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approaching men
yesterday was my 2nd day stripping ever, the first night was great everyone was nice and i made $$$ easily. the 2nd day i was sleep deprived and felt really self conscious. so farive only done lap dances for men who approached me or where the conversation started naturally and not like i was hustling them. these guys adore me because they can tellim not acting but i knowim missing out on the real money by being too timid. its scary walking up to strange men wearing only a thong! I guess I'm wondering how to be successful but without seaming like your just going fromguy to guy trying to get their money?is that a dumb question lol?
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Re: approaching men
But you need to go guy to guy to make the big $$$. You are there to work; to make money and nothing else. You are not there to socialize for more than one or two songs and aren't there to "be timid."
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I know I'm still brand new so I'm hoping to get better at selling myself! I'm just looking for tips on how to gracefully work the club without seeming fake
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So the good news is that there's probably a couple weeks-months of newbie money waiting for you for all the reasons you just described. Enjoy it! It also means you've got some time to work on approaching and conversing. For me it felt a bit like getting into the pool--slowly dipping my toe in, then wading out and eventually swimming laps in the deep end.
First of all, hustle hut is your friend. Read the "best of" section if you haven't already, it's awesome.
Don't think of it as going from guy to guy trying to get their money. Look at it as you going up to men and allowing them the chance to purchase an amazing thing from you: something they'd never get if they weren't paying for it. Before my shifts, I often remind myself that there's no way I would ever allow the men at my club to see me naked if they didn't have money, and they should consider themselves damn lucky to have the opportunity to pay me money to get naked in their lap.
The other thing to keep in mind is that they came into the club specifically to talk to you and be approached by you. If you came up to a stranger in the grocery store and wanted to flirt with him, you'd have to come up with a clever icebreaker or otherwise initiate a conversation in a situation where it's not natural to do so. But he's already come into the club, which means he's already broken that ice. I sit down with my next lucky gentleman, smile, and say, "how are you tonight?" That's all it takes to start a conversation when you're pretty and naked. He's expecting you to come up to him, he wants you to, you're hot! (There are a few exceptions to this: these are the cheap bastards who don't want to spend money and are "jut there to drink/watch the game/play lotto." Fuck these guys, they deserve to feel uncomfortable and you should leave immediately without feeling the least bit guilty.)
When I'm talking to guys, obviously I'm trying to get their money, I know it and they know it. The trick is to create plausible deniability by constructing a fantasy world where they don't feel like that's what's going on. Look at them and only them, act like they're the most interesting man on the planet, make them feel like the center of your universe while you talk to them. After doing this for a bit, I ask if they want a dance. If yes, we dance, if no, "Aaw, too bad, well it was nice talking to you!" and leave. Again, in real life, it would be awkward to ask someone for something and then leave immediately if they said no, but this is a club, and they've just turned down the opportunity of a lifetime. Feel a brief moment of pity for them, then move on.
You will screw up occasionally. You will be awkward. Who cares? You'll learn something every time, and chances are you won't need to talk to that person ever again. Keep trying, and you'll find a style that works for you.
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Re: approaching men
(P.S: I post the above as an introvert who has struggled with social anxiety: anyone can learn to put on the stripper mask and approach men with enough patience and determination :D )