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rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
My boyfriend always makes comments that implies that he thinks my job is so easy, and that I do nothing all day! He doesn't realize there are long hours, physical and mental exhaustion, and many other not so fun things that go along with camming. When he gets home from work he says things like, "Can you make dinner? Unlike some people I had a long tiring day at work." It makes my blood boil, and also hurts my feelings!
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
Tell him to make a Chaturbate account and make him pay the bills as a cam boy. Don't forget to buy him huge anal toys.
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
Just what every girl wants, an asshole like all of the assholes she has to deal with all day. I'd be telling him he can pay his own bills at his own house while showing him the door. See how much he misses the money that you make sitting on your ass all day ;)
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Just smile and cook him some wonton soup every day when he's home from work with a few table spoons of Miralax powder. He'll stop asking you to cook in no time.
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
Doesn't sound like a very nice boyfriend. Maybe he's kidding a bit, maybe he just doesn't understand the real effort and how taxing it can be. Have an honest heart to heart with him, explain how really difficult it can be and how his comments hurt your feelings.
If things don't change, maybe it would be best to look for a more understanding partner. Never stay with someone who knowingly hurts your feelings.
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My ex husband use to do this to me all the time. It would really upset me - it was as if I got paid in Monopoly money to him but when we needed something paid or wanted something new my money/time/work became of value. Comments about how I just sit around all day so he couldn't understand why I didn't have dinner done or some house hold chore finished, he would make it sound like I was just lazy. Eventually I started working with him actually there so he can see what I was doing, what I deal with and I started telling him EVERYTHING I dealt with when it came to this job. After YEARS of defending what I did as a real profession that takes a lot out of you I realized men like that won't ever truly get it. I met someone who understood and repected how much effort I put into this and it felt great to be validated. The amount of time you spend with someone does not mean they understand you any better then someone you just met - life lesson.
Even up to the day I asked for a divorce I would hear how lazy I was and in the same hand hear about how I was working (on my laptop) to much - it would drive me CRAZY. I would legit scream at him "DO YOU WANT MONEY OR NAW!" lol
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
That's totally wrong of him to belittle your work. A lot of guys are under the impression that they work way harder than their SO's and women in general when they really don't. I would honestly kick his ass right out the door and tell him he can come back when he learns some respect.
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
Men can be intimidated by women who make more money, but those "men" are not "men," but only boys. He is lowering your self-esteem to make him feel better. Not cool. Don't put up with that! My boyfriend isn't perfect, but he has tried camming with me and has tried being a cam boy. He made $10/hour = $100 that week. ;) It was too hard for him. haha
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It's not just about men and camming. I worked from home at a vanilla job back when I lived with my family and used to hear the "How come you couldn't clean up/make dinner/whatever, you sit at home all day" song every day. So it's just a sort of a common stereotype where "out at the office" = "at work" and "at home" = "not at work".
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OP, sorry to be so blunt but your BF is a fucking asshole. You deserve a million times better than him.
And it's not just boyfriends, my roommate is always giving me snide comments about how I'm home all day so why didn't I do all this and that. Like, I'm just laying around doing nothing all day.
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
Your boyfriend is home alone with you making you cook. That is Exclusive rates, say 10 to 15 dollars a min just grab his credit card and start spending as he owes you. When you explain the bill to him at the end of the month Im sure he will understand.
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
Just the other day I had a friend who knows I cam ask me "so what do you do all day?"
Not only do I cam, but I also clean, work out, and cook gourmet dinners all the time. Even if you didn't work, people shouldn't say that shit to you. However, someone needs to cook dinner and it's important to spend quality time with your SO. So if both your jobs are too stressful for that, maybe cut back on your hours?
Still, your bf sounds like a total douche canoe.
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Ugh, I know what you mean. My boyfriend and I are both self employed and both work from home. I earn twice what he does, and yet for some reason he doesn't do the housework because he's busy working. Clearly my job isn't as significant or as difficult so I can do both. I hate it.
Fuck him. He knows how hard I work, I just think it's a male entitlement issue of "my job is more important because I'm the man" even though I brought home £50k+ last year.
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It is really sad what an imprint abusers leave on us. I can still hear my ex from 15 yrs ago harping on me about EVERYTHING .. Nothing I did was right.. the day he left I could breathe again. I didn't even bother to want or try to get him back. I let him go.. But here I sit 15 yrs later and if I don't clean up the dishes right after I eat.. I hear him bitching at me.. I actually will clean them up now after I eat instead of resting a bit..LOL.. just the lil things. It haunts me and I wish it would go away. Not to mention all the other abusive people I ever met in my life. But he made a big impression on me and not in a good way.
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
Couples that cook & clean together are happier. Isn't your JOB to feed him, he is a full grown man capable of feeding himself. All house work, cooking and shopping should be divided up equally. Why should the females do all the cooking, cleaning & shopping yet hold down a job and pay half the bills?
Next time he demands dinner & puts you down. Get out a pot & a bag of ramen noodles, then leave the house & treat yourself to a nice dinner & a drink. Don't forget to take selfies of it too & post on social media of having a good time out. Pretty soon, he will get the message you are a girlfriend, NOT the maid or full time chef.
Smooches,
Sam
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
Yes honey every thread needs some Tom Hardy in it. Yes Lawd
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Originally Posted by
Marina Starr
Just smile and cook him some wonton soup every day when he's home from work with a few table spoons of Miralax powder. He'll stop asking you to cook in no time.
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
My husband said this once to me after a stressful day of work for him. I fucking tore into him. Have never heard it ever again.
Tell him how it makes you feel. Show him how it makes you feel. Show him the pain it causes you. Cry, yell, scream. Show your true emotion. He should physically see how this hurts you. YOU ARE HIS PARTNER. He should see you as equal. If not, leave him. If he isn't going to respect your work, how on earth is he going to fully respect you?
Just because our jobs aren't conventional doesn't mean it isn't hard, or literally back breaking work. I fucking dislocated my shoulder once by fucking myself doggy. My kneeis on a constant 7 pain level because I'm constantly on them. My self confidence in the way I look is always teeter tottering (that is fucking mind numbing). Sometimes my fucking face hurts from force smiling too much. And the best, sometimes you can't have normal sex with your partner because you had x amount of shows where you fucked yourself more then normal. AND IT HURTS.
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I was reading this again at Starbucks this morning and I was screaming and cackling. Got some major side eye but I gave zero fucks. They would have laugh too if they knew!
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hyori
Tell him to make a Chaturbate account and make him pay the bills as a cam boy. Don't forget to buy him huge anal toys.
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
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Originally Posted by
audritwo
My husband said this once to me after a stressful day of work for him. I fucking tore into him. Have never heard it ever again.
Tell him how it makes you feel. Show him how it makes you feel. Show him the pain it causes you. Cry, yell, scream. Show your true emotion. He should physically see how this hurts you. YOU ARE HIS PARTNER. He should see you as equal. If not, leave him. If he isn't going to respect your work, how on earth is he going to fully respect you?
Just because our jobs aren't conventional doesn't mean it isn't hard, or literally back breaking work. I fucking dislocated my shoulder once by fucking myself doggy. My kneeis on a constant 7 pain level because I'm constantly on them. My self confidence in the way I look is always teeter tottering (that is fucking mind numbing). Sometimes my fucking face hurts from force smiling too much. And the best, sometimes you can't have normal sex with your partner because you had x amount of shows where you fucked yourself more then normal. AND IT HURTS.
I really agree with this, except for the part about yelling and screaming. If you need to yell and scream to get your emotions across, he's probably not the right partner for you.
I know we all raise our voice sometimes, but I think advocating for doing so is not a good idea and can lead to unhealthy relationship-habits.
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
Next time laugh... Throws their game off. Being a girlfriend or wife didn't automatically turn you into the line cook or maid. Laugh & keep doing what you were doing.
Feel no guilt what-so-ever. I get why Autrowrit did what she did, to establish boundaries. I laugh or give a look that makes them never do that again. Why do men get a pass on housework, cooking & shopping? LAZY....
If he wants a linecook to prepare his meals when he wants, then tell him to hire one. :) Otherwise, you are busy. No need to justify your job or your day at all.
Smooches,
Sam
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
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hyori
Tell him to make a Chaturbate account and make him pay the bills as a cam boy. Don't forget to buy him huge anal toys.
Can I have your marvelously sassy babies? Your one liners are so amazing all the time.
Also, for real though, get rid of that bf as soon as possible. The truth is that being a camgirl, it will be hard to find a guy that will stick with you and accept what you do as well as be a good partner. Many men feel that because you entertain other dudes all day, they are entitled to getting more than just the normal stuff from you. Not so.
I've remained resolutely single for the last 3 years because I don't have time for idiots with this type of mentality at all. But, sadly, most of the world will think you are lazy if you don't have an office job. That's ok. You can totally be "lazy" from your paid off house, car and whatever else camming affords you that their shitty little office jobs do not.
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
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Sunnylexie
It's not just about men and camming. I worked from home at a vanilla job back when I lived with my family and used to hear the "How come you couldn't clean up/make dinner/whatever, you sit at home all day" song every day. So it's just a sort of a common stereotype where "out at the office" = "at work" and "at home" = "not at work".
VERY true. My asshole ex husband used to pull that crap when I worked my ass off at home 50 hours a week typing medical reports for hospitals.
So glad I got rid of that idiot!
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
Oh yes, my husband thinks I am at home all day doing nothing. Hello! I am working...just like he is...and now I make more money than he does. Yet he still refuses to help me do house work. I do it all!
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Funny thing about the "real" office/ out of the house type jobs is that so many guys are hardly working I mean if I had a $1 from every guy that visited a cam/porn site from work... *drools at my imaginary pool of money*.
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Re: rant: my boyfriend thinks I sit around and do nothing all day!! :(
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Susperia
Oh yes, my husband thinks I am at home all day doing nothing. Hello! I am working...just like he is...and now I make more money than he does. Yet he still refuses to help me do house work. I do it all!
Why do you do it? Why is it your job? Why did you put up with that in the first place? Stop cooking for him. Stop doing his laundry & buying the groceries. Why are you his maid?
It isn't a matter of who makes more money, it is a matter of happiness as a couple. Obviously you resent him putting 100% of the house work on you.
Honestly, I fail to understand why females in a relationship become the maid, cook and personal assistant? Why do ya'll let men off so easily? Men work an 8 hour day and generally NO MORE!
"Selfish people LIVE LONGER!" Nickie minaj https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b0ByH_zWUls