I don't like having regulars
I'd rather dance for new men each time. Even if regulars give me 500 each time, for some reason I feel like I'm working harder for regulars than new men each time. Besides I like the emotional high I feel when I'm successful with my hustling skills ;)
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The club I work at now is more of a quick hustle club, but I liked having regulars. They can be good for if you really don't feel like hustling too much. My regulars would also always buy me dinner, so I knew I'd be getting dinner plus at least $500-1000 or more sitting chatting in a booth without having to work as hard. My phone with all my regulars' numbers was broken and I got a new number, but I just got my phone fixed (finally) and so of course I am getting back in touch with them.
I guess whether or not I'd like to have a regular come see me vs hustle without a regular sorta depends on my "hustling mood."
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Money_Worshipper
Even if regulars give me 500 each time, for some reason I feel like I'm working harder for regulars than new men each time.
I know them feels.
Regulars get entitled and start feeling like the money they've previously "invested" in you should somehow count toward future "rewards." They're exhausting.
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I don't like regulars either. They can save you on really slow nights but lets be honest the $$ is never as good as when you first meet them and think about them stalking you or blowing up your phone wanting to date or wanting sex its totally not worth it.
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Yes, I want to work at a club that has enough foot traffic that you can make what you need and not have to rely on a regular. But to each their own.
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ugh who does? They're needy babies....
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I can honestly say regulars don't always work out. There is always a level of emotional want and neediness from them.
In smaller clubs dancers are kind of "stuck" with them due to the way their clubs works...but in larger clubs you don't have to rely on them.
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I'm not a regular kinda person either. My experience of them is that they fall in love and stop spending because they want to "white knight" me and take me away, marry me etc etc. Cannot be arsed with that BS.
I'm sure there are perfectly nice regulars out there that respect emotional boundaries, but i've never came across them!
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wednesday86
ugh who does? They're needy babies....
I mean... I fail to see how that's any different from other customers though!
I once had a regular who went crazy and told me he couldn't "emotionally handle" having to pay to see me. So I stopped talking to him. Then, a month later, he started texting me all this Romeo and Juliet stuff about how I was missing out and he would treat me better and love me more than anyone else, we could have a real love if only I weren't so money-hungry, blah blah blah; I kept ignoring him.
He sent me a text a week later saying, "I love you! I really do! How much for sex I'll pay anything?"
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I flip flop on my stance towards regulars. I like the idea of regular customers who come in to see me however often, but the reality is that many don't expect the interaction to end there. They want increasing attention on the floor for free or in the back for less, not to mention those that want to take you OTC or who want to text all the time. I've had a few great regulars who get that it's a job and I only exist in the club, but they're few and far between. Often, it's hard to determine if they'll be like that or not until it's too late and they have your number or you're growing dependant on their income.
Regulars also tend to make me a lazy hustler, which I don't like. When I have a big enough roster of em, I'll skip shifts when none of them are coming in and that keeps me from cultivating new customers or even just keeping my hustle fresh. Since all regulars have a shelf life, that's not so great!
I guess I like a happy medium. I like to have a handful of sporadic regulars who keep me working regularly because I'm never 100% sure when they're coming in (because they ideally don't over-communicate, if at all, OTC!) and who come in when it's quiet time and I'd otherwise make less. But not so many regulars that I'm scrambling to make it to them all during my shift and can't profit off the busy times when sometimes you can make more off random customers than you can sitting with a regular.
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All of my regulars eventually die out. But it's nice to keep some of them around for when it's slow and if I need a pick me up when I'm not making many sales.
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Regs are replaceable! I hate wasting time with a regular when I could be out there making new ones, lol. I prefer to make myself popular by hustling everyone in the room, it's more fun and I don't have to hold anyone's hand and spend too much time with them.
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Regulars have a shelf life like contact lenses. Use and discard.
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Me neither.
"I WILL PAY NEXT TIME I SEE YOU COME ON GIVE ME A DANCE"
"WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME"
"I THOUGHT WE WERE FRIENDS"
nope nope nope
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Only thing that I don't like about regulars is that eventually they become entitled in wanting for more for less, they want to get to know 'the real you' and pry for personal details (thus I have to keep lying), and some of them get emotionally attached and try to play mind / money games.
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I used to really dislike regulars, but the idea has grown on me over the years. I've been working my business based primarily on regulars for the last couple of years, and I really like the security of not worrying about not making enough to pay bills.
I don't have very many big money days, but I don't have very many no money days either. I can count on good, consistent income from my regular customers. Some regulars are short term, but I have several guys I've been seeing for over a year now. They know what the deal is, and are happy with paying me for my company and dances.
Yes, they are higher maintenance than walk in business. I think it is worth it. I have one customer who happily spends $1000 a month on me. He never asks for extras or OTC and is very consistent about when he comes in, what he likes in the dances and is never a problem.
That kind of consistent money does come with a little work. I treat my regulars as if they were clients in any other business. I communicate with them via voice or text to let them know when I'm available. I will send them flirty messages periodically if I hadn't heard from them in a while. I make notes about their lives and will review my notes before our next meeting so that I can maintain the appearance of interest in them.
Most regulars will burn out pretty quickly, though. They will come in consistently for a couple of months, then they'll want to take the "relationship" to the next level. I'm very clear with them that will never happen, that the relationship is always going to be a transactional one. Some are good with it, others get butt-hurt and disappear because they feel rejected.
I'm always very clear that I don't date socially. Ever. I tell them my job fulfills my needs for companionship and attention from men, and I keep my friends and family separate from my life as a stripper. Most of the men I have as regulars are very comfortable with this arrangement.
Sometimes I get done with a regular before he wants to let the client/stripper relationship go. I have to send him a break-up letter, and recommend other dancers he may enjoy seeing instead. I always keep it business-like, because this is a business.
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I agree. It's always good to at least have a couple regulars in your back pocket. You never know when you're gonna need someone with disposable cash to dispose it on over your way. I've had regulars send me money orders when I was too busy with final exams to work (I told them I lost my ID and to put it in my cousin's name, and have it be in someone's name who isn't traceable to me on fb or anything, like my boyfriend's grandma lol). I even had a regular of mine who was a Dr write me a xanax script (for that I had to tell this particular one my name, and he wasn't a creepy guy). This also happened to be around finals time and I was so stressed I was having another one of my multiple day anxiety attacks. But since he was a regular we'd talked a lot and he knew about my anxiety. So that was pretty clutch.
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I love regulars. :)
I can handle an overbearing regular much easier than a creepy or disrespectful newbie.
Also very nervous with new customers, so sitting with a regular can be comforting.
Regulars are not forever.
Sometimes so many of my regulars show up at the same time - I have to seat them in couches lined next to each other and have them wait in line for lap dances. Immature ones don't like it and bail but others shake their heads and simply go for the ride. Kinda works out by itself.
My dancer friend is nervous like me with new customers. But she dislikes regulars because of exactly the reasons in this thread. It starts with company and dance - but leads to intimacy and from there to entitlement and expectation for sex. She cares too much about not meeting the expectations of her regular customer where in fact she should be caring about herself. Best advice I got on this site was "We are in happy business. The quest for making people happy starts with making one self happy."