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My husband started modeling and I am Not okay with it even though I am a model.
So the title speaks for itself.
I have been camming for a year, my husband has dabbled and we're moving to California tomorrow to start a life together.
I have been feeling insecure lately about him and I and it's driving me CRAZY thinking MY man is going to cam to cam with other women and cum for them as well as enjoying it.
I know I am a model but I just am not okay with him doing this and it's really been bothering me. Especially since he has to cam for us to live.
What do I do? I can't sleep and these thoughts are making me want to break down and cry.
I love my husband and I want him to myself and I don't want anyone else to see him naked :(
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Re: My husband started modeling and I am Not okay with it even though I am a model.
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Originally Posted by
illuminaughty
MY man is going to cam to cam with other women and cum for them as well as enjoying it.
I'm pretty sure your man is going to cam and cum for gay men. Not sure if that makes you feel better or worse.
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Re: My husband started modeling and I am Not okay with it even though I am a model.
On my, you are delusional to think he is mainly camming for other females. 99% of the people paying him to jack off will be MEN! There are plenty of men who FOR free on EVERY SINGLE social media out there who will cam for free for females.
Ladies do NOT log on to cam sites looking for a guy to jack off to or with. NOr do they log onto cam sites searching for a man to fuck, date or hook up with. If you are a female, throw up any pic on social media,there will be men begging you for sex. Not to mention apps like Tindr.
Hot chics logging onto cam sites pay whatever per minute to jack off to him..... Sorry, I haven't seen cam companies marketing to that demographic on the web. In fact, for over 20 years porn hasn't figured out yet how to get females to spend money on porn in any significant way. But maybe your hubby is so hot he is a game changer.
Now, if he dabbles for the other team, then you might have some worries. Did you marry a cheater? I am sure plenty people before ya'll got married saw him naked. It's life. Tell me, how many dick pics does he have on his phone? I don't mean of other men, but his own? Men love to take pics of their dicks & put it out on the web all the time for FREE! So crazy to think you are the only one who sees him naked at this point. My point being the cat aka dick is out of the bag. lol
Don't ya'll cam in the same house? Why aren't ya'll doing couple's shows? Now, if ya'll share anal toys you might even make more money.
Hope you take all that I wrote in a joking way, but I do think you are blowing it out of proportion, big time.
Sam
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Re: My husband started modeling and I am Not okay with it even though I am a model.
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Originally Posted by
illuminaughty
I have been feeling insecure lately about him and I and it's driving me CRAZY thinking MY man is going to cam to cam with other women and cum for them as well as enjoying it. (
I laughed so hard when I saw this. Im still laughing.... I need a a good GIF here that expresses how funny this is.
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Re: My husband started modeling and I am Not okay with it even though I am a model.
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I just want to know one thing. Does your husband also think he will be preforming for women?
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You are being hypocritical about this. Why is it okay for you and not for him? If you both think it's just women he's going to be performing for, wow. Most cam guys are gay for pay, because the demographic is mostly made of men.
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^^^ THIS! Hypocrisy big time! Seriously, u cant sleep cause of this?!!? Ever wondered how can HE sleep knowing loads of men see u naked & enjoy u getting naughty with them? HA!
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Although I personally wouldn't feel the way the OP does, I think there is a subtle difference which we are missing. In order to perform guys are required to genuinely cum, which involves a certain level of excitement/enjoyment etc. Whereas women can perform without genuinely enjoying it.
The truth is, men get off to things other than their gf/wife/partner whatever every single day. There isn't a lot of point in getting uptight about it.
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My male partner also cams on and off. We spend the money on fun things together, and honestly? He's had maybe two female customers over the entire time. *I* get more females than him.
It's never bugged me for a second, I'm just mindful if he's been camming he probably needs a break. The thing is, if I can't trust him to do work without running away with some other woman/man; why would I be with him?
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I think you are being immature. You are acting as if someone breaks through the computer screen and fucks your husband. What if the script was flipped?
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I love the male models that say they won't perform for men!
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Originally Posted by
Thymian
I'm pretty sure your man is going to cam and cum for gay men. Not sure if that makes you feel better or worse.
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Again, let him make a Chaturbate account and get big anal toys because all the "women" will only want the big 'uns. When he runs into your arms crying from the pain, your man will be yours again.
If your man doesn't run back to you then girl, he was Brokeback Mountain all along and this is your wake up call.
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My boyfriend is a former camboy. He performed with a girl as a couple, because he is straight and would not perform for gay men. We still record some videos together and do Skype shows occasionally for my regulars. Jealousy is not an issue in our relationship. He knows the industry and does not feel threatened by my custies. We are currently long distance, but I will move in with him in 6 weeks.
You could do couples shows, too. I don't think your husband will make any buck as a straight single performer anyway, because as the other ladies said there are virtually no female custies.
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As a woman, I like watching men jerk off. When I look for porn during my off camera times I look for solo jerk off videos. I TRIED to go to a cam site to watch, oh lawd it was so incredibly boring for me. Definitely not for me.
My S/O did some solo cam time when I didn't feel like camming (not because he wanted to, he actually hated it!) and 100% of his tippers were gay men. He had some of our female regulars tip him as well, but they never stuck around for the shows, a lot of the women were more into me than they were him :P His entire clientele was gay or bisexual men.
If your husband thinks he's going to have a lot of beautiful women buying his shows then he is very wrong.
If he is against camming for men, then he's not going to make any money at all.
If YOU think he's going to have a bunch of beautiful women wanting to show off for him while he does shows then you are positootly wrong. That's just not going to happen and if you feel like he is going to want to leave you for another girl on cam then you've got a lot of self esteem issues.
