Bringing guests on cam with you...
I've looked all over for an answer to this question to no avail...
Recently someone in guest chat on SM was begging for me to bring someone else on cam for private show. Though he was begging for my younger sister (who's a minor so I told him hell no) I got to thinking about bringing my boyfriend in to give him a blow job in a private show. We can't do a couples account because I will be gone for the next 3 months but I was wondering about a 1 or 2 time thing? My boyfriend has seen other cam girls bring in "guests" to their shows so my question is, is this allowed? Is there a form or ID check he needs to do? Any tips or tricks for this?
Thanks guys!
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On SM and MFC, you can bring a guest, but they have to be another model on that site.
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Why would he even know about an under age sister?
EVERYONE on cam must be on file with the cam company. They must fill out all the paperwork you did & IDs. On Sm you have to do a couples account. Bring someone on even if they are on SM without proper notice & procedures will get you suspended if not fired.
NO MEN allowed on MFC. NO under age girls allowed on MFC.
Talking about an underage sister can get you suspended or FIRED. So once again, why would she even be brought up by a custie or you on cam? INCEST is ILLEGAL. Doing it with your sister ILLEGAL.
Are you for real? Are you a troll? If you are a cam girl did you NOT read the TOS of SM or MFC? If not, go back now & read it.
Sam
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Sam38g
Why would he even know about an under age sister?
I was going to ask the same thing. I would never in a MILLION years tell a cam customer about my real siblings, underage or not.
And yes, you need to e-mail Liz or support and send a copy of your boyfriends ID. Streamate would be in so much legal shit if they didn't check every performer ID on their site.
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He didn't know she was underage when he asked me to bring her on cam. I said no and didn't say anything else to him and of course he begged but I never told him she was under aged. I was just stating that for the posts purposes.
I'm only on SM right now and I have read all their FAQ and TOS and tried to look on sw to find the process I would have to go through to do this properly. SM's TOS only states that you have to sign up for a couples account and nothing else, no tips, no suggestions, no comparison to other cam sites... Which is why I came here with my questions.
So... Is there another cam site that we could sign up for separately and cam together once in a while?
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CynderWish
He didn't know she was underage when he asked me to bring her on cam. I said no and didn't say anything else to him and of course he begged but I never told him she was under aged. I was just stating that for the posts purposes.
I'm only on SM right now and I have read all their FAQ and TOS and tried to look on sw to find the process I would have to go through to do this properly. SM's TOS only states that you have to sign up for a couples account and nothing else, no tips, no suggestions, no comparison to other cam sites... Which is why I came here with my questions.
So... Is there another cam site that we could sign up for separately and cam together once in a while?
My point being You NEVER ever discuss family members on cam. ONLY way he knew you had a sister is that you talked about her. Come on, you had to know the next thing would be is for him to beg to see you kiss, fuck & eat her out. You opened that door, that ILLEGAL door.
As for the boyfriend, you want to get him into porn. You want to limit his future ability to get jobs? all for a few dollars you might make?
Customers will beg, plead, pester for all kind of stuff, doesn't mean they will actually spend any kind of real money. You can't chase after every single dollars cause a man on a cam site types out empty promises of it.
Men lie. Men lie to get what they want. You have to determine your boundaries before you even log on & stick to them. Hell, we all get offers of $5000 to $20,000 a night of sex with them, yet they never ever even tip us a single dollar, go private. They LIE!
If you can't get them to spend money on what you currently offer, then block them. Don't waste your time & energy on a guy who will never spend money. It is a game to them to push your limits for FREE! You actually considering anything he wrote means you have much to learn & to toughen the fuck up.
When I write Toughen the fuck up, I say it for your own protection or you will end up emotionally drained & damaged. Being nice & accommodating doesn't make you money, you must appear that way, yet not actually be it. Way to many of these men are PREDATORS, he was a PREDATOR. By sticking to your boundaries, you self protect. NONE of these guys will ever have your best interest at heart.
Good Luck,
Sam
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Sam38g
As for the boyfriend, you want to get him into porn. You want to limit his future ability to get jobs? all for a few dollars you might make?
When I write Toughen the fuck up, I say it for your own protection or you will end up emotionally drained & damaged.
1. My boyfriend is a consenting adult. I cannot make him do anything he doesn't want to do including going into the porn industry. He understands all the risks as do I and he's actually interested. You don't know me and cannot assume my intention was to "get him into porn" and "limit his future ability to get jobs...for a few dollars [I] might make". My intention was simply to find a way that we could share this together without making a couples profile because (as I stated in the original post) I will be gone for the next three months.
2. You are making me feel more emotionally drained and damaged than he did. Yes, it was wrong and I felt it as soon as it happened and I immediately stopped talking to him. Yeah I'm new and of course I'm going to make some mistakes and yeah this was a pretty big mistake but thanks for making me feel worse about it than I already was. I understand that you said these things for my own protection but again, you don't know me. You don't know how much I've researched, read, studied about these things to protect myself from predators. Yes he was harassing me and lying to me but that wasn't even the point of this thread. I wanted to bring my boyfriend in because I genuinely thought it would be a good idea for the both of us. Wasn't even thinking about the money thank you very much.
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I warn you because I have seen it many times over. Men getting in to help the girlfriend or wife. Even though they made fully informed decisions, turn on her a few months to a few years later.
Many won't admit it, but ALL men come into this biz with a fantasy porn movie playing in their head. That we will all go crazy for their dick & all the girls he has jacke off to over the years will be begging for his dick. I don't care how loyal, loving, understanding he is, it happens. When that fantasy doesn't happen they turn quick & blame the girl or wife.
I have seen it happen in a manner of hours on a porn set. Seen it over 300 times.
Want you to go into it fully warned of what can happen. Once you are in it, hard to get out.
Try it, see how it goes. Maybe he can handle all the guys begging to suck his dick or calling him names when he is with you. They are brutal in free chat with cam girls, even worst when a man gets involved. Seen them reduced professional porn stars to tears on cam before.
There are a few couples who cam, but for the most part there is a reason why majority are solo girls. :)
Happy you did your research, I love that. Making mistakes is how we learn.
Good Luck,
Sam
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I believe on sm you can have an occasional partner added to your account, I think you'd want to contact Liz (Liz at streamate dot com) about that, from what I've read sm regular support are about as useful as sleeping cats (and not nearly as cute) in addressing performer questions/concerns. If Dara is right though that he'd have to make an account as well, it may be more hassle than it's worth if you plan on it being an occasional event
as to talking about your family, tons of my regs know about my family, not identifying details, etc, but they know I'm married, they know I'm close with my parents, they overwhelmed me with tips and notes of condolence when my bro died over xmas and I had to cancel a bunch of shows. To me talking about an underage sibling is treading a really thin line though, know that in doing so you're prob catering to some sick fuck's pedo fantasies. That goes triple if he's some free chat mouth-breather who hasn't actually cultivated a client/cam chica relationship with you
as far as camming with your guy, based on my experience (I started camming as a couple with my then FWB/now husband) it's not nearly as much fun as one could expect it to be. The sex can feel really clinical, staged, inauthentic...or if you're both uber-exhibitionist it could be a great experience, don't know for sure unless you try it I guess. If he has a prominent job though I would tread carefully though, as being outed as an adult worker can def affect both parties in a couple. Looking back I'm really relieved that my dude never really showed his face on cam, his career is much more 'traditional' than my own off cam work and it's a relief not having to worry about screencaps/recordings from the past fucking that up for him.
All that aside I would heavily caution against entertaining the fantasies of guys in free chat who haven't actually spent on you yet. Let them earn your mental head-space, kwim? In a lot of cases they just want to talk, and have one hand off the keyboard when doing so
Good luck whatever you decide
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Just a few words of advice when bringing your boyfriend into it. If he's not generally turned on by people watching he might find that it's hard to get a boner when it's time. It took my SO a couple weeks before he could get hard like he normally does. Typically, if I were to hold his dick in my hand I can get him hard by almost not doing anything, but when we got on cam it was like nothing happened. He had trouble getting hard and staying hard, it made it really difficult to do shows and we had to do shows from specific angles to hid it. It did get better and now we can do shows and videos with no problem.
Some of his friends found us though, he has more friends than I do (I like being a loner :P), so he was recognized by people in another country and some even recognized me from his facebook picture (I've never met them before). Luckily none of them ever tried to out us, but they decided to talk about it on some public forums that aren't related to camming and all of that had to be removed.
Usually when there's one of you it's easier to hide who you are. I'd say if you were going to do shows on SM (I've not cammed there), you be on cam and offer the shows and when it's time bring him on as basically...a stunt cock. Just know he might have issues getting hard and that's frustrating to everyone and can put him off.
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Haha luckily he's an extreme exhibitionist so at this point I'm sure he wouldn't have trouble getting hard. And the "stunt cock" was mainly what I was thinking for right now but it looks like a little too much hassle for the next few weeks so I think we'll wait until I come back to do videos/cam together.
As far as talking about family on cam, i don't say ages or where we live/work/recreate, just general things like "ooooh my roomate is right outside my door" or "i have to be quiet because my parents can hear me if i'm too loud" (I was home for christmas and several guys thought it was super hot that I was sneaking around.) but now i have a new question that might turn into another thread: how do cam girls cater to bdsm fetishes like mommy/son or daddy/daughter roleplay? Its a thing and I've experienced it, but while its nowhere near actual incest, it can be mistaken for it easily... If anyone has a quick link to a thread that'd b great otherwise I will go research it now :)
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Read the cam site TOS.
Mommy/son or daddy/daughter is incest, It is illegal. And now, after reading that post obviously the sister underage stuff is what you were pushing, the whole family incest is your thing.
Skirting it legally, there are ways. Funny, there are many ways to make money on cam without even going there and catering to that kind of CREEPY belong under the jail kind of perverts on the web.
Maybe the darkweb is where you need to go & figure out a way to take bitcoins for payment.
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Sam38g
Read the cam site TOS.
Mommy/son or daddy/daughter is incest, It is illegal. And now, after reading that post obviously the sister underage stuff is what you were pushing, the whole family incest is your thing.
Actually, incest is not my "thing" I do not participate, believe or support any incestual activities because it is morally wrong and illegal. So thanks for that...
I am a member of my local BDSM community and I fall into the role of a little and a brat (among other things). This means that when I am with my Dominant (who is of consenting age and not blood related in any way), I regress into the mindset of a little girl. This is NOT ACTUAL INCEST and it doesn't even have to involve sex (our relationship doesn't). Instead, it includes things like coloring, being read to, being taken care of, bubble baths, McDonalds toys, and a deep connection between both parties. Pedophilia is non consensual sexual intercourse (minors cannot consent). Incest is sexual intercourse with a blood relative. We are participating in none of these and instead, fall naturally into the roles of The Protector and the dependent.
I understand that others do not see it this way and probably never will see or experience it this way and that's OK. After I made my last post, I went elsewhere on SW and found that (of course) SM does not allow incest (I already knew that) and that there are ways to skirt around it such as pseudo-incest which is sex with a step-relative. Therefore, if someone comes to me wanting son/Mommy roleplay, I can give it to him as long as it does not ever involve sex. If he is a paying regular and wishes to delve further I will change into the role of a family friend and he, to a consenting adult. Otherwise, MY Daddy/daughter, son/Mommy role play will not include anything sexual. If they insist, they get banned. Simple.
Any other "kind of CREEPY belong under the jail kind of pervert" stuff I can explain to you?
And before anyone says I'm validating illegal activities, once again: I'm not. I do NOT support any kind of incest, rape, pedophilia, or abuse (physical or verbal). I DO support those of consenting age, mind and body who wish to express who they really are in a Safe, Sane and Consentual way and environment.