I fell in love with my best friend...
I have a friend. We been friends for long time but something has chance...it changed because i fell for him.
Because i fell for him, even though I've known him for long time i keep missing him, i always want to see him and talk to him -but of course i do not want him to know that i like him.
Then one time i saw him asking this girl out.. it hurts like hell. I keep crying and crying because it hurt so much but i still can't tell him.. Second time i saw them talking i couldn't hide it anymore. So i asked him although i made it like a joke.
But then i asked him " what will you do if it's real? if i really fell for you?" and he told me that he will be disappointed... because we are friends. Anyways i told him it's not like that.
After that we still keep on talking I keep on talking to him on Facebook messenger. Everyday we chat and he chat a lot too. I feel like we became closer. I message him everyday but then sometimes i feel sad or get insecure and think maybe it's not right i shouldn't do this so i won't message.
But then whenever i don't message first he always message me. Almost every time i will not chat with him he will message me. So we did that for few months although sometimes i still feel insecure and not sure whether i am doing the right thin or that it may just cause me another heartache so often times i end up getting angry at him.
Then one time i didn't message him in FB he sent me a message and then asked me if i am busy blah blah then he told me.. " i just want to tell you I like you" I was surprised but i don't know if he is serious since he like making jokes like that like telling me he love me (even before i fell for him). So i just brush it off like it's a joke,
After that he started to act cold so i confront him he said it's not. Then after that we are back in being close again.
But then i feel like i said something not good again and so he started to ignore me again. Not sending me any message on FB he is not even posting anything and yeah really ignore my messages. Not even reading it.
So i confront him again and told him what's the problem and so he told me he had been sick.
and so after that we are back in being good again.
But then their class had to go on a tour so he was out for a week or two . He still sent me a message sometimes during that tour. But i never send the message first because i was worried whether he is getting annoyed or if i am bothering him.
Anyway he didn't post much in his FB account too. One time i used my whatsapp to chat with someone - I looked at his whatsapp account and saw that he hasn't been using it for months. Anyway i went online there. Funny thing is the second time i used it he went online and stay there for long time while i was online - but of course i didn't talk to him. ( i don't want him to think that i am stalking him -even though i do lol)
Then after that i checked his last seen and saw him used it early morning, then checked again at 9 and noon and night but then i didn't use it.
Every time i check it for two days and i saw him used it I don';t know he if chatted with someone there or not.
Then he didn't use it for a day and then after that he message me on FB again.
But then again after that. After they came back on tour. I feel like he started to act cold.
Often avoiding me when i talk to him or is often in a hurry when he talk to me. Although sometimes he still talk to me for an hour but then i feel like it's different.
Then i saw him. Tagging this girl on FB asking her out again.
I was so hurt. I don't know what he is thinking. What was that. I thought everything was starting to get better.
I can't understanding him. I really wish i do.
Did he at least fell for me or not?
Or is it just me over thinking things because i like him?
Re: I fell in love with my best friend...
You can only control your actions. You have to decide for yourself the risks you're willing to take. Do what's best for you.
The reality is, things probably won't go back to being the same whether you express your love him or not. I know that's a bit sad in thought but holding it in can lead to the same conclusion. Risking your friendship for more is a gamble but not saying and waiting is as well. It might go your way, it might not. I think it's very hard on both parties in these situations...just don't allow your feelings to string you along.
I wish you luck.
Re: I fell in love with my best friend...
OP, how old are you? Your actions scream "I'm a teen sneaking into an 18+ forum".
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Jay12
OP, how old are you? Your actions scream "I'm a teen sneaking into an 18+ forum".
My exact thought, you're good.
OP, you are hardcore chasing him but assuming he is also very young I am almost certain he has no idea, especially since it is social media (do you flirt with him in person?). It takes most guys a long time to learn to spot those little frightened shots across the bow. You are giving him little tests and he has no idea what is going on. I hope that doesn't ruin the fun, good luck.
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well stop facebook stalking for one. THAT will drive you insane.
And when when he told you he'd be disappointed if you fell for him?!?! but then later says that he likes you?!?! what the [email protected]? Dude is too wishy washy and confused or he's a player and playing mind games.
Either way, if I was you I would start dating other people cause this dude WILL waste your time if you allow him.
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Jay12
OP, how old are you? Your actions scream "I'm a teen sneaking into an 18+ forum".
Jay12 you beat me to it. I read thru the OP twice & was having trouble making sense of it -- & here I was starting to wonder if it's bc I'm not on ANY social media & therefore 'don't get it' :biggrin:
Seriously OP if all your communications are via FB, txt msg, etc, that's problem #1. Grow up, grow sm balls & talk to the guy in person (so you can pick up all the nonverbal cues that you miss out on over social media) & find out where the hell you guys stand w/ each other. If he keeps on in person the way he seems to be over txt (flip-floppy bs), move on.
Mature adults don't bother w/ cat&mouse games like the ones you & this guy are engaged in.
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LOL. Sorry. I am 19 yrs old. and this is the first time it happened to me.
Also Yeah we do meet in person. His house is a bit near mine...
Re: I fell in love with my best friend...
If you can't have a serious conversation and be direct with him, then you're definitely not ready for a relationship with him.
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nobody here is going to be able to tell you that he 100% likes you, or doesn't. we don't know him, or his intentions, we know even less than you. so i would stop playing these ridiculous games, stop sitting there stalking him and pining away, and just talk to him.
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