How do you keep your head "cool" with hot customers?
I've been dancing for over a year, and still I somehow manage to get crush on hot, nice guys. I hate it, because it affects my focus on work. For example yesterday there was some guy and I realllly enjoyed his company. He bought me drinks and then he took half an hour Private with me.. When I was in his lap, leaning against him, I felt like "oo he is so nice" but then I wanted to block those feelings and reminded myself, I'm here to work and he is just another customer. But after he left, I was just kind of daydreaming about him and couln't properly focus on hustling. Although I did another half an hour private after that, but I really didn't feel like it.
I think part of the problem is, i'm single and if I had someone, I wouldn't be so easily crushing in these men... Oh god, it's so embarrassing to even writing this..maybe after more years of stripping I'm just laughing at this.:D But do you have some tips to keep my head cool with these hot&nice guys? Should I just stay away from them completely, and hustle only older/uglier guys. :D
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Maybe an OTC, non-work-related FB would help you channel those feelings?
Idk, I look at a guy (whether at work or outside of work) & might think to myself, 'Yeah --he's a looker.' But that's it. I acknowledge that I find him nice to look at & then move on.
You need to be mature enough to separate your feelings from your job. Remind yourself of all the things that can go wrong from letting your vagina override your common sense. Make your feelings work for you by imagining every customer is your current ITC crush. It can make the 'I want you -- I NEED YOU -- oh baby, oh baby' illusion an easier sell & thus translate to higher earnings.
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I just dont really like having sex without commitment and relationship.. but maybe it could help, i will think about it. Haha, some customer asked me tonight "Do you have any feelings?" Oh god sometimes I wish that I didn't have any. :D
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I don't either, but maybe that's part of why I have nvr had a crush on a guy I met ITC even when I was single.
Maybe I am 'too businesslike' in my advice here, but just sm things to think abt. YOU need to control your feelings, & the situation. Many customers are harmless (mostly) but there are sm that will come in & try just as hard to make you fall in love w/ them, bc they are looking to take advantage. That thought should put your brakes on pretty damn fast. That's not to say you can't 'appreciate a nice view' but a little paranoia in this business goes a long way toward protecting your safety & your income. The second they are out the door, they need to be out of mind until the nxt time they come in to spend on you.
Keep reading up on HH. That exchange could have helped your sale if you played it right. The important thing here is being able to maintain control of the situation. If you want to get your own fantasy on, take it to a regular bar or nightclub, whether you want to take sm1 home or not.
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Work is work, customers are simply customers and that's literally the extent of the relationship. Sure, there are good looking guys, but once they pay me for my time, the money is all I see. They paid for an experience and I gave them one. I've never met a customer I'd take home with me. The girls, however, are a different story ;P
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I get into work mode and not even Leo DiCaprio could get me out of it. No attraction to anyone, no begin turned on, nothing. I suggest you develop the same.
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You're young, you'll learn. Dancing for a 'hot' guy is a plus not a future. You dance to pay bills, school, savings, car, ect..... Don't let being lonely get in the way.
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Simple. Customers are ATM's with penises. Don't feel bad. I've seen much stupider posts. *cough cough "soulmate"*
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Ok thanks for answers, very helpful again :) I've also tried to develop some kind of "stripper persona" for work, so it's like they don't even know me, and then I have more distance between real me and a customer? I'm so genuine and sensitive at work, so maybe I need to change that a little. The problem is that I always forget to "act" and just come back to myself. So how to keep up with that work mode?
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I've tried dating hotties I met in the club and they were all a let down. This may be bad advice, but maybe you could try going on a date with one (safely, in a public place and all that). It'll either work out or bring you back to reality and help you realize that these things are usually over before they begin..In my case they all turned out to be A) Liars, B) Boring or C) Could not get over dating "a stripper." I've never dated a customer that was boyfriend material. Maybe you just need to get it out of your system.
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Not gonna lie, I often dislike dancing for guys I find attractive, cause I start to feel awkward and wonder if I'm sexy, etc. Being attracted to them makes me more self-conscious. When it's older and/or less attractive guys I'm just like, Uh yeah obviously I'm the sexiest thing he's ever seen and he should count himself lucky to have me on his lap. I'm more confident with guys I'm not attracted to and as a consequence, I make more money and have a better day in general.
Cute, young guys I'm always too tempted to sit too long and drink with, losing out on money at the same time, so I try to avoid them for my own sanity.
It still happens sometimes though. I had this guy who kept tipping me on stage the other day. I just wanted to take him home and let him open me up like it was Christmas Day. It's a struggle some days, girl, but you know what you've gotta do.