I suck at leading discussion - halp
Did my first camshow last night at the Armory for KinkLive! It was fun, buuuuut I was SO shy with speaking that I didn't do it until I was pressured by a $10 tribute LOL.
And even when I WAS talking, I was only really responding to what others were saying... How do I talk to silent people and engage them?!?!?
Also is it ok for me to type out sexual things instead of saying them aloud? The few people in my room said it was cute (because it was out of shyness) but I felt weird about it.
Re: I suck at leading discussion - halp
I tell people if they want to hang out in my room, they have to either talk or tip. It's free to talk! Start talking about things you enjoy. May that be film, games, sports, pets, or any other hobbies you have that can be relatable. Ask people what they did today. Talk about the weather. Or share a silly story. Avoid politics, religion, or any current events that are two sided.
If people are not talking to you, have a pretend conversation. I'm pretty sure custies can chat anonymously on KinkLive (someone correct me if I am wrong). So no one will ever know. If you don't know how. Practice a bit!
Re: I suck at leading discussion - halp
Ive struggled with this as well. I made a list of things to talk about and it's hanging behind my computer. on Kink I talk about my latest adventures at the BDSM parties I go to. I talk about my crazy drunk girl stories, I talk about funny things that have happened during sex, I talk about my favorite places to travel. I also talk about food, sports, and entertainment news. I avoid politicized news but celebrity gossip is usually safe. Anything, that's interesting. My recent motto has become "Boring is a sin". When I don't feel like talking I sing! Sometimes I sing rap music and it always impresses guys and makes them laugh because I'm kind of a girl next door white chick.
It's awkward at first. I'm super shy too and sometimes no matter what you say the Anons and lurkers just stare at you. I do like audritwo mentioned and tell them if they aren't tipping or talking they get booted.