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First night - advice about guys getting (too?) attached?
I'm euphoric. I've been scared to start just reading about how awful SM lately (by the way, I get that it's bugging, but how is it buggy for you? Is it on they guys end? Because I haven't been logged in and out at all, but they all are complaining and the same people will come in and out over 20 times. I tried asking to no avail) but I did it and I made BANK. I'm fucking ecstatic.
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Second and more important question: how do I deal with the guys who seem entirely way too enthusiastic about me? Most of them end private with "your rad" (of course they have no idea what the contraction of 'you are' is) but more than one of them did everything they could to get more info, access, etc. on/to me. I thought I had a handle on how to weed out the crazies from the infatuated but now that I've had my first night, I really don't know anymore.
For example, guy #1 spends over 2 hours generally taking up all the conversation. Y'all have taught me that this translates to a freeloader, but he ended up spending his entire $150 daily limit on me (did not know that was a thing on SM). He kept talking about how jealous he was of my time, other guys looking at me, his wife - yes, after 30 mins - and wanted to trade twitter handles. I did, just because I have literally one follower, but dude was seriously buggin'. Hard.
Guy #2 says he wants to marry me and get me preggers. Repeatedly. But he paid out the ass and I'm guessing this is fantasy talk? Seriously, how do you distinguish the difference between potential stalker and freaky regular?
Guy #3 repeatedly asked for my skype name even though I said I'd only give it out if we prearranged a scenario and he paid gold upfront. Finally I gave in, because like the last guy, he paid a LOT of money.
PLEASE, some advice?
Re: First night - advice about guys getting (too?) attached?
Hey hun :) welcome to camming and to Stripperweb :) glad that your first night went well in terms of money.
When it comes to dudes, its all fantasy talk, or at least, it needs to remain that way. Getting jealous regulars is a good thing, they will always take you pvt and give you money, especially if they sense that you are being looked at by other guys. Those are the guys that will save your bacon on days that no one else shows up. Keep them around, but don't take what they say too seriously, and don't let them get to you or make you feel bad. Also, do not let them take up all of your chat time unless it is slow. if there are lots of people in your room, engage them too, you never know, there may be other big spenders among them. If its slow though, then manage the situation in whatever way makes you feel comfortable. Also remember, guys do this on cam sites. They spend some time with a model and get obsessed. Its the nature of the biz.
In terms of guy two, they also all do that. I've had dudes buy me plane tickets (which I cancelled of course) so its a natural thing. Don't let people like this get any of your real info though, just be careful. No Skype with those ones. because they could end up bothering you etc when you are trying to work. Just play along with the fantasy provided it is getting you money. I cannot stress that enough. there are those dudes that will come into your room and say things like that and not pay. Kick them out or ban them, they are a waste of time. if they do pay, once again, make them regulars as they will end up coming through for you money wise in your hours of need. All cam customers have the potential to be stalkers, just don't give them any info that will help them. There are also those who will visit you every shift. If you manage them well, you can build up a great rapport with them. I have a reg who has been with me for a year and he is a pleasure to have around.
As for guy 3...DON'T give out your Skype details ever unless you are working on CMD. SM takes a very poor view of you discussing off site stuff like Skype. They don't always enforce the rules, but if they do catch you giving out personal details it can be bad for you. it doesn't matter how much these dudes pay, don't capitulate to them. I always say I don't have Skype when i am on SM. If they want other stuff, I sweetly say "send me a PM" to which I never reply. It helps me avoid trouble from SM and dudes who are gonna stalk me. Sometimes I verbally advertise my Twitter, but I have learnt that if a guy likes you, he will find you on social media.
Just make sure that your cam stuff and real stuff are totally separate, so that no dude can make the connection between your cam identity and your real one. Otherwise, good luck and hope you keep on banking xx
Re: First night - advice about guys getting (too?) attached?
Welcome to camming. :D
Sounds like a normal night!
Simone summed everything up, but I wanna add that be careful advertising your Twitter as well, as SM takes a dim view of any sort of off-site contact. Even though they advertise us on Twitter, go figure.
Freeloaders DO have the chance of becoming big spenders, but not very often. If they start begging for free shit I just kick them, otherwise anyone can chat in my room.
I want to add more but I REALLY need to log in and work, so I'm sure other girls will chime in. :p
Re: First night - advice about guys getting (too?) attached?
I understand that you're new and I don't mean this in a harsh way but it's incredibly important to familiarize yourself with the rules of your site! Sharing contact info (like your Twitter and especially Skype) is a HUGE no-no on SM and is likely to get your account suspended or banned. Don't go off of what the top girls do, either--when you're making SM enormous amounts of money maybe they'll go easier on you, but I wouldn't count on it as a newbie. Not to mention that some of them are not under the standard contract that most girls are and aren't held to the same rules.
Now that I've got my cranky camgirl lecture out of the way... I've had the same problem with guys getting too attached. I nip it in the bud with a fake boyfriend. Most camgirls do the opposite, and say that they're single when they're not, but after a bad experience as a newbie I have no patience for overly attached customers and do everything I can to discourage them. I'm single but blame my boyfriend for not being able to meet up, not getting too close, even stuff like not offering anal (my story varies by the customer.) This won't work for hardcore GFE guys but IME most GFE guys are more trouble than they're worth.
This brings me to another point: there's really no need to distinguish between a potential stalker and a freaky regular because neither of them should be able to find you. It doesn't matter how nice they are, how normal they seem, how long you've known them, or how much money they've spent. Never ever ever share information like your real name, your specific location, your birthday, where you went to school, etc. You can make up fake "real" info and it serves the exact same purpose (making them feel special) without putting yourself in jeopardy. Read everything there is on here about maintaining your anonymity! I emphasize this because the kind of guys you're attracting are exactly the kind of guys you need to worry about. That guy who shows up once every week or two to get a half hour roleplay show, who's polite enough but doesn't really contact you when he doesn't want a show? He's not going to be the one who stalks you. The one who spends his whole paycheck on just talking to you and is always pressing for more personal information, talks about meeting up, etc is the guy you have to worry about. They should both be given the same amount of real information: none.
That said... welcome to camming! I'm glad you had such a great first shift :)
Re: First night - advice about guys getting (too?) attached?
@Simone
Thank you thank you thank you! This is exactly what I was hoping, I've spent entirely way too much time beefing up my security but I was desperately afraid there's a chink in the armor and some insane hacker or person living in my major US city will recognize me and follow me back to my place. (note to self, buy mace) Your advice is so going to allow me to get some sleep now.
@Pearl_Sugar @Procrasturbator
I hang my head in shame. 98% of my research was on MFC and I just recently got in a pickle financially, so I took the relatively quicker option of SM without searing the manual in my mind. I was scrambling so many times trying to remember what was and wasn't permissible on SM tonight. >_<
You're absolutely right though, I'll have to substitute the news with the manual to read during breakfast today.
Thanks so much for the replies. I have no idea where I'd be if I didn't discover SW.
xoxo