I'm nice enough to be an escort tho.
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Hi ladies, quick question on this theme.
One of my new clients asked me for my rate for a multi hour date. I quoted.
Now he has emailed me to ask if the room is at his expense. Well duh... It's an outcall date.
Is there a nice way to say that? He has me worried now. All my other clients just msg me room/hotel info.
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All I do is multi-hour outcall dates. Hotel mostly, but their place, if I know them well. I would politely say something like "Oh I thought you were making all the arrangements. OK, let me know if you want me to make the arrangements so I can adjust my rates accordingly. See you soon." It sounds as if he's trying to get away with paying less.
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Pretty sure that's the direction its heading.
I don't negotiate prices. It creeps me out when they do this. Seriously - if its out of your budget, say so politely and move on.
Will keep that reply in mind. Right now - I am ignoring the client.
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amberlly
Hi ladies, quick question on this theme.
One of my new clients asked me for my rate for a multi hour date. I quoted.
Now he has emailed me to ask if the room is at his expense. Well duh... It's an outcall date.
Is there a nice way to say that? He has me worried now. All my other clients just msg me room/hotel info.
Sometimes (especially if he is a newbie or I find with my foreign clients) they get confused on outcall/incall... I would just remind him that outcall means you are coming to his place and incall means he comes to yours and if he would like, you can arrange an incall instead and then give him your new rate if you desire to change it.
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And yeah it does sound like he's trying to get away with paying for less. It's just disrespectful... for any girl on the $$/"low end" vs "high end" spectrum. And dumb... like do they try this on every single girl until someone finally deals with their bargaining/haggling cheap ass?
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Its odd. He has seen me before and tipped and been a gentleman.
He wanted to make it an activity type date - which is what they all say. Like oh lets go shopping/dinner etc.
Besides - it never happens. Its oh you look sexy - lets stay here...
Plus your paying for my TIME. If you want a shopping buddy -the department stores offer stylists...
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He is annoying me now. I hate the hagglers.
I usually just walk on them. One client told me he had feelings for me and was famous (in his mind) and as it was mutual I should do it for free.. I refused and he tried to haggle. I just walked out.
He seriously couldn't understand. He was like "fine - I'll pay your rate." Too late - I don't sleep with pathetic people.