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Married women- keep it secret or tell?
Those of you who are married, do you keep it on the DL or do you let everyone know?
If you tell, the over-emotional clingers will stay away (I'd assume) but you may lose some customers due to the fantasy being killed.
If you keep it a secret, you get endless "WHY ARE YOU SINGLE??" "NEED A BF? I COULD BE HIM!" "MAYBE WE CAN MEET UP ONE DAY.." and stalkers abound.
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Tell and let it be known that this is only an online pay to play thing! Some would love it that you're married or taken because now you're more of a challenge. That's how fucked up they are, LOL!
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I'm not married but my whole gimmick is basically "I live with my bf and he doesn't know I'm in the other room doing this". (He's like 5ft away and checks up on my stream quality)
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mamabutt
Those of you who are married, do you keep it on the DL or do you let everyone know?
If you tell, the over-emotional clingers will stay away (I'd assume) but you may lose some customers due to the fantasy being killed.
If you keep it a secret, you get endless "WHY ARE YOU SINGLE??" "NEED A BF? I COULD BE HIM!" "MAYBE WE CAN MEET UP ONE DAY.." and stalkers abound.
They ask the questions and its up to us to reveal the answer
as far as anyone is concerned I am a single mom
Those questions are a simple money making hustle
Only a handful know the REAL deal and only 2 out of those know the REAL DEAL
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Honestly, the ones that get pissed are the ones that think they can do you in real life. I tell them I'm married. Take it or leave it.
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Whatever works! Make it scandalous. I say I live with a male roommate who doesn't know I have a penis all the time. Then they'll be like 'OMG, NO FUCKING WAY!'.
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Kaylee Fawkes
I'm not married but my whole gimmick is basically "I live with my bf and he doesn't know I'm in the other room doing this". (He's like 5ft away and checks up on my stream quality)
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I wear my rings and make zero effort to hide my marital status. I do a lot of cuckolding shows, which works out nicely! I am all about fulfilling fantasies, but I want to make sure that everyone involved knows that this is 100% NOT REALITY. I am not going to meet up with you, be your sugar baby, or be your girlfriend and I'm happy to tell that to anyone who asks.
The whole "girl next door" hustle always exhausted me anyway. I'd rather be the unattainable domme any day of the week.
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It wear my ring on the wrong finger all the time, because I like it better and fits better on my middle. If someone asks my relationship status, I'm honest. It hasn't effect my income. If they throw a fit, I remind them I'm poly.
Also lots of cuckholding here too. Chucking them or my husband. Lol.
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I tell them. I'm engaged soon to be married. I haven't anyone give me a hard time about it. I add that he shares me happily and it does help with cuckolding roleplay. My man swears he's not a cuck...LOL
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What exactly is cuckolding?
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JessRyan
I tell them. I'm engaged soon to be married. I haven't anyone give me a hard time about it. I add that he shares me happily and it does help with cuckolding roleplay. My man swears he's not a cuck...LOL
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Sharing your partner :D ^^
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I use to talk about my boyfriend all the time on cam. When I switched over to SM four years ago, I talked about him for maybe the first year. Then I stopped talking about it because the conversations were always the same annoying shit, people being whiny, needy, entitled, opinionated, nosy, rude. Like fuck off already I'm here to make money not explain my life situation to you or open up about personal info. If someone takes me exclusive I'll answer if they ask me but no details. Now I treat talking about him the same way I would about taking about anyone else in my family: none of your business. That's the other thing, once I say I have a bf then people want details.. What is he dick size, how long does he last, how often does he fuck you, what does he look like, does he know what you do, can he come online and fuck you now for me? OMFG would you like to fuck him instead of me because it sure sounds that way lol. My boyfriend couldn't care less what I say as long as it isn't private info. Whatever is good for business is fine with him, haha. He gave me a ring years ago, I always wear it on my middle finger so when I do have it on online no one asks about it.
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Amazing thread btw. I became engaged a week ago. I kinda knew it was coming but the moment was still a surprise. I wore my ring the first two days and got slammed with questions. Now I don't wear it at all. Not sure how I'm gonna go forward? Normally I say I'm single and ready to explore. But the ring is so nice and I love him. So not sure If I want to keep him quiet? We've done clips together. But on the other hand If I explain the rock on my finger I may get those tools wanting me to go get him, you know for shows. We aren't that sort of couple. He does what he does and I do me. I like having that duality and privacy. But I am weighing out the benefits to how wearing a ring on cam can be beneficial.
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Marina Starr
What exactly is cuckolding?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold
There is a wikipedia page for everything.
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I tell them married but I take off my rings. I say I'm looking for a boy on the side...all the fun, none of the commitment. :)
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I tell them I don't discuss that as it is irrelevant.
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Most of my shows revolve around me being a 'bad' wife. It helps to have a background to make up stories, cuckolding or cheating with a younger guy or whatever. I'm not actually married either but have a few rings to choose from if I feel like wearing one that day.
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I never lie. About anything. My regs love me for it. I'm married, I never fake an orgasm and I tell the absolute truth about what does and does not turn me on. Yep.. it drives people away, but my regulars are COOL as hell and I never have to pretend to be anything but what I am which makes me LOVE my job.
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I dont really wear my ring except when I go out. I dont exactly keep my marriage a secret. Anyone who has seen my interviews on line, radio or tv knows I have a husband but if they dont ask I dont tell and if they do ask I try to ignore the question or be vague.
I dont mind telling but since I talk a lot of guys into buying me gifts and stuff I prefer to let them believe whatever they want to believe. Amazingly most of these guys never ask.
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My husband is part of my cam work so there's no hiding him!
This though when were on cam together:
Viewer: Is that your husband?
Me: Yes
Viewer: Does he know you do this?
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FWIW I tell any custie who asks that I have a boyfriend. I don't. It's the perfect excuse--guys who just want to play online don't care, guys who want to meet up IRL or start some clingy emotional bullshit know not to bother. Those guys can be good money but I learned early on that they're more trouble than they're worth.
It's versatile, too--don't want to do anal on cam? Insist that you love it but your boyfriend won't let you do it on cam. That way you don't have to kill their fantasy of you loving anal, you can still talk about it like it's the hottest thing on the planet, but you don't have to stick anything up your butt. Everyone wins! A good reg starts contacting you a little too often, trying to strike up conversation without paying? Aww, sorry babe but my boyfriend doesn't like me getting too close to anyone outside of shows. Boom, problem solved.
Hell, I even use this in real life now. "Can I get your number?" "Sorry, my boyfriend doesn't like me giving my number out!" What are they going to say to that? I used to work in sales and we called this the husband objection. It's very, very hard to overcome--you're putting all of the responsibility of your "no" on someone who's not there (or in my case doesn't even exist), so there's no chance of changing their mind. This has worked out really well for me and I highly recommend it.
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Procrasturbator
Hell, I even use this in real life now. "Can I get your number?" "Sorry, my boyfriend doesn't like me giving my number out!" What are they going to say to that? I used to work in sales and we called this the husband objection. It's very, very hard to overcome--you're putting all of the responsibility of your "no" on someone who's not there (or in my case doesn't even exist), so there's no chance of changing their mind. This has worked out really well for me and I highly recommend it.
Expanding on that point, I read an article a while back regarding the strategy of fake rings/saying you're married when you aren't. The woman writing it (it was an opinion column) was frustrated, because she felt it perpetuated the patriarchal gender norms of women being property, as men would challenge a woman who says 'single, but not interested' and never question 'taken, sorry' because the girl was another man's 'property.'
Sucks in real life. Great on cam.
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I tell them I'm married, and that we're poly. Of course then they're like "oh cool! you are the best wife ever! your husband is so lucky! that means we can fuck then, right?"
We actually didn't get rings, so I don't wear any. I wear my collar proudly though. :)
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I say I'm single unless they are the annoying type and I know they are looking for more than "virtual" fun. Those annoying guys who think I'm obtainable are told quickly that I'm not. I'm pretty good at reading them. I find it annoying that they ask at all.
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Issabelle
Expanding on that point, I read an article a while back regarding the strategy of fake rings/saying you're married when you aren't. The woman writing it (it was an opinion column) was frustrated, because she felt it perpetuated the patriarchal gender norms of women being property, as men would challenge a woman who says 'single, but not interested' and never question 'taken, sorry' because the girl was another man's 'property.'
Sucks in real life. Great on cam.
I think I've read the same article! I do try as often as I can to avoid saying I belong to someone and I tend to get a little forceful if someone keeps pressing after I tell them, "It doesn't matter WHY, I said I'm not interested."