major blackout im freaking out
two days ago I went to a bar, walking since I cant drive anymore. Anyway, at this point I had finished an entire bottle of fireball by myself. I only remember ordering a beer and chatting with the waitress. Since I had WALKED to the bar, I must have had someone take me home. I woke up in my bed. My purse was gone, my passport, ID, and cell phone were in there. Whats really strange is that I have a bunch of bruises everywhere. My knuckles, my chin, and behind me tighs. My husband said that I came home in a random car, with a man, and hugged him and went upstairs. He says he tried to go down there but the man was gone. Im scared for a number of things.... Who was he? Why am I bruised? Where is my stuff>? He knows my address because of the ID. Luckily I didn't drive but I cant believe I left with a complete strangers. I escaped while my husband went to work : ( I am so scared now. I cant even be paranoid about the guy because I have absolutely NO memory of anything besides the beer and waitress. Its kinda bugging me out. I hope nothing happened between us but judging from my bruises, it seems he might have tried. I tried to call the phone company to locate the cell phone but they couldn't help.
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Go to hospital, first! Go now. Don't even finish reading this, bc it will be here when you get back & you can finish reading it then. Go to hospital & get checked out first. It may or may not be too late to pick up anything w/ a tox-screen but you can get examined & any treatment for STIs, etc
After that -- only you can decide if this is police-report worthy. Is it possible your drink was spiked, or do you think the blackout was simply courtesy of the Fireball? The police would be well w/in their rights to go talk to the bartender to find out if they saw you leave w/ anyone. Any possible sexual shenanigans aside, your stuff was stolen, & the fact that you were piss-drunk does not revoke your right to take legal measures to have it recovered.
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it was the fireball I was completely obliterated. I don't remember anything. Im almost certain nothing sexual happened because I would have felt something different. i think the dude must have tried something and i fought therefore was taken home. this happened sunday night so kinda late for a doc evaluation.
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If he has a small penis and used lube you might not notice anything different. I'd get checked out anyway, even though it has been a couple of days, then follow up with a clinic every 2 weeks until you are sure nothing comes up. As far as your stuff goes, cancel the phone and credit cards, get new ID, you have to replace it anyway. You may have fought him off or had wild rough sex, or a combo. I feel for you, blacking out is the WORST, the angst afterward is so hard to deal with.
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Agree w/ ^^^^, esp w/ your mention pf bruising around thighs & chin area. Go get a medical check. You may have means to pursue the theft & the assault, even if it was not sex-specific.
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Wow; that's a really bad situation. I don't mean to come off harsh but please make sure you don't put yourself into a situation like that again! The fact that you stated you had to "sneak" out when your husband was at work and that you are drinking until you blackout is alarming. Something very bad could likely happened and you could have not made it home at all; either gotten your self killed or held captive (possibly even forced into sexual slavery). I mean to be supportive of what you are going through but there's indications of much bigger issues here...
On the other hand; maybe there's a silver lining...Have you gone to the police? Maybe someone from the bar recognized him and you can somehow piece together what happened to you; I hope everything works out for you and that you are able to get your stuff back.
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Sorry to hear this.
Definitely stay away from bars, drinking, late nights by yourself. There is no shortage of sick pervs who see intoxicated woman as an easy opportunity.
hopefully this guy didn't take advantage of you sexually.
Also try again with the cellphone. If someone found it and the battery has a charge it can be traced.
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You might have fallen, that's happened several times to me when i got wasted and woke up with bruises.
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Very sorry to hear this. No one is perfect I am sure u wish u could go back n time and not go to that bar..shit happens..I think i remember seeing ur AA post/s. This business can create alcoholics. We all know this..this is whats all around us and commonplace...Drinking is normal bc everyone does it it seems...However..It can become a huge problem and wreck people's lives and those of close loved ones who r affected indirectly. You have to think of alcohol as a poison that u need not touch..But u have to love urself enough not to want to abuse it..When life is hard and one lacks effective coping mechanisms its hard.When things go terribly wrong or about 10 things do at once its hard not to self destruct. Finding that mental space where u figuratively decide its the enemy and the destroyer of power, control and ultimately life I think only then can u defeat it.
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Glad you are okay.
This might be embarrassing but can you ask workers at the bar if they recognized the guy who took you home, or if there is a camera outside where the parking is for this bar? They might have video of him and/or the car.
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Go to the bar and see if they have cameras. If they do, request to view the video of the night you went. That is fucking terrifying.
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First of all, your husband is a saint. Mine would have completely lost his shit over this kind of behaviour. I'd probably be seeing divorce papers. "Sneaking out" is very disrespectful behaviour and frankly I'm shocked.
That aside, you probably fell, and pursue the theft. But please, go to rehab. Alcoholism like this is scary and is not something you can resolve yourself. At least go to an addiction counselor because, having been there... even after this experience, it will not stop. This is just the threshold of an escalation. You will have this happen again, and you will not get so lucky every time.