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Re: My husband started modeling and I am Not okay with it even though I am a model.
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Originally Posted by
BritishBecky
I think there is a subtle difference which we are missing. In order to perform guys are required to genuinely cum, which involves a certain level of excitement/enjoyment etc.
Firstly most male models rarely cum cause they cant cum all day. And that same guy could be actually screwing you and cum cause he is fantasizing about another situation. The point being that just because he cums it doesnt mean its for the person who's paying him.
Second, and most important, this is a bunch of whiny bullshit! The OP is jealous. Jealousy is an emotion that takes over when people with low self esteem issues start to fantasize about worst case scenarios (or best case scenarios that they arent a part of.)
She comes to a forum where ladies often support others who are dealing with Jealous partners who cant handle the fact that they make money (sometime a lot of money) doing this job and she what? Expects were going to rally behind her jealous little hissy fit and tell her he is an asshole? Um no, this girl doesnt love herself and she needs to step up and work on that issue cause without love for yourself you do stupid things like imagine hundreds of hot chicks paying for your man to wank for them and even lose sleep over it.
LOL I laugh again as I type this, still so funny that she thought women were going to pay for her man! :D
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Re: My husband started modeling and I am Not okay with it even though I am a model.
So your imagination ran off for a bit, it is life.
Sam
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When I'm horny, I don't seek out male cam models. I go to XVideos to find a clip I like, and let Mr. Vibrator take me to ecstasy. :P
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While I think all the points in this thread are quite valid, I was surprised at the tone of the replies. As we all know, on the internet it's easy to forget that people we're speaking to are human beings with feelings. The OP admitted to feeling insecure, admitted that her feelings are hypocritical. I think all the same things could have been said with a little more love & understanding. I think we've all felt uncertainty before, especially when we're about to embark upon a big life change (like moving to another state with a boyfriend), and we've all experienced jealousy before & struggled with feelings that we know aren't "right" but we just need some help working through them.
OP, they're right... your man will be camming for 95% men. My man cammed for a while & almost all the viewers were men (and most were SUPER cheap or wouldn't spend.) And as for having to be erect while working... well, he's going to have to be a good actor. He will have to pretend to be very aroused on cam just like you have to pretend. He's going to have to tell himself anything that will get him hard so he can make money. That means that he WILL have to be aroused on cam. You'll never know what he's actually thinking about when he's jerking off for them, and it's not your right to know. But if you want him to trust you with your male customers, you're going to have to work through the jealousy & think of him as you want him to think of you.
Good luck, and I hope it works out for you two.
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Re: My husband started modeling and I am Not okay with it even though I am a model.
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Originally Posted by
DeepThoughts
Firstly most male models rarely cum cause they cant cum all day. And that same guy could be actually screwing you and cum cause he is fantasizing about another situation. The point being that just because he cums it doesnt mean its for the person who's paying him.
Second, and most important, this is a bunch of whiny bullshit! The OP is jealous. Jealousy is an emotion that takes over when people with low self esteem issues start to fantasize about worst case scenarios (or best case scenarios that they arent a part of.)
She comes to a forum where ladies often support others who are dealing with Jealous partners who cant handle the fact that they make money (sometime a lot of money) doing this job and she what? Expects were going to rally behind her jealous little hissy fit and tell her he is an asshole? Um no, this girl doesnt love herself and she needs to step up and work on that issue cause without love for yourself you do stupid things like imagine hundreds of hot chicks paying for your man to wank for them and even lose sleep over it.
LOL I laugh again as I type this, still so funny that she thought women were going to pay for her man! :D
My reading of the OP was that she was aware she was being insecure and irrational and is seeking ways to get over that / deal with it / improve her attitude. I disagree with her attitude but don't think we should bash her.
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Well yes I was harsh.......and now I feel badly. Deep down I am a nice person I jumped to a lot of conclusions here and I am sorry for undermining her feelings. I want to apologize to the OP and everyone else for not having written what I want to say with more concern. Her feelings are valid and perhaps I can offer some advice in place of my judgement.
Have you considered setting up a couples account and camming together? I find that these, when given more sparingly can generate a large flow of extra income and then you would know that its just him and you making up your own rules doing this together.
Again I am sorry for my harsh tone I will not make excuses for it because it was wrong of me.
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Group hug!! :D BTW @Deep if you are who I think you are then you were actually in my dream the night before last - we had a lovely chat :)
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Re: My husband started modeling and I am Not okay with it even though I am a model.
OmG Dreams of me are not free! How long was I a feature? I will send you the bill ;)
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I need to say something. I see nothing wrong with being "harsh" as long as there's no malice of intent. It's all in the intent. Sometimes a little tough love is needed.
OP-Your husband doesn't have to cam, there are other jobs. Have an open heart discussion with him and let him know what's bothering you if you haven't done so. Someone that loves and cares about you, wouldn't do something that would cause your pain. That's my two cents.
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Have you talked to male cam performers? I know a few of the male performers from SM and Flirt4Free have Twitters. Most of their customers are men, not women. I find it odd as a cam performer yourself, you have issues with him doing the same thing. You could always do couple shows, that might make you feel better.
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Originally Posted by
illuminaughty
So the title speaks for itself.
I have been camming for a year, my husband has dabbled and we're moving to California tomorrow to start a life together.
I have been feeling insecure lately about him and I and it's driving me CRAZY thinking MY man is going to cam to cam with other women and cum for them as well as enjoying it.
I know I am a model but I just am not okay with him doing this and it's really been bothering me. Especially since he has to cam for us to live.
What do I do? I can't sleep and these thoughts are making me want to break down and cry.
I love my husband and I want him to myself and I don't want anyone else to see him naked :(