Crappy week & angry stripper
So this week has been a shitty work week, my mood has really reflected my income and last night was such a weird night. I've only been stripping for about a month, and last night a fellow stripper yelled at me and said I was selfish and I had no idea what I did wrong, so I was quite upset and shitty. This wasn't the first time she had been extremely rude to me and on another night moved all my stuff in the DR without asking me.
We were in a group, four girls and then four guys and they all wanted a dance from us so we went with a guy each and walked away for a dance. After the guy and I walked away and I got my money from the guy, I began my dance. The other girl came up to me and yelled at me saying I had to make sure we all got paid the $50 each paid and that I was being selfish. I'm so confused? The price wouldn't have been any different if I had been by myself so I am still totally lost. No one ever explained anything to me about this (no one really teaches you anything with stripping really) I explained that I was new to this and had no idea that that was the case, I didn't apologise because she was so rude and didn't have to yell and insult me like that. I'm new so obviously, I will make mistakes and learn.
Other than that I haven't done well this week but I know it's especially because my mood has been pretty down this week. Other weeks have been great and I was in a much better mood. But is this whole group payment similar for anyone else at other clubs? I'm still confused at what I did wrong. Also, when you're in a bad mood do you bother going into work? It's Friday night and but I know my mood isn't going to help tonight in all honesty.
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That group thing -- if I'm understanding right, four girls paired up w/ four guys & then you all went & did your dances separately, & then the one chick got up in your kool-aid trying to make you fork over your dance $$? That's bollocks right there. She is trying to intimidate you & get in on your $$$ in the process. Either ignore her, bc unless she is doing double-dances w/ you she's not entitled to shit -- or if you're spoiling for a fight you can outright tell her to shove it. If she is continually being forceful as you describe, telling her off could very easily fuel the fire. I would tell mgmt b4 going that route.
Moving your stuff w/o asking -- also bloody rude, but playing devil's advocate for a min -- do you ever leave your stuff out & take up a lot of space? If so then I can see the frustration. Doesn't mean she's right to do that, & if you're not being careless w/ your stuff it's totally uncalled for. Start securing your stuff in a locker if there is one, she sounds like the type who would leave nasty organic surprises in your bag.
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^ I've never known a dancer in Melbourne to leave 'organic suprises' thankfully.
Bear in mind this is the quietest time of year (also June July) so earnings are down everywhere. TBH babe its as I told you in PM, Melbourne is not the best place to dance in Australia anymore. My pick is Perth or Adelaide.... Strip Trip?
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Aniela
That group thing -- if I'm understanding right, four girls paired up w/ four guys & then you all went & did your dances separately, & then the one chick got up in your kool-aid trying to make you fork over your dance $$? That's bollocks right there. She is trying to intimidate you & get in on your $$$ in the process. Either ignore her, bc unless she is doing double-dances w/ you she's not entitled to shit -- or if you're spoiling for a fight you can outright tell her to shove it. If she is continually being forceful as you describe, telling her off could very easily fuel the fire. I would tell mgmt b4 going that route.
Moving your stuff w/o asking -- also bloody rude, but playing devil's advocate for a min -- do you ever leave your stuff out & take up a lot of space? If so then I can see the frustration. Doesn't mean she's right to do that, & if you're not being careless w/ your stuff it's totally uncalled for. Start securing your stuff in a locker if there is one, she sounds like the type who would leave nasty organic surprises in your bag.
Yep correct, it didn't make any sense, there was definitely no double dances so that's why I was hella confused. I'm also avoiding getting fiery towards her because the last thing I wanna do is cause dramas at work!!!! For the bag stuff, before moving my stuff she said "don't take up all the space, all the new girls keep taking up too much space" which is absolute bull. Her shit was everywhere and I was cramped in a tiny spot >=[ not to mentioned telling me not to get food on her stuff when I was sitting and having a break in such a bitchy manner. Wtf!!!! I really just want her to leave me alone. Obviously never sat next to her after that and have been avoiding her as much as possible. The manager at work is super nice, so if there are more issues I'll definitely have a chat with him maybe.
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Flickdreams
^ I've never known a dancer in Melbourne to leave 'organic suprises' thankfully.
Bear in mind this is the quietest time of year (also June July) so earnings are down everywhere. TBH babe its as I told you in PM, Melbourne is not the best place to dance in Australia anymore. My pick is Perth or Adelaide.... Strip Trip?
Yeah very true, it has definitely quietened down since I started late December. A strip trip to Perth could be good, never actually considered that!
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^ You're at Rhinos right?
I had massive problems with bitchy girls at that club (and I had never danced when I started either). Just remind yourself that you've dealt with this behavior in high school before.... Watch your body language and slow your breathing when you interact with her, there will be other girls in the changeroom who sympathise with you even if they don't speak up for you- some of those girls will be reporting to management what goes on behind the scenes.
Go read the Law of Attraction thread, I think it could open some interesting possibilities for you- I will tell you why after you've read it if you don't figure t out for yourself.
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That dancer clearly is just being rude to you because she's jealous/threatened/insecure. Any other dancer that didn't have those issues and knew you were new would just let you know if you did something wrong. I would just go ask a manager the rules about that situation and most likely he/she will say there are none and to ignore that girl. Just keep to yourself and stay away from her. I've dealt with bitchy dancers when I was new so many times and all you can do is give them time to let out their insecurities and eventually they stop. If you ignore her and don't let her get to you she'll move on to someone else.
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Oh yeah, and Nov/Dec is Melbourne's busiest season so you started when money is at the best; it may have given you a distorted view of $ potential. Shitty week may actually be closer to true $ for this time of yeay.
Are you stuck living in Melbourne? If I didn't have my family commitments and was unmarried I would travel Australia based on the busy seasons in each state.
Can you imagine snorkeling in the Great Barrier Reef and joining in the free Sunrise Yoga at the lagoon in Cairns?
Bush-walking and Swimming in Natural Hot-springs and Waterfalls of Darwin?
Checking out the World Class Barossa Valley winery in Adelaide.
Sunbaking on rugged, untouched, unpopulated sandy beaches on the Western Australian coastline.
There is more to life than one bitchy girl in the changeroom. You are in Australia on the trip of a lifetime, explore.
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I have no tolerance for anyone picking on me. And I've been picked on a lot throuout the years for one reason or another. When I started, I was the girl that didn't do drugs and had the most amount of regs. Then I went from the chick with the big boobs that gets alot of dances. Which pushed me to become the girl that is fucking nuts so I'm staying away from her. I kinda got picked on so much which makes me just completely go off on girls that start with me. I know this is fucked up and I definitely have anger issues. But I won t take any shit from any of the Nast girls period. I noticed when Im myself which is really nice, outside of the club, the will try to take total advantage of you. Or, start fights with you,etc.if you give them an inch they will take a mile. Going off on them completely is probably not the right way. However, in many clubs, girls are high and or drunk. And the only way vie been able to get some girls off my back is to completely intimidate them.vie tried the nice let's talk is out thing and it never worked for me. I'm not suggesting that anyone act like I do when girls mess with me. Nor do I think it's the right way. I just think it's worked for me many years now.
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And or I've surrounded myself with fairly tough girls when I work in places in the ny area. And one time I had a girl see me in the club. The blonde hair I had at the time and my very large boobs. And she just started thawing my stuff all over the place. But she was also throwing my friend,a super tough girls stuff too. And when she found out who my friend was she immediately wanted to be nice to me and friendly with me. It's kind of a shame that this biz gets so crazy. And I feel as thought I have toe like don't step to me snoop dog deal!!!!