"What's the Worst Thing That Could Happen?"
I've been tossing and turning in my mind over this matter constantly lately, and I really would love your advice/suggestions/opinions.
As some of you know, I was forced to give up my apartment recently (well, court ordered really). I got very ill a year ago, and couldn't work at all for a couple of months, and I never fully recovered financially from it. As a result, I'm in credit card debt, etc.
I am renting a room in someone's home. I've been here for 2 1/2 months. I never told the woman I'm renting from that I cam/do pso/clips, strip, etc., because I didn't think she would approve.
She told me that she works a full time job, so I really thought that I could cam when she's gone. However, she lied, ( as I did),and it turns out, that she really doesn't have to work,(deceased wealthy husband). She is home ALL the time!
She is over 60 years old, very, very conservative, nosey as can be, and watches my every move.
Recently, she has let a friend of hers move in also, and that woman is in the room that shares my common wall. Argh! She's home a lot too!
I know the first thought would be to just 'move out', but I don't have credit, and have an eviction on my record now. Plus, I don't have the extra money it would take to pay more to a landlord just to get into an apt. (I live where even a tiny studio, or guesthouse rents for $1400, and up).
Moving to another state is not anything I would consider. I already moved to the outskirts of the city I came from, and it's really as far as I'd like to be.) Everything else is cheaper here, so ideally, I would like to stay in the area.
The reality of the situation is that all of the dance gigs are in the city, so I don't have that income anymore. There are no physical cam studios out here, so that's out. I tried real life domme sessions, but men are too flakey, and it is just too scary to drive out to a stranger's home.
Since camming money seems to take longer to make these days, I would love to be able to put in the necessary hours it will take to make what I need each week.
I was out of town last week, staying at a hotel, and it was heaven to cam freely,(even thought he stream was crappy, and kept getting disconnected). I did pso loudly and with both, made really good money.
All of this to ask you ladies for objective solutions to how I can cam long hours again.
It's just a matter of time before she hears sexual noises, conversations coming from my room. (I don't want to tell her that I'm skyping with a boyfriend). I mean, for 8 hours? She's not that naïve.
I have already lost a lot of my regulars, because I can't speak up, and I shy away from doing the fetishes I am known for, which require a lot of talking.
I hope I am not rambling, but if I keep on camming the way I do, I'll NEVER be able to make enough money to get out of here.
If she thinks anything like camming/pso.etc. is going on in her house, I know she will have no problem throwing me out--(I'm on a month-to month lease). Even in the off chance she would be o.k. with it, she's the type to listen at my door.
Thank you so very much for Your input. I greatly appreciate it!:-*
Re: "What's the Worst Thing That Could Happen?"
one idea comes to mind ... Section 8 low income housing. Subsidized housing units will probably be more centrally located, which would potentially make it possible to start dancing again. Subsidized housing units won't care a whole lot about your credit rating or a ton of cash up front.
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^^Thank You Melonie! I am now on food stamps, and I was thinking about this very option a few days ago.
Plus, now that you brought that up, I can only continue to get food stamps if my income is as low as it has been the past 2 months, when I applied. )I used my camming pay stubs to show that my income is very low). Since that is a traceable record, I'm worried that I will lose those benefits.
I'm going to call my social worker tomorrow, and ask her how to apply.
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Melonie
one idea comes to mind ... Section 8 low income housing. Subsidized housing units will probably be more centrally located, which would potentially make it possible to start dancing again. Subsidized housing units won't care a whole lot about your credit rating or a ton of cash up front.
Section 8 takes like 3-5 years waiting list maybe even longer ive heard of 8 years.. Google low income housing... But even they have very long list prioritizing women in dv situation , handicapped people and women n children etc...but I think for the low income housing like 2 years
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I don't really know what to tell you..the only thing that comes to mind is maybe trying to find a another cam worker to room with..even that's a crap shoot cause you nvr know about someone til you live w/them
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I think maybe the best bet is maybe dance at nights.. Tell you roommate you work a regular job night shift save up to get your own place..or pso work you could do it from your car ..hmm or clips?
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^^thank you! I do clips, pso, and it all helps. I'm well over 40, and I don't think dancing in clubs would be an option. I did do very well with private party gigs, only because I had a name, and a belly dance strip style that was unique. My health is not that great, and there are some days that all I can do is sit.
I was thinking of applying to be ahousemom in the club,so maybe that's an option.
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Maybe you can make as many clips as you can while they're gone (or even quieter ones) and post them on C4S. I'm sorry its not a better suggestion. I want to help, but I don't know what else to say!
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^^^^thank you.i know. it has me baffled too.im a night owl so if anyone has any suggestions how to cam quietly while roomie is sleeping in the next room, ill do it. I tried doing the ole..my roomies slepping so i have to ge quiet routine,but they tell me theyll be back another time.they never come back.
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Maybe you should try to use sound absorbing sponges, could help..
Or a mic something like that http://youtu.be/byun8WG2y1U. You actually dont need to talk really loud.
You can also look up for a place with extended stay, something like "value place"
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An extended stay hotel would work well for you. I lived in an Affordable Suites for a year and cammed whenever I wanted. You can pay week to week or by the month. I paid $275/wk for the largest efficiency suite that had a kitchen, LR area and a queen bedroom. Went down to $240/wk if I paid by the month. Lighting was great, internet was decent most of the time. I was able to pick when maid service would come in so no one bothered me. Just don't leave your dildos and astroglide laying out in the open, lol. The only thing was I did keep my voice lower than usual cuz I was paranoid about somebody hearing me but all in all it was great. BTW....no deposit required, no credit needed, and no personal questions.
Good Luck to you girl!
Re: "What's the Worst Thing That Could Happen?"
An extended stay hotel would work well for you. I lived in an Affordable Suites for a year and cammed whenever I wanted. You can pay week to week or by the month. I paid $275/wk for the largest efficiency suite that had a kitchen, LR area and a queen bedroom. Went down to $240/wk if I paid by the month. Lighting was great, internet was decent most of the time. I was able to pick when maid service would come in so no one bothered me. Just don't leave your dildos and astroglide laying out in the open, lol. The only thing was I did keep my voice lower than usual cuz I was paranoid about somebody hearing me but all in all it was great. BTW....no deposit required, no credit needed, and no personal questions.
Good Luck to you girl!
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Do you think you can handle ASMR/whispering/soft sound fetish? I don't know how big the SM whisper crowd is, but worth a go maybe? (It freaks me out tbh, but some people luuurve it.)
http://www.thedailybeast.com/article...er-fetish.html
It has a category on C4S, too.
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If I were in your situation I'd start dancing again and cam without sound. I cammed without sound for years, at the time I made the same as what I made with sound. Then I'd look into Extended Stay Hotels like BadCompany suggested. I think ESH is a great idea and seems like the best option.
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^^^Thank you. Extended stay was the first option i looked into. Im one of those people that really loves hotel living,since i used to practicality live in them when i strip tripped.
All the ones ive looked at were $3000 and more per month, even out here in the subburbs. (Thats california, for ya).
I love that you cammed without sound for so long..Gives me hope. The whisper idea is awesome,because i do that a lot, and guys love it, because of my sultry voice,as they tell me all of the time. I used to have a sort of 'contest' with my custies, where i would bet them that i could make them cum by just usung my voice. It worked.....everytime!
I just have seem to been getting the guys who want me to scream out their name, so from now on i will tell them that my whisper will get them off.
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A private owner rental may be an option. When I first moved to the city I am in, I posted myself on Craigslist explaining my situation (that I was moving to a new city,unemployed, but had savings). Which in reality I was camming, of course. Included a pic of myself (people judge a lot by looks). I got back a ton of responses from private owners (and some trolls lol) that really just needed help paying their mortgages, or just additional income on 2nd or 3rd properties. Makes sense than to keep pulling out of their own pockets.I actually scored a 1 bedroom fully furnished condo for much less than a hotel would cost at the time ( I had checked that too). The condo was even in an upper class neighborhood.
Naturally, I was able to use the private owner as a reference going forward if I wanted to. So, that may help you for the future as well. I never considered Craigslist due to it being seedy sometimes, but my move date was coming quick. I was shocked that it worked! IDK if it will work for you, but it's an option. Private owners aren't always as rigid as a Management company would be, because they make their own rules for the most part. I've also seen privately owned condos listed on hotpads.com, there has to be other search engines similar out there too.
*Of course be careful with private owners, because there are scammers in the mix too. Im sure you know, but I wanted to warn anyone reading.*
I hope your situation improves quickly! I don't like having roommates at all.
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I'm camming for almost 8 years now and I have never used a microphone. I have days where I only make £60 and I have days where I make £400+.
When I first started camming and did not do domme stuff I always said I was still living at home and my parents were in and they didn't know about my naughty side and wanted me to be their little angel so no sound sorry guys.
It worked, they loved it and I banked big time.
Now I do domme stuff, even without sound I still make more than my monthly goals.
You could offer sound (tell them in pvt or exclusive only) and do very soft moans and act super suspicious like your roommate / parent can walk in at any time.
Might work just as well.
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BellaK
A private owner rental may be an option. When I first moved to the city I am in, I posted myself on Craigslist explaining my situation (that I was moving to a new city,unemployed, but had savings). Which in reality I was camming, of course. Included a pic of myself (people judge a lot by looks). I got back a ton of responses from private owners (and some trolls lol) that really just needed help paying their mortgages, or just additional income on 2nd or 3rd properties. Makes sense than to keep pulling out of their own pockets.I actually scored a 1 bedroom fully furnished condo for much less than a hotel would cost at the time ( I had checked that too). The condo was even in an upper class neighborhood.
Naturally, I was able to use the private owner as a reference going forward if I wanted to. So, that may help you for the future as well. I never considered Craigslist due to it being seedy sometimes, but my move date was coming quick. I was shocked that it worked! IDK if it will work for you, but it's an option. Private owners aren't always as rigid as a Management company would be, because they make their own rules for the most part. I've also seen privately owned condos listed on hotpads.com, there has to be other search engines similar out there too.
*Of course be careful with private owners, because there are scammers in the mix too. Im sure you know, but I wanted to warn anyone reading.*
I hope your situation improves quickly! I don't like having roommates at all.
I agree with this 100%. I only got into the house that I live in because the roommate chose me above all the other applicants because she said she likes me. She is the main person on the lease, so she convinced the landlord's agent that even though I had bad credit that he should let me move in.
So now that you posted this I guess it could also work in an apt. Sitch